CAN AN ENEMY BECOME A FRIEND EVER, AND IF POSSIBLE, HOW. It is a big question for which many will reply it is impossible while I believe it is possible, if not a friend, at working/neighbourly relations are possible. It is possible 1. one needs to shun ego 2. needs to reflect what were the reasons which took relationship to turning enemies 3. did I retaliate, abused, threatened etc. 4. am I talking ill of him/her to his contacts/ relations etc. 5. is he/she in the habit of picking up fights with or without reason 6. does he/she feel that I am causing him/her damage by taking his/her customers, friends, relations, affecting his business, reputation, religious beliefs,taking neighbourhood advantage etc. etc. SOON AFTER REFLEXTION, when I come to analyse reasons, then arises the question as to how to get to means to mend relations. after shunning ego, it is essential that I am convinced by the fact that these enemical relations are affecting me as well in thinking, working etc. etc., I will hereafter be inclined to move towards mending relations. HENCE REALISATION IS VERY IMPORTANT. 3. then comes in conviction that I have to do it and succeed 4. to believe all is possible if one is convinced and determined to do it at all costs 5. also it is found that when any important functions are organised or marriage is to take place, one tries to get to even those with whom one has estranged relations etc. etc., then why not now. 6.thus my action starts, to find a chance and to watch for the time and circumstances when my enemy will be in good mood or to pick up courage to get to his/her house, going whereby in general gives a chance to be in enemy's house, ask for tea or something else and as such engage in conversation and to persuade that whatever happened needs to be forgotten and that it will never be repeated from my side and if he/she suggests/compels for some action, in polite way it could be said that let me think it over and meet again, but I am sure there will be a solution if we get to explore possibilities, decide and take action, which may require give and take, maybe not. 7. repetitive overtures with full conviction that I have to solve this problem and get to good relations, will surely bring in desired results as, I believe, howsoever hard a person maybe, my/our manners, behaviours etc. do force the enemy, howsoever against he/she may be, to reflect, appreciate humbleness etc. to spell out his/her grievances and come out with some possible solution. 8. once this happens, the course for solution through discussion, give and take, behaviour, honesty of purpose etc. gets open up and sooner or later, the desired end is achieved and as such enemical relations get to improving and bettering relationship to friendship and if not, at least to working and neighbourly relations. tks CAN AN ENEMY BECOME A FRIEND EVER, AND IF POSSIBLE, HOW. It is a big question for which many will reply it is impossible while I believe it is possible, if not a friend, at working/neighbourly relations are possible. It is possible 1. one needs to shun ego 2. needs to reflect what were the reasons which took relationship to turning enemies 3. did I retaliate, abused, threatened etc. 4. am I talking ill of him/her to his contacts/ relations etc. 5. is he/she in the habit of picking up fights with or without reason 6. does he/she feel that I am causing him/her damage by taking his/her customers, friends, relations, affecting his business, reputation, religious beliefs,taking neighbourhood advantage etc. etc. SOON AFTER REFLEXTION, when I come to analyse reasons, then arises the question as to how to get to means to mend relations. after shunning ego, it is essential that I am convinced by the fact that these enemical relations are affecting me as well in thinking, working etc. etc., I will hereafter be inclined to move towards mending relations. HENCE REALISATION IS VERY IMPORTANT. 3. then comes in conviction that I have to do it and succeed 4. to believe all is possible if one is convinced and determined to do it at all costs 5. also it is found that when any important functions are organised or marriage is to take place, one tries to get to even those with whom one has estranged relations etc. etc., then why not now. 6.thus my action starts, to find a chance and to watch for the time and circumstances when my enemy will be in good mood or to pick up courage to get to his/her house, going whereby in general gives a chance to be in enemy's house, ask for tea or something else and as such engage in conversation and to persuade that whatever happened needs to be forgotten and that it will never be repeated from my side and if he/she suggests/compels for some action, in polite way it could be said that let me think it over and meet again, but I am sure there will be a solution if we get to explore possibilities, decide and take action, which may require give and take, maybe not. 7. repetitive overtures with full conviction that I have to solve this problem and get to good relations, will surely bring in desired results as, I believe, howsoever hard a person maybe, my/our manners, behaviours etc. do force the enemy, howsoever against he/she may be, to reflect, appreciate humbleness etc. to spell out his/her grievances and come out with some possible solution. 8. once this happens, the course for solution through discussion, give and take, behaviour, honesty of purpose etc. gets open up and sooner or later, the desired end is achieved and as such enemical relations get to improving and bettering relationship to friendship and if not, at least to working and neighbourly relations. tks CAN AN ENEMY BECOME A FRIEND EVER, AND IF POSSIBLE, HOW. It is a big question for which many will reply it is impossible while I believe it is possible, if not a friend, at working/neighbourly relations are possible. It is possible 1. one needs to shun ego 2. needs to reflect what were the reasons which took relationship to turning enemies 3. did I retaliate, abused, threatened etc. 4. am I talking ill of him/her to his contacts/ relations etc. 5. is he/she in the habit of picking up fights with or without reason 6. does he/she feel that I am causing him/her damage by taking his/her customers, friends, relations, affecting his business, reputation, religious beliefs,taking neighbourhood advantage etc. etc. SOON AFTER REFLEXTION, when I come to analyse reasons, then arises the question as to how to get to means to mend relations. after shunning ego, it is essential that I am convinced by the fact that these enemical relations are affecting me as well in thinking, working etc. etc., I will hereafter be inclined to move towards mending relations. HENCE REALISATION IS VERY IMPORTANT. 3. then comes in conviction that I have to do it and succeed 4. to believe all is possible if one is convinced and determined to do it at all costs 5. also it is found that when any important functions are organised or marriage is to take place, one tries to get to even those with whom one has estranged relations etc. etc., then why not now. 6.thus my action starts, to find a chance and to watch for the time and circumstances when my enemy will be in good mood or to pick up courage to get to his/her house, going whereby in general gives a chance to be in enemy's house, ask for tea or something else and as such engage in conversation and to persuade that whatever happened needs to be forgotten and that it will never be repeated from my side and if he/she suggests/compels for some action, in polite way it could be said that let me think it over and meet again, but I am sure there will be a solution if we get to explore possibilities, decide and take action, which may require give and take, maybe not. 7. repetitive overtures with full conviction that I have to solve this problem and get to good relations, will surely bring in desired results as, I believe, howsoever hard a person maybe, my/our manners, behaviours etc. do force the enemy, howsoever against he/she may be, to reflect, appreciate humbleness etc. to spell out his/her grievances and come out with some possible solution. 8. once this happens, the course for solution through discussion, give and take, behaviour, honesty of purpose etc. gets open up and sooner or later, the desired end is achieved and as such enemical relations get to improving and bettering relationship to friendship and if not, at least to working and neighbourly relations. tks