DIALOGUE OF HUSBAND AND WIFE 6-5-22 -AURAT KEHTI APNAI AADMI KO -ABHI BHEE HAI KUCHH VAKAT BAKEE -SUDHAR JA AUR SUDHAAR LAI TU APNAI KO ABHEE THORA SA VAKAT HAI BAKEE -YAAD RAKH LAI TU, BHOOLNA NAN KABHEE -TU NAAN MUJHAI BANA KAR RAKHA THA -BAANI KEE TARAH HEE -BAKAI KAIDEE BANA RAKHA THA MUJHAI -TUM MARTAI THAI AUR PEETAI THAI BHEE HUMAIN -AUR GALIAN BHEE DETAI THAI HAR PARKAR KEE HEE -YAHAN TAK TUU NAI MUJHAI ZALEEL KIYA -KYA KAHOON MEIN TUMHAIN TUMHARAI ZULMON KA UNT BHEE NAHIN -YAHANA TAK KAI TERAI ZULMON KEE BOOCHHAR KA KHATMA HEE THA NAN KABHEE -TU NAIN TO HUM AURTON KO SATEE KAI NAAM PAR ZINDA JALADEEYA HAMARAI MARAI HUAI PATIYON KAI SAATH BHEE -MEIN POOCHHTEE HOON TUM SAI KYA AUR KYON YEH ZAROOREE THA -SAMAJH MAIN AATA NAHIN KYA TUM -INSAAN THAI YA KAFIR, HAIVANON SA BADTAR BHEE -TUM APNAIN KO SAMAJHNAI LAGAI ITNA BARA AUR TAKATVAR BHEE -KAISSA HAI LOBH TUMARA JISKA KOYEE ANT BHEE NAHIN -KAISAI AUR KITNAI BAYEEMAMAAN NIKLAI TUM -KEH DAHAIJ ZAROOREE HO GAYA -AUR HUM BEBUS LARKYON KEE KOYEE KADAR HEE NAHIN RAHEE -HAMARAI MAAN BAAP NAIN TO DIYA KUCHH JO VOH DAI SAKTAI THAI HAMAREE JUDAYEE MAIN HAMAIN KUCHH DIN ACHHAI BEETAIN KAI LIYA, AUR NAN HEE TUMHARA HIVASS KO MEETAN KAI LIYAI -BAYMAAN HO TUM AUR NAN HEE TUM SHUKAR GUZAAR HUAI KABHEE -KABHEE NAN TU NAIN SAMJHA AUR NAN SAMAJH PAYOGAI KABHEE -KYA GUZARTEE HOGEE HUMARAI MAAN BAAP KO HAMAIN VIDAA KARTAI HUAI, NAN JANTAI HUAI AUR NAN PEHCHANTAI HUAI, KAR DIYA HUMAIN TUM KAFRON KAI HAWALAI -YEH SOCHTAI HUAI HEE -KEH TUM HAMAIN PYARA KAROGAI -AUR HEERON KEE TARAH RAKHOGAI HAMAIN -ROTAI RAHAI, TARAPTAI AUR PACHHTAI RAHAI MAAN BAAP HAMARAI -AUR HUM BHEE BHUGTATEE RAHIN -SAARAI ZULAM TUMARAI -APNAI MAN BAAP KAI VACAN KO NIBHANAI KAI LIYAI HAR PARKAR SAI HEE -ROTEE RAHEEN AUR KOSTI RAHEEN HUM SUB LARKIYAN BEBASSI MAIN -NAN MAAN BAAP TO BATANAI, NAN UNKO HAMAREE JUDAYEE SAI AUR TARPANAI LIYAI -BUS KYA KAHOON MAIN -ROTEE THEEN HUM HAR VAKAT DIN RAAT BHEE -NAN THA KOYEE HAMARAI AANSSON KO POOCHHNAI KAI LIYAI AUR NAN DIL BEHLANAI KAI LIYAI HEE- -BAS AB SAMAJH LAI TU -VAKAT BADAL GAYA HAI -AUR ZAMANA BHEE -BUS AB THAK GAYEE HOON MAIN -YEH DARD BHAREE DASTAN SUNATAI HEE TUMHAI -INTEZAR KAR BATAYON GEE MAIN BAKEE KAL SUBHAH HOTAI HEE. ………………………………………………………………. Narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage Guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NOG to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
-DIALOGUE OF HUSBAND AND WIFE ….. II
-THE WIFE TELLS HER HUSBAND
-PLEASE DO NOT MIND FOR WHAT I HAVE SAID
-IT WAS JUST A NARRATION OF CRUELTIES
WHAT FEMALES HAVE BEEN FACING AT THE
HANDS OF THEIR LOVED HUSBANDS
-ANYWAY NOW TIMES HAVE CHANGED
-GIRLS ARE TAKING TO EDUCATION
-ARE GETTING MORE LITERATE
-NOT ONLY HAVE STARTED WORKING
IN COMPANIES, GOVERNMENT POSTS,
-BUT IN MANY CASES FEMALES ARE
EXCELLINGTHE MALES
-CO-EDUCATION AND LAWS ARE
NOT ONLY OFFERING THE ENVIRONMENTS
BUT ARE ENSURING ALL SORTS OF EQUALITY
AND PROTECTIONS.
-ALAS, MEN MOSTLY ARE NOT ACCEPTING
THIS CHANGE NOR ARE CONVINCED EITHER
AND INSTEAD BELIEVE THAT THE FEMALES
ARE BORN AND GROW UP AS A WEAKER
FORCE COMPARED TO MALES
-FURTHER TO THIS FEELING, MALES ARE
NEITHER REALISING NOR ARE CONSCIOUS
-THAT NOW IN THE AGE OF INDUSTRIALISATION
-IT IS NOT THAT MUCH MASCULAR PHYSIQUE
IS REQUIRED, ESSENTIAL IS HOW MUCH KNOWLEDGE
HAS BEEN ACQUIRED, HOW MUCH IT IS DEVELOPED,
AND HOW BEST TO MAKE USE OF IT
-AS BOTH MALES AND FEMALES STUDY TOGETHER
WORK IN WORK PLACES TOGETHER, THE FEMALES
DO NOT BEAR SHYNESS AS THE FEMALES WERE
USED TO AND/OR THE SOCIETY GROOMED THE
FEMALES TO REMAIN SHY AND AFRAID OF THE
MALES
-NOW THE FEMALES WORK IN ALL OCCUPATIONS
AS EQUAL TO MALES, SHOULDER TO SHOULDER,
-SHYNESS IS GONE, THE SPIRT AND ZEAL HAVE
STATED IN THE FEMALES TO DO ALL TO EXCEL
THE MALES AND AS SUCH SHOW TO THEM
BY PERFORMANCE AND IN REAL TERMS TO
REALISE AND ACCEPT THAT FEMALES AT PRESENT
ARE EQUAL TO MALES IN ALL RESPECTS.
-HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THE MALES DO
ACCEPT FEMALES AS EQUAL AND CHANGE
THEIR BEHAVIOUR AND ATTITUDES
ACCORDINGLY.
-ESSENTIAL TO REMEMBER THAT GONE ARE
THOSE DAYS OF DOMINANCE AND COERCION
BY THE MALES, AS SUCH IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT
MALES MUST CHANGE THEMSELVES AND
ACCEPT FEMALES AS EQUAL IF NOT MORE.
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Guidance new concept cost free marriage bureau
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III
-the wife says enough is enough, we are
fighting and accusing each other all the
time, now let us work on as how we can
SAVE OUR MARRIAGE.
-the husband says true, I have patiently listened
and understood feelings and desires.
-now please let me know as to what I have to do
and what do you expect of me to do
-the wife says that normally you would have said
as to what you will do and you will not be able
to do.
-anyway, I am going to tell you what I want from
you to do:
1. we both are equal human beings despite
that you are physically strong and that
I am weaker in physique compared to you.
2. there shall never, ever be gender bias of
any sort and never in any and every situation
3 there may not, I wish, any problems with
your family, and if ever these happen, you
will prioritise me over your parents and
family members.
4 we both will take all decisions together
and in case we have different viewpoints,
we both will do our best to explain to each
other, and if no agreement is reached, we
both shall decide willingly to postpone or
even abandon that idea, proposal etc.
5 all issues whether related to my parents
or your parents, we both shall discuss and
sort out, and if no agreement is reached,
better we will forget those issues and
shall never conflict with each other for the sake
of each one’s parents, brothers, sisters
etc.
6. all our income we will pool and keep together
and whatever our needs will be, we will keep
that amount with each of us and shall avoid
questioning as to how that has been spent,
keeping full faith and trust in each other.
7. I would love to live in a micro unit as living
in or with family creates conflicts and also
interference by all means and as such we
are not left with any freedom to socialize
and use our earnings as we like. Further
adjustment in micro unit becomes easier.
8 essential to remain honest, fidel and loyal
to each other, shall remain frank and shall
never hide or lie whatever the situations
and happenings may be.
9. not that our love will be reciprocal, it will
be spontaneous and emotional without any
reservation on either side.
10 we commit to own all responsibilities
together, phase out division of work
as best suited to each one, but in no
way to restrict ourselves but to volunteer
ourselves as and when an occasion demands
or one is unable to do that specified job
hence not only volunteering but also
doing that job gladly and happily.
11 if and when we decide to have child/ren
we both shall voluntarily meet all the needs
of the child, irrespective of the fact that such
are the duties and responsibilities of the
the mother.
12 further, essential to remember if we have
good relations, we will progress, our children
will progress and as such we will be spending
joyously and happily as it is said so: ‘ that is life
and that is the real purpose of life.
IN REPLY
the husband says that I commit:
(i) there won’t be gender bias at all
(ii) I shall tune myself and my habits,
as best as shall be suited to both of
us.
(iii) all the rest of the demands and desires
are fully acceptable except:
(a) Micro unit: it needs discussion and
delibrations as there are lot of
advantages and inconveniences
in both living in joint family with
parents or living in micro unit alone
as husband and wife.
(b) as for parents, brothers, sisters etc.
and their needs are concerned, we
shall discuss the situation as of now and
hereafter and shall thereafter take
decision together.
© as for our relations in social gatherings
outside the house are concerned in
society and in social life, I shall be
expecting of you to accept me as
I am as also my behavior which of
course I shall try to be respectful but
if some time you will not like, then
you will move along with me without any
discussion or friction and we both
shall ensure by all means our love and
togetherness are above board and shall
behave accordingly and as for HOUSE is
concerned, you will be all in all and I shall
do my best to behave as per wishes and desires,
which in other words is said ‘I WILL BE THE KING
IN The OUTSIDE WORLD WHILE YOU WILL BE THE
QUEEN IN THE HOUSE WITH ALL COMMANDS
AND ORDERS.
(d ) despite all wishes and agreement, there
could arise some occasions when we will
be in disagreement and in order to overcome
the situation of disagreement, we
shall (i) leave that subject for some time
to reflect and deliberate and to
come back to the issue as per
the convenience of us both.
(ii) if the subject is urgent, then I will
be the final decision maker to face
the situation and bear the consequences.
as also to deduce to conclude about our
future course of action.
THE WIFE SAYS, I AGREE TO WHAT YOU HAVE SAID AND ARE COMMITTED ALSO,
LET US NOW GIVE A CHANCE TO OUR EXPECTATIONS AND COMMITMENTS
HOPEFULLY WE BOTH WILL SUCCEED AND IF FOR SOME REASONS, IT DOES
NOT HAPPEN THE WAY AND IN THE MANNER WE ARE AGREEING AND GETTING
COMMITTED, THEN WE SHALL RESORT TO TAKE DECISION AS THAT SHALL
SUIT TO US BOTH INDIVIDUALLY, PERHAPS REFLECTING ON SEPARATION,
DIVORCE AND ITS CONSEUENCES ETC. ETC.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost
free marriage bureau NGO, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 www.
vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
.
HUSBAND AND WIFE’S DIALOGUE III
-the wife says enough is enough, we are
fighting and accusing each other all the
time, now let us work on as how we can
SAVE OUR MARRIAGE.
-the husband says true, I have patiently listened
and understood feelings and desires.
-now please let me know as to what I have to do
and what do you expect of me to do
-the wife says that normally you would have said
as to what you will do and you will not be able
to do.
-anyway, I am going to tell you what I want from
you to do:
1. we both are equal human beings despite
that you are physically strong and that
I am weaker in physique compared to you.
2. there shall never, ever be gender bias of
any sort and never in any and every situation
3 there may not, I wish, any problems with
your family, and if ever these happen, you
will prioritise me over your parents and
family members.
4 we both will take all decisions together
and in case we have different viewpoints,
we both will do our best to explain to each
other, and if no agreement is reached, we
both shall decide willingly to postpone or
even abandon that idea, proposal etc.
5 all issues whether related to my parents
or your parents, we both shall discuss and
sort out, and if no agreement is reached,
better we will forget those issues and
shall never conflict with each other for the sake
of each one’s parents, brothers, sisters
etc.
6. all our income we will pool and keep together
and whatever our needs will be, we will keep
that amount with each of us and shall avoid
questioning as to how that has been spent,
keeping full faith and trust in each other.
7. I would love to live in a micro unit as living
in or with family creates conflicts and also
interference by all means and as such we
are not left with any freedom to socialize
and use our earnings as we like. Further
adjustment in micro unit becomes easier.
8 essential to remain honest, fidel and loyal
to each other, shall remain frank and shall
never hide or lie whatever the situations
and happenings may be.
9. not that our love will be reciprocal, it will
be spontaneous and emotional without any
reservation on either side.
10 we commit to own all responsibilities
together, phase out division of work
as best suited to each one, but in no
way to restrict ourselves but to volunteer
ourselves as and when an occasion demands
or one is unable to do that specified job
hence not only volunteering but also
doing that job gladly and happily.
11 if and when we decide to have child/ren
we both shall voluntarily meet all the needs
of the child, irrespective of the fact that such
are the duties and responsibilities of the
the mother.
12 further, essential to remember if we have
good relations, we will progress, our children
will progress and as such we will be spending
joyously and happily as it is said so: ‘ that is life
and that is the real purpose of life.
IN REPLY
the husband says that I commit:
(i) there won’t be gender bias at all
(ii) I shall tune myself and my habits,
as best as shall be suited to both of
us.
(iii) all the rest of the demands and desires
are fully acceptable except:
(a) Micro unit: it needs discussion and
delibrations as there are lot of
advantages and inconveniences
in both living in joint family with
parents or living in micro unit alone
as husband and wife.
(b) as for parents, brothers, sisters etc.
and their needs are concerned, we
shall discuss the situation as of now and
hereafter and shall thereafter take
decision together.
© as for our relations in social gatherings
outside the house are concerned in
society and in social life, I shall be
expecting of you to accept me as
I am as also my behavior which of
course I shall try to be respectful but
if some time you will not like, then
you will move along with me without any
discussion or friction and we both
shall ensure by all means our love and
togetherness are above board and shall
behave accordingly and as for HOUSE is
concerned, you will be all in all and I shall
do my best to behave as per wishes and desires,
which in other words is said ‘I WILL BE THE KING
IN The OUTSIDE WORLD WHILE YOU WILL BE THE
QUEEN IN THE HOUSE WITH ALL COMMANDS
AND ORDERS.
(d ) despite all wishes and agreement, there
could arise some occasions when we will
be in disagreement and in order to overcome
the situation of disagreement, we
shall (i) leave that subject for some time
to reflect and deliberate and to
come back to the issue as per
the convenience of us both.
(ii) if the subject is urgent, then I will
be the final decision maker to face
the situation and bear the consequences.
as also to deduce to conclude about our
future course of action.
THE WIFE SAYS, I AGREE TO WHAT YOU HAVE SAID AND ARE COMMITTED ALSO,
LET US NOW GIVE A CHANCE TO OUR EXPECTATIONS AND COMMITMENTS
HOPEFULLY WE BOTH WILL SUCCEED AND IF FOR SOME REASONS, IT DOES
NOT HAPPEN THE WAY AND IN THE MANNER WE ARE AGREEING AND GETTING
COMMITTED, THEN WE SHALL RESORT TO TAKE DECISION AS THAT SHALL
SUIT TO US BOTH INDIVIDUALLY, PERHAPS REFLECTING ON SEPARATION,
DIVORCE AND ITS CONSEUENCES ETC. ETC.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost
free marriage bureau NGO, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 www.
vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
.
HUSBAND AND WIFE’S DIALOGUE III
-the wife says enough is enough, we are
fighting and accusing each other all the
time, now let us work on as how we can
SAVE OUR MARRIAGE.
-the husband says true, I have patiently listened
and understood feelings and desires.
-now please let me know as to what I have to do
and what do you expect of me to do
-the wife says that normally you would have said
as to what you will do and you will not be able
to do.
-anyway, I am going to tell you what I want from
you to do:
1. we both are equal human beings despite
that you are physically strong and that
I am weaker in physique compared to you.
2. there shall never, ever be gender bias of
any sort and never in any and every situation
3 there may not, I wish, any problems with
your family, and if ever these happen, you
will prioritise me over your parents and
family members.
4 we both will take all decisions together
and in case we have different viewpoints,
we both will do our best to explain to each
other, and if no agreement is reached, we
both shall decide willingly to postpone or
even abandon that idea, proposal etc.
5 all issues whether related to my parents
or your parents, we both shall discuss and
sort out, and if no agreement is reached,
better we will forget those issues and
shall never conflict with each other for the sake
of each one’s parents, brothers, sisters
etc.
6. all our income we will pool and keep together
and whatever our needs will be, we will keep
that amount with each of us and shall avoid
questioning as to how that has been spent,
keeping full faith and trust in each other.
7. I would love to live in a micro unit as living
in or with family creates conflicts and also
interference by all means and as such we
are not left with any freedom to socialize
and use our earnings as we like. Further
adjustment in micro unit becomes easier.
8 essential to remain honest, fidel and loyal
to each other, shall remain frank and shall
never hide or lie whatever the situations
and happenings may be.
9. not that our love will be reciprocal, it will
be spontaneous and emotional without any
reservation on either side.
10 we commit to own all responsibilities
together, phase out division of work
as best suited to each one, but in no
way to restrict ourselves but to volunteer
ourselves as and when an occasion demands
or one is unable to do that specified job
hence not only volunteering but also
doing that job gladly and happily.
11 if and when we decide to have child/ren
we both shall voluntarily meet all the needs
of the child, irrespective of the fact that such
are the duties and responsibilities of the
the mother.
12 further, essential to remember if we have
good relations, we will progress, our children
will progress and as such we will be spending
joyously and happily as it is said so: ‘ that is life
and that is the real purpose of life.
IN REPLY
the husband says that I commit:
(i) there won’t be gender bias at all
(ii) I shall tune myself and my habits,
as best as shall be suited to both of
us.
(iii) all the rest of the demands and desires
are fully acceptable except:
(a) Micro unit: it needs discussion and
delibrations as there are lot of
advantages and inconveniences
in both living in joint family with
parents or living in micro unit alone
as husband and wife.
(b) as for parents, brothers, sisters etc.
and their needs are concerned, we
shall discuss the situation as of now and
hereafter and shall thereafter take
decision together.
© as for our relations in social gatherings
outside the house are concerned in
society and in social life, I shall be
expecting of you to accept me as
I am as also my behavior which of
course I shall try to be respectful but
if some time you will not like, then
you will move along with me without any
discussion or friction and we both
shall ensure by all means our love and
togetherness are above board and shall
behave accordingly and as for HOUSE is
concerned, you will be all in all and I shall
do my best to behave as per wishes and desires,
which in other words is said ‘I WILL BE THE KING
IN The OUTSIDE WORLD WHILE YOU WILL BE THE
QUEEN IN THE HOUSE WITH ALL COMMANDS
AND ORDERS.
(d ) despite all wishes and agreement, there
could arise some occasions when we will
be in disagreement and in order to overcome
the situation of disagreement, we
shall (i) leave that subject for some time
to reflect and deliberate and to
come back to the issue as per
the convenience of us both.
(ii) if the subject is urgent, then I will
be the final decision maker to face
the situation and bear the consequences.
as also to deduce to conclude about our
future course of action.
THE WIFE SAYS, I AGREE TO WHAT YOU HAVE SAID AND ARE COMMITTED ALSO,
LET US NOW GIVE A CHANCE TO OUR EXPECTATIONS AND COMMITMENTS
HOPEFULLY WE BOTH WILL SUCCEED AND IF FOR SOME REASONS, IT DOES
NOT HAPPEN THE WAY AND IN THE MANNER WE ARE AGREEING AND GETTING
COMMITTED, THEN WE SHALL RESORT TO TAKE DECISION AS THAT SHALL
SUIT TO US BOTH INDIVIDUALLY, PERHAPS REFLECTING ON SEPARATION,
DIVORCE AND ITS CONSEUENCES ETC. ETC.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost
free marriage bureau NGO, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 www.
vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
.
The founder Vas Dev Loond, imbued in his pursuit to do social service to mankind, has decided to launch the Marriage Guidance- New Concept and to fill in the vacuum created by the modern society where grown-ups feel hesitant to make commitment and the parents remain worried to find a compatible and suitable match for their children.
