BOY AND GIRL’S DISCUSSION ABOUT MARRIAGE -BOY ASKS HER GIRL FRIEND THAT IT IS TIME FOR US TO GET MARRIED -THE GIRL IN REPLY SAYS WHAT IS THE NEED FOR MARRIAGE WE ARE ENJOYING OUR LIFE AS WE ARE -BOY SAYS NEEDLESS TO SAY THAT WE ALL AT SOME STAGE OR OTHER WANT TO GET MARRIED AND SETTLE DOWN IN LIFE -GIRL ASKS THE BOY WHAT FOR, HAVE YOU EVER THOUGH OVER IT -MARRIAGE CREATES ALL TYPES OF PROBLEMS, BETWEEN FAMILIES, MOTHER IN-LAW IS MOST PROBLEMTIC, WE ARE CHECKMATED TO IN EACH AND EVERY STEP IN OUR VIEWSPOINTS AND DECISIONS AS WELL -WE ARE NOW LIVING ON OUR OWN AND ARE ENJOY OUR FULL FREEDOM -WHY SHOULD WE SACRIFICE OUR FREEDOM, SELF DIGNITY, AND LOSS OF LIBERTY, WHAT FOR -THE BOY SAYS GENERALLY PARENTS PUT PRESSURE ON THEIR CHILDREN TO GET MARRIED, SO THAT THEY CAN ENJOY WITH THEIR GRAND CHILDREN, AND ALSO WHATEVER THEY EARN DURING THEIR LIFE TIME, THEY WANT TO LEAVE TO THEIR CHILDREN AND NONE ELSE -BESIDES THAT, CHILDREN TURN THEIR LOVE, CARE, STILL THE PARENTS DO BELIEVE THAT THEIR NAME AND GENERATION WILL CONTINUE AS OTHERWISE WHEN THEY WIL; BE NO MORE, NO ONE WILL CONTINUE THEIR NAME AND THEY WILL BE FORGOTTEN FOR EVER. -THE GIRL SAYS, I DO AGREE THAT WE DO CARE FOR OUR PARENTS BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE LOSE ALL OUR FREEDOM, ENJOYMENT AND INSTEAD OWN RESPONSIBILITIES, DO ALL SACRIFICES, WHAT FOR -IF WE THINK THAT OUR CHILDREN TAKE CARE OF US, WHICH GENERALLY DOES NOT HAPPEN, EVEN IF IT HAPPENS, WE DO NOT KNOW WHERE THEY WILL GET SETTLED, HOW WILL BE THEIR OWN LIFE AND HOW MANY PROBLEMS THEY WILL BE HAVING FOR WORK, PROGRESS, IN THEIR OWN FAMILY, WITH THEIR CHILDREN ETC. ETC. -I THINK ALL THESE ARE DREAMS AND WISHES THAT OUR CHILDREN WILL BE OUR LOVE AND SECURITY FOR OUR OLD AGE -ALL THESE ARE ILLUSIONS, RARELY IT HAPPENS, MOSTLY THE PARENTS AND CHILDREN END UP IN CONFLICTS AND THE CHILDREN TURN AGAINST EACH OTHER FOR DISCRIMINATION BY THEIR PARENTS IN THEIR BEHAVIOUR, LOVE, DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS ETC.ETC. -DO YOU THINK IT IS WORTH TO SACRIFICE ALL OUR FREEDOM AND ENJOYMENT AND IN TURN, REMAIN ALL THE TIME ENGAGED IN CONFLICTS OF ALL TYPES AND IN STUGGLE AND RESPONSIBILITIES FOR OUR CHILDREN, PARENTS, IN-LAWS ETC. ETC. -DO YOU NOT THINK IT WILL BE BETTER THAT WE ENJOY OUR LIFE AND AT THE SAME TIME ASSIST OUR PARENTS FINANCIALLY AND BY FREQUENT VISITS ETC. ETC. -THE BOY SAYS YOU ARE RIGHT BUT I AM NOT CONVINCED WHETHER OUR LIFE BY LIVING IN THIS CONDITION AND RELATIONSHIP WILL BE BETTER OR TO GET MARRIED WE WILL BE BETTER OFF -THE BOY SAYS EVEN IF I AGREE WITH YOU, WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN WE WILL GET OLD -THE GIRL SAYS WHEN WE HAVE MEANS, ASSETS AND FIANCIAL BACKING, EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE, HALPING HANDS CAN BE TAKEN, OLD HOUSES EXIST, MANY ASSOCATIONS EXIST, MAY PRAYER RESIDENCES LIKE DHARAMSHALAS EXIST TO LIVE WITH MANY OTHERS TO LIVE OUR LIFE IN COMPANY AND PERHAPS IN ENJOYMENT -IN EXTREME, WHEN WE DIE WHETHER WE ARE TAKEN BY OUR CHILDREN TO THE FUNERAL OR BY THE GOVERNMENT, WHAT DIFFERENCE IT MAKES WHEN WE ARE DEAD, END IS ALMOST THE SAME -PLEASE DO THINK OVER SERIOUSLY WHAT I AM SAYING WHILE I BELIEVE IT THAT IS BETTER TO LIVE AS WE ARE LIVING AND ENJOYING MOW THAN GETTING MARRIED -IF AT AND IF EVER WE GET MARRIED,I BELIEVE THAT RECALL OF OUR PRESENT HAPPINESS IN THE UNKNOWN CIRCUMSTANCES BY LIVING WITH THEIR SOULMATES AND THEIR FAMILIES, HOW THEY WILL BEHAVE, WHETHER WE WILL BE COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO FORGET OUR PRESENT LIFE RELATIONSHIP, FREEDOM AND ENJOYMENT ETC., I DOUBT IT VERY MUCH BY ALL MY REFLECTION. -THE GIRL ABRUPTLY TELLS THE BOY IS IT NOT TRUE THAT YOU ARE THINKING OF MARRIAGE TO OVERTAKE OUR LOVE -THE BOYS NOT AT ALL, NEVER THINK IT EVER, OUR LOVE SEES NO BOUNDS AND IT IS LIFE LONG -THEN GIRL SAYS IF THINK AND SAY SO, HOW DO YOU THINK THAT BY GETTING MARRIED WITH SOMEONE ELSE, THIS LOVE WILL CONTINUE -FURTHER I MAY TELL YOU THAT IF ONE AFTER ONE AFTER GETTING MARRIED DOES NOT LOVER HER SOULMATE AND THINKS OF THE PAST, ONE DOES AND WILL LOSE ALL CHARM OF LIVE AND HAPPINESS, PERHAPS AT THAT TIME THE PRESENT LOVER OR BELIEVED OURLD HAVE GOT MARRIED AND SETTLED SOMEHERE ELSE -IF EVER SUCH A SITUATION HAPPENS, ALL PRESENT AND FUTURE WILL BE LOST FOR EVER