CHAPTER : 1 TODAY I SHALL TALK ABOUT WHY MARRIAGE IS ESSENTIAL;1. to meet biological needs2. each and every opposite gender is attracted to each other3. it is said, man is a social being, he/she needs necessarily some company4. each and everyone has a wish to build up his/her own family, to meet social needs to get associated in love.5. mine and thine, is human nature and this instrict/thinking exists in each human being, whether male or female. Hence comes in the idea of having one's own family, followed by marriage.6. generally it is believed that wife brings luck to man, which is quite true, as woman helps man to remain engaged as also motivated to do all for not only to earn for livelihood of the family but also for its progress and comforts, and as such keeps the man comparatively happy to talk over, discuss, deliberate and take decisions about each and every problem, progress and growth of the family.7. parents do believe that whatever they could not do, they do all and invest all their energies and resources on their children to fulfill their desires, wishes and even to excel them as best as their children can.8. each one wishes to live better and happier life, which needs progress in life as also a happy married life and finally to give away whatever they have earned and/or saved, to their children9. it is natural desire in each one, particularly inborn and keen one in female to have a child which she feels is essential to share love and security , own responsibility about them, feels happy in their upbringing, to enjoy love and build up hopes to enlarge family and count on them when they will be getting old.10. birth and death are natural and unavoidable phenomenon, hence marriage becomes essential to fulfil this desire of reproduction and as such fulfilling the gap created by death.11. for progress and development, more and more human beings are required, hence is the need for marriage.12. due to keen desire to have one's own family unit, his and her own children, marriage gets essential13. not to forget, after marriage, instead of one being alone. both male and female, by virtue of marriage, get to 2 instead of one, which is mostly said, not 2 but 11, as this marriage institution encourages sharing responsibilities, enables to find someone to talk over and discuss in full confidence and secretly for all happenings of life and also about the future course of life and for this, none is more confident and secretive than one's wife.14. inter-dependence through and after marriage helps to ward off worries about care, loneliness,it helps to guarantee as safeguard in old age, it helps in sharing responsibilities .and facing difficulties, calamities together, helps in division of work, if one falls ill,gets depressed etc. especially in old age, the other mostly wife is there to take and assis her husband, perhaps vice versa as well, to pass off old age in comfortable manner.,15. marriage helps to achieve and fulfill purpose of life, why to live and what for to live, struggle throughout one's life,face all sorts of difficulties, brutalities, and finding least time to oneself to relax, enjoy and be happy, mostly deprived to enjoy freedom of life as one wishes and wants to live. Despite all difficulties, hindrances, personality and ideas conflicts etc.marriage helps to get over all such situations, if one is determined to save the marriage and is determined to do that/all himself/herself than expecting the other one to do, which is called to mould oneself is much easier than to expect the other one to do it.16. each and every system has its faults and nothing is perfect, even if perfect, with the passage of time, reflexions and decisions become compulsory to meet the changed circumstances and situations, likewise,marriage has gone into changes as to how to celebrate and live together in accommodation and harmony and it is a continuous and unending process, BUT NEVER TO BE FORGOTTEN THAT THE FOUNDATION OF MARRIAGE DESPITE JOLTS ALL AROUND, HAS SUBSISTED AS THE BEST INSTITUTION AND AS SUCH ALL EFFORTS ARE NEEDED NOT ONLY TO SAFEGUARD IT BUT TO STRENGTHEN IT BY ALL MEANS.............................................................................................................................................envisioned and expressed by vasdevloond as founder of marriage bureau titled MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, cost free marriage bureau NGO, to contact vasdevloond at9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.vasdevloond@marriagegidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond. 8-9-22 MARRIAGE IS FOUNDATION OF LIFE, PROGRESS AND HAPPINESS. THE TWO GENENDERS APART ARE LIKE TWO PILLARS APART, SMALL OR WEAK, AND IN NO WAY, DOING THE BALANCING WORK OF EACH OTHER, SUCH PILLARS WILL SURELY AND UNDOUBTEDLY FALL SOOONER OR LATER. 9-9-22 CHAPTER II CHAPTER II 9-9-22
WHAT ARE THE AVENUES AVAILABLE TO THOSE WHO WISH TO MARRY?
