CARE TO LISTEN TO -IMMEDIATELY -NO NOT AT ALL PREMIDITATED -NOT TO SAY LATER ON -BE PATIENT AND KEEN TO LISTEN WHAT ONE WANTS TO SAY AND WHAT IS THE URGENCY, IT IS ESSENTIAL ONE MUST BE CAREFUL ALWAYS. IF BY ALL PERCEPTION. ONE WHO WANTS TO TALK IS NOT CARED FOR AND IS NOT LISTENED, IN ALL PREBABILITY SUCH AN ACTION WILL CREATE ILLWILL, DISRESPECT IF NOT ANTAGONISM, POSSIBLY COULD SPOIL RELATIONSHIP HEREAFTER. MUST ALSO BEAR IN MIND YOU DID NOT CARE FOR THE PERSON ESPECIALLY SO NEAR AND DEAR TO YOU. THEN IT IS BUT NATUREAL RETALIATION IN DISOBEDIENCE, REBUKE ETC. COULD HAPPEN. IT IS GENERALLY SAID KINDNESS BEGETS KINDNESS AND THE ONE WHO EXPECTS KINDNESS, NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO BE KIND BY ONESELF IN ONE'S BEHAVIOU, ATTITUDE, TALK ETC. -BELIEVE ALSO ANY ACT OF AVOIDANCE COULD ENRAGE THE PERSON CONCERNED AND BOMBANDMANT COULD HAPPEN AS AND WHEN BOTH MEET OR COME ACROSS TOGETHER, HURLING MORE ACCUSES AND EXCUSES, MOSTLY WITH NO RETURN AT ALL. conclusion: when one wants to talk, steal a few minutes, how much you may be occupied with your work and urgency, listen to the one concerned, if it could be replied back immediately, do that and if that needed some time to reflect, explain that serious subjects need serious thinking, you think it over seriously and on my return,I will sit with you, we both will reflect on it calmly, patiently and shall take decision together, perhaps during my work time , some idea could also crop up also. tks vdl