IN REGRETS AND REPENTANCE -THE GIRL SAYS IT IS BETTER THAT LIVE THE LIFE AS WE ARE LIVING AND ENJOYING THAN EVER THINK OF GETTING MARRIED -FURTHER WHEN WE FEEL THE URGE AND COMPULSION OF CIRUMSTANCES DUE TO AGE ETC THEN WE CAN GO IN FOR LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND IN THAT SITUATION WE WILL COMPLETE ALL THE NEEDS OF MARRIAGE EXCEPT THAT WE WILL HAVE NONE TO LEAVE WHEATEVER WE WOULD HAVE SAVED -WE BOTH WILL LIVE ALMOST IN THE SAME MANNER DEPENDENT ON EACH OTHER IN THE SAME MANNER AS IN MARRIED LIFE HUSBAND AND WIFE LIVE -FURTHER ONE DOES NOT KNOW, WHO WILL PASS OFF EARLIER THAN THE OTHER, SO ALSO IT HAPPENS IN THE CASE OF MARRIED LIFE AS WELL. -FINALLY BOTH FEEL CONVINCED TRULY OR BY COMPULSION, THEY DO NOT GET MARRIED AND DECIDE TO LIVE THEIR LIFE AS AT PRESENT. In conclusion, they maybe and perhaps are right in their thinking, but in reality we love to live in the society, to have our own family, have our children to share love, relationships and be helping hand in case of difficult and unbearable circumstances. Further when those who are not married, they do do not wish to be in the company and also on occasions of various functions of togetherness in fear that they will be mostly criticized and will mostly feel awkward. Living in the form of boy and girl friend relationship and/or in live-in arrangement, I think it is a loose combination of interests to get broken any time even on small issues, which never happens in the married life, life in general is spent in love, dependence, sharing and caring, and most important, in total confidence of each other to share all types of sufferings, secrets, decision taking, and enjoy the company and comfort of each other. One must remember that in life nothing is perfect, each action and decision has its pros and cons, we go by the beneficial ones and ignore or leave the unimportant ones to face when that situation will arise. DESPITE ALL ADVANTAGES AS CITED ABOVE, there are some flaws and drawbacks in the marriage Institution as it generally happens in all cases after some time and by change of circumstances. Hence these flaws can be avoided by 1. Living in micro unit to avoid conflict with husband’s Family members 2. there is no interference from anyone else except to discuss, perhaps clash and sort out their differences together 3. Dowry which had been and is still but in a lessor manner when the couple decides to live in micro unit 4. caring, sharing, understanding develop quickly by living in micro unit -another most difficult issue is about distribution of assets which could be avoided by declaring in marriage contract that both agree and willinly accept SEPARATION OF ASSETS WHICH MEANS EACH WILL KEEP TO HIM/HERSELF WHATEVER COMES FROM EACH ONE’S PARENTS EXCEPT THAT WHATEVER THEY EARN AND/OR SAVE TOGETHER WILL BE THEIR JOINT POOL, if ever there happens the situation to divorce, 3rd factor which is getting current is love marriage and/or even in social marriage, parrents allow both aspirants to meet each other, sort out almost all issue before the the marriage is consent and takes place, as such both aspirants get used to the nature and habits of each one’s in-laws and also when the girl steps into husband’s house, she is accepted as the one already known member and not as a stranger at all. Hence most of the issues of conflicts get mitigated and/or settled in advance. FURTHER IT IS SAID THAT THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY WHEN THERE IS A WILL. In short and in brief, marriage institution is the best provided the parents change themselves to the changed conditions and do sort out whatever drawbacks exist in the marriage institution MESSAGE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE IS UNIQUE FOR REASONS:- 1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM 2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS. 3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA 4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs NOR AFTERWARD 5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS, IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY. 6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES. 7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK. 8. 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