ACHHEY DIN AANAIGAI, IT IS GENERALLY SAID WHEN ONE IS DISTRESSED THE QUESTION ARISES WHETHER 1. IT IS TO CONSOLE THE PERSON CONCERNED 2. TO PUT HIM/HER ON POSITIVE THINKING 3. PUTTING HIM/HER TO BELIEVE IN DESTINY 4. OR TO EXPLAIN AND CONVINCE THAT NOTHING IS STATIC, CHANGE IS ESSENTIAL ANYTHING WHICH GETS TO WORST, GETS BACK TO THE BRIGHTER SIDE SOONER OF LATER, IT IS THE LAW OF NATURE. THEN QUESTION ARISES WHEN ONE IS DISTRESSED WHETHER TO TAKE TO ADVISE HIM/HER I WILL SAY NOT AT ALL, AS THE PERSON CONCERNED IS ALREADY SUFFERING, IS NOT INCLINED TO LISTEN AS HE/SHE BELIEVES THAT HE/SHE HAS DONE ALL EFFORTS BUT THE EFFORTS HAVE BEEN USELESS AND OF NO REWARD AT ALL. IT WILL BE BETTER TO AGREE TO WHAT THE CONCERNED PERSON SAYS, APPRECIATE AND NEVER THINK OF CONTRADICTING AT ALL, IN ORDER TO AVOID IRRITATION THEN WHAT IS THE ANSWER LEFT -DO ALL TO BRING BACK THE PERSON CONCERNED TO HIS/HER NORMAL POSITION -ONCE DISTRESS IS REDUCED OR IS FORGOTTEN, THEN SLOWLY SLOWLY PUT ACROSS THE IDEA AS TO HOW LIFE GOES ON AND ALSO TO EXPLAIN THAT LIFE IS TO GO ON IN DISTRESS OR IN HAPPINESS, IT IS LEFT TO THE INDIVIDUAL HOW ONE THINKS AND ACTS UPON -ALSO TO EXPLAIN WHEN ONE IS DISTRESSED, ONE IS DISTURBED IN SUCH A SITUATION, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO THINK POSITIVE AND ALSO AS TO WHAT COURSE OF ACTION NEEDS TO BE TAKEN, WHICH COULD BE THE BEST TO GET RID OF DISTRESS -ALSO TO EXPLAIN WHEN ONE GETS OVER DISTRESS, WHETHER ONE IS HAPPY OR NOT, WHEN ONE IS IN NORMAL STATE OF MIND ONE CAN REFLECT BETTER, TURN POSITIVE AND MOVE ON TO STRUGGLE -PERHAPS ALSO TO COMPARE WHEN OTHERS MAKE EFFORTS AND SUCCEED, WHY SHOULD HE/SHE SHOULD NOT, IT IS POSSIBLE ONE WILL ANALYSE THE CAUSES, TEND TO MAKE AMENDS, AND THUS REACH ONE’S GOAL. In conclusion when one is distressed, never contradict, never give examples of others, just go by what the distressed person says, believe and commit yes, and yes, may be at times to remain silent could also be the best option, time to time. Expressed by vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com