-IN AGRERIAN SOCIETY, CONTACTS FOR MARRIAGE WERE MOSTLY TRACED
BY RELATIONS, FRIENDS, CONTACTS/ACQUAINTANCES AND THROUGH PANDITS.
-BUT NOW IN THIS AGE OF INDUSTRIALISATION,
-EVEN THE NEIBOURS DO NOT BOTHER TO KNOW ABOUT EACH OTHER EXCEPT
TO SAY HALO IN LIFTS, PARKS ETC.
-IN WORKPLACES NO COLLEAGUE GIVES CORRECT INORMATION AND MOSTLY
AVOIDS TO TALK ABOUT REALITY
-SO IS THE CASE OF NEIGHBOURS IN THE AREA WHERE ONE IS LIVING
-NOW IN THIS CASE OF INDIVIDUALISM, TO EXPLORE VARIOUS AVENUES FOR
MARRIAGE EXIST IN GENERAL THE FOLLOWINGS:
- MARRIAGE BUREAUS. MOSQUES/CHURCHES/GURDWARAS/TEMPLES ETC
- COMMUNITIES ASSOCIATIONS WHICH ORGANISE FUNCTIONS TIME TO TIME
INVITE THE FAMILIES AND THE INTENDING SPOUSES TO MEET, TALK ABOUT
THEM, CIRCULATE THEIR BIODATAS TO THE INTERESTED PARTIES ETC. ETC.
- AREA PANDITS AND SOME SMALL ENTREPRENEURES ALSO OPEN UP SMALL
MARRIAGE BUREAUS/OR CREATE LIST OF INTERESTED PARTIES OF THE AREA
IN GENERAL
- MOSQUES/TEMPLES/CHURCHES/GURDWARAS KEEP LIST OF THE INTERESTED
PARTIES WITH CONTACT DETAILS, QUALIFICATIONS, DESIRES ETC. AND THOSE
WHO ARE INTERESTED PAY SMALL AMOUNT, AS STIPULATED BY EACH OF THESE
RELIGIIOUS PLACES, NOTE DOWN THE INFORMATION ABOUT THOSE WHICH
INTRESTS THEM AND DO APPROACH THE CONTACTS NOTED DOWN, ON THEIR
OWN.
- QUITE A NUMBER OF MIDDLE CLASS, THOSE ASSOCATED WITH THESE RELIGIOUS
ORGANISATIONS, AS ALSO POOR CLASS AND LESS EDUCATED NORMALLY LESS THAN
GRADUATION LOOK UP TO THIS OPTION.
- WORKING CLASS, EDUCATED ONES, MIDDLE AND RICH CLASS INTERESTED SPOUSES
AND THEIR FAMILIES MOSTLY OPT FOR AND PREFER MARRIAGE BUREAUS WHICH
MOSTLY OPERATE THESE AS BUSINESS VENTURES AS QUITE AFE FEW WELL KNOWN
ARE SHAADI DOT CUM, JEEVAN SATHI, ETC, ETC,
- CONTRARY TO THESE, IN ORDER TO RENDER SOCIAL SERVICE TO PROVIDE CONTACTS,
CONDUCT MEETINGS OF FAMILIES AND THE INTENDING BOYS AND GIRLS, THERE
EXISTS A MARRIAGE BUREAU, CALLED MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, WHICH
RENDERS ALL SUCH AFORESAID SERVICES … FREE OF COST.. FOR ALL COMMUNITIES
FOR ALL THOSE UNMARRIED, DIVORCED, WIDOWED, MOST IMPORTANT, FOR THE
POOR AND RICH AS WELL.
- HOW THIS MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, MARRIAGE BUREAU FUNCTIONS
AND WHAT ARE ITS SALIENT FEATURES SHALL BE DISCUSSED IN THE NEXT CHAPTER III.
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Written down by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, cost free
marriage bureau, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
CHAPTER IV 13-9-22
MARRIAGE CHAPTER III
MARRIAGE …. CHAPTER V
NOW I FEEL TO INFORM THE READERS AS TO HOW MARRIAGE GUIADANCE NEW CONCEPT STAFF OPERATES TO MAKE MATCH MAKING. IN ANSWER TO THIS THERE EXIST
1. TWO METHODS, ONE IS THROUGH BASIC SEARCH
2. 2ND IS THROUGH ADVANCED SEARCH
-THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BASIC SEARCH IS THAT ALL THOSE MATCHES WHICH APPEAR IN THE
THE LIST AND WHICH ARE SORTED OUT AS PER REQUIREMENTS OF THE CANDIDATE FOR WHOM
MATCH IS BEING SEARCHED, ALL NAMES IN THIS LIST AND ALSO THE ONE SLECTED, DO CLEARLY
ENSURE THAT ALL THOSE NAMES IN THE LIST HAVE NEVER BEEN SENT TO THE CONCERNED
CANDIDATE.
- QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW IT OPERATES
-WE CLICK ON THE LIFT SIDE OF THE LIST AGAINST THE NAME, AN ESTERIC SIGN APPEARS
- THEREAFTER WE GET TO COMPARISON
- WHEREAFTER APPEAR MOST OF THE INFORMATION OF BOTH THE PERSONS I.E.
OF THE CANDIDATE AND THAT OF THE MATCH SEARCHED.
- EACH COLUMN IS COMPARED AND IN PARTICULAR ARE CHECKED
-LOCATION WHICH MEANS PLACE OF WORK
-SPECIAL REMARKS BOX – WHICH CONTAINS ALL RESTRICTIVE
CONDITIONS
- IF ALL INFORMATION AND VERIFICATION SEEM TO BE, MATCH IS SENT BY CLICKING
AT TO SEND MAIL, THEREAFTER THE ENTIRE BIODATA VICE VERSA HIDING INFORMATION
ABOUT CONTACTS LIKE PHONE NUMBERS, MAIL ID, HOUSE NUMBER ETC. REACHES BOTH
THE PARTIES.
WHILE MAKING SELECTION, IN PARTICULAR FOLLOWING FACTORS ARE FULLY VERIFIED
AND AT TIME DISCRETION FOR MINOR VARIATIONS IS EXERCISED WHICH RELATE TO:
In height, in weight, income, age, location for example one is not working but
has opted for Delhi NCR, while the profile is very good of the boy but is working
in Punjab, for example, we use our discretion and as such in match making, send
their biodatas vice versa.
Given below is an example of the matches sent for your perusal and for appreciation/understanding:
MALE
DOB:01/14/1996 Age:26 years, 8 months, 11 days years oldD. Age:22 - 25Birth Time:14:58:00 Family Outlook:Traditional & ModernD. Family Outlook:Traditional & ModernFamily Structure:Joint FamilyD. Family Structure:Nuclear, MicroReligion:HinduD. Religion:HinduSect:BaniyaD. Sect:BaniyaCasteAggarwalD. Caste:Maglik:Not ManglikD.Maglik:Not ManglikMarital Status:Never MarriedD. Marital Status:Never MarriedIncome:125000D. Monthly Min. Income:No IssueEducation:M. TechD. Academic:GraduateProfessional:NAD. Professional:NAOccupation:BusinesspersonD. Occupation:Working jobWork Location:DelhiD. Work Location:Delhi NCRHeight:5 feet 8 inchD. Height:5 feet 3 inch - 5 feet 5 inchWeight:60D. Weight:50 - 55Body Type:AverageD. Body Type:AverageFacial Color:FairD. Complexion:Fair & WheatishFamily Status:Upper MiddleD. Family Status:Upper MiddleCountry:IndiaD. Country:IndiaState:DelhiD. State:DELHI NCRCity:DelhiD. City:DELHI NCRSmoke:Non SmokerD. Smoking Habits:Non SmokerDrink:Non DrinkerD. Drinking Habits:Non DrinkerDiet:EggetarianD. Food Habits:vegetarianNationality:D.Nationality:IndiaJanam Patri:YesD. JanamPatri:YesