STATUS AND COMFORTS ARE MOST IMPORTANT IN LIFE, BUT NOT AS IMPORTANT AS FAMILY LIFE, IS IT TRUE, IS THE REAL QUESTION TO BE ANSWERED. -IT IS GENERALLY SAID AND TRUE ALSO THAT TO ACHIEVE A SUCCESS, IT IS ESSENTIAL TO HAVE A HAPPY RATHER THE HAPPIEST FAMILY LIFE. -THESE ARE RELATIONS BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE, THE THE BEST AND HAPPIER THESE ARE, THE MORE ONE GETS WORRILESS AND MOTIVATED TO REACH SUCCESS AND ON THE CONRARY WHEN ONE IS DISTURBED AT HOUSE, IN ALL PROBABILITY HE/SHE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO CONCENTRATE IN WORK WHICH WILL AFFECT NOT ONLY HIS/HER FUTURE BUT COULD AFFECT HIS PRESENT WORK AND THE SITUATION ONE IS HOLDING. -THERE IS NO DOUBT EVERYONE WANTS TO HAVE A HAPPIER LIFE AT HOME, BUT MANY FAIL BUT WILL NEVER ENDORSE THE BLAME TO HIMSELF OR HERSELF. -IT IS HUMAN NATURE IN GENERAL THAT PRACTICALLY NO ONE WILL ACCEPT HE/SHE IS AT FAULT, RATHER INSTEAD JUMP ON TO BLAME OTHERS AS IT IS EASIER TO WASH OFF THE FAULT/ RESPONSIBIITY AND BE FREE FROM ACCOUNTABILITY, IF ANY. ALAS SUCH PERSONS DO NOT KNOW OR INTENTIONALLY NOT OWN THE BLAME, IN ORDER PERHAPS TO AVOID THE PUNISHMENT BUT DO NOT REALISE THAT WHEN ONE BLAMES ONESELF ONE DOES GET INTO THE CAUSES AND CIRCUMSTANCES AS TO HOW SUCH A HAPPENING HAS TAKEN PLACE AND THUS HEREAFTER LOOK TO THE SOLUTION IN ORDER TO PLUG THAT SUCH OR SIMILAR SITUATION DOES NOT HAPPEN AGAIN. -THERE IS NO DOUBT HARDLY VERY FEW ARE THE LUCKIEST ONES WHO FIND THEIR PARTNERS WHO ARE COMPATIBLE AND SMOOTHER TO LIVE ALONG AND LEAD A HAPPIER LIFE. TRUE ONE MAY CALL IT A LUCK OR HIS/HER SELECTION BUT IT IS RARE AND THE RAREST OF THE SITUATION WHERE BOTH PARTNERS COMING FROM DIFFERENT SITUATIONS, DIFFERENT UPBRINGINGS, DIFFERENT STATUS, DIFFERENT ASSOCIATIONS AND FRIENDS AND ALSO WITH WITH DIFFERENT ASPIRATIONS AND DIFFERENT AMBITIONS FIND IT VERY HARD TO BE COMPATIBLE AND LIVE A HAPPY LIFE. -IT IS POSSIBLE THAT IF ONE 1. DECIDES IN ADVANCE BEFORE MEETING SOMEONE, AND RELATIONSHIP IS ACHIEVED AS PER ONE’S DESIRES AND SELECTION, COMPATABLITY WILL BE BETTER 2. IF ONE HAS FALLEN IN LOVE, COMPATIBILITY WILL MOSTLY BE BETTER 3. EVEN IF THERE IS MISMATCH, BUT IF ONE WANTS TO MANAGE, COMPATABILITY WILL HAPPEN AND WILL CONTINUE DEVELOPING TO GET BETTER AND BETTER. -AT TIMES, OUTSIDE CIRUMSTANCES, CHANGE IN THE HABITS AND NATURE OF A PERSON, DO AFFECT THE FAMILIAL RELATIONSHIP. -BEHAVIOUR AND ATTITUDE OF FAMILIES TOWARDS EACH OTHER DOES AFFECT THE RELATIONSHIP OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE -MANY A TIME CHILDREN TOO BECOME A CAUSE FOR DETERIORATION AND CONFLICTS IN RELATIONSHIP. -VIEW, RELIGIOUS, POLITICAL, BUSINESS, DECISION TAKING, HOW TO HANDLE CHILDREN, RELATIONS, FAMILIES ON BOTH SIDES ETC. DO AFFECT THE RELATIONSHON OF HUSBAND AND WIFE. -BESIDES THERE COULD BE MANY MORE AND ENORMOUS INSTANCES WHICH AFFECT THE RELATIONSHIP, TAKE TO DETERIORATION, ACCUSATIONS, CONFLICTS, FIGHTS ETC. -BEFORE GOING INTO AS TO WHAT IS THE SOLUTION, IT IS NECESSARY TO POINT AS TO WHAT IS THE NATURE OF HUMAN BEINGS: -LOVE -JEALOUSIES -COMPARISON -GREED -POSSESSIVENESS -HATRED -EGO -NEVER TO FORGET PAST, RECALL AGAIN AND AGAIN WHEN WE GET TO ANALYSE THESE AND MANY MORE, WE FIND THAT HUMAN MIND IS FILLED WITH MORE FILTH AND DIRT THAN WITH LOVE WHICH STANDS ALONE AND IS GENERLLY OVERCOME BY ALL THESE WEAKNESSES AND SO-CALLED VICES. NOW THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO OVERCOME ALL THESE WEAKNESSES AND CREATE LOVE AND EVEN IF NOT, AT LEAST A LIVING ARRANGEMENT IN PEACE AND ACCEPTANCE. 1 TO ACHIEVE A SUCCESS, IT BECOMES ESSENTIAL TO SET A GOAL AND THEREAFTER IT BECOMES ESSENTIAL TO CHALK OUT THE COURSE OF ACTION AND IF FACED WITH HURLDES HOW TO OVERCOME THOSE, AND MOVE ON TO THE GOAL. 2. IN RELATIONSHIP, THE GOAL REMAINS TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE AND IF NOT, AT LEAST A PEACEFUL LIFE TO REACH THE GOAL AND SUCCESS ONE ASPIRES. 3.AS TO ACHIEVE A SUCCESS, ONE NEEDS TO STRUGGLE AS HARD AS IT IS NECESSARY AND ADJUSTS TO SITUATIONS AS THESE ARISE IN BETWEEN AND ON THE WAY TO REACH THE GOAL. SIMILARLY, IN RELATIONSHIP, LOVE, PEACEFUL LIVING AND RELATIONSHIP, NO HINDRANCE, NO DISTURBANCE, ALL THESE ARE ESSENTIAL AND PRIMEMOST NOT ONLY TO ACHIEVE BUT TO WIN OVER BECOME POSSIBLE ONLY WHEN ONE IS DETERMINED TO REACH SUCCESS IN LIFE AND IS DETERMINED TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS AS AND WHEN REQUIRED AND IN THE CONDITIONS ADJUSTMENTS ARE REQUIRED. HENCE SAME IS THE CONDITION IN RELATIONSHIP, WHEN THE GOAL IS PEACE AND HAPPINESS IN FAMILY LIFE, ONE NEEDS TO ADJUST WITH ALL SITUATIONS HOWSOEVER HARD AND IMPOSSIBLE THESE MAY LOOK. THUS THE SOLUTION LIES IN 1. ACCEPT EACH OTHER AS EACH ONE IS 2. GET OVER EGO. COMPARISON, GENDER BIAS AND ALL WEAKNESSES AND SO-CALLED VICES AS CITED ABOVE 3. REPLACE THESE BY LOVE AND IF NOT, IN COMPLETE ADJUSTMENT AT LEAST. 4. TO KEEP THE GOAL OF PEACEFUL RELATIONSHIP IN FRONT ALWAYS AND ANY ABBERATION IF IT HAPPENS EVER, TO LOOK TO CAUSES AND ADUST, RATHER REMAIN TO ADJUST BY ALL MEANS AT ALL COST. 5. IT IS POSSIBLE IN THIS STRUGGLE FOR ADJUSTMENT, ONE WILL HAVE TO SHUN EGO, OVERLOOK ALL SO CALLED VICES, TAKE TO WILLING COMPROMISE WITH NO RECALL AS TO WHAT HAPPENED AND WHY IT HAPPENED, PRIORITIESE ACCEPTANCE THAN FINDING FAULT AND REASONS SO ON AND SO FORTH. IN DOING ALL THIS, BEHAVING AND ACTING ACCORDINGLY, ESSENTIAL IT WILL BE : -TO SHUN EGO -TURN TO OBEDIENCE AND ACCEPTANCE IRRESPECTIVE OF HOW THE COMPANION WILL BEHAVE AFTERWARD AS HIS/HER WEAKNESS OR STRENGTH ETC. - ERASE TOTALLY TO THINK EVER THAT HIS/HER PARTNER IS WRONG OR RIGHT AND IS FILLED WITH ALL JEALOUSIES, RETALIATION ETC. - BELIEVE INSTEAD AND BELIEVE CLEARLY THAT HUMAN MIND NEVER REMAINS STATIC, IT CONTINUES CHANGING ALMOST ALL THE TIME, AS SUCH IN THE GIVEN CONDITION OF ACCEPTANCE AND OBEDIENCE, IT IS QUITE IMMINENT AND IN ALL PROBIBILITY THE PARTNER WILL DEFINITELY CHANGE TO ACCEPTANCE - IT IS POSSIBLE IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME, AS MENTIONED ABOVE, WITH COMPLETE DETERMINATION TO LIVE AND ACHIEVE PEACEFUL LIFE, ADUSTMENTS WILL CERTAINLY COME ABOUT, THERE CAN BE NO DOUBT AND NO EXCEPTION TO IT. - BELIEVE CLEARLY AND FAITHFULLY. THAT IN LIFE ALL IS POSSIBLE IF ONE IS DETERMINED AND IS READY TO MOULD ONESELF TO EACH AND EVERY SITUATION AS IT UNVEIL IN REACHING THE GOAL. Conclusion: believe, stone by daily rubbing vanishes and exists no more, human mind is reflective and is changeable if every circumstances and situations turn to as desired or wished for, no one wants a disturbed and unhappy life in relationship if the circumstances and conditions are created and made congenial and also to believe firmly that I AM A WINNER AND WILL CERTAINLY WIN OVER WHATSOEVER AND HOW MUCH HARD THE SITUATION MAY ARISE IN OUR RELATIONS AS HUBAND AND WIFE AND AS FAMILY AS WELL. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………. By vasdevloond, founder of cost free marriage bureau called MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT dounded in 2015. CONTACTS; 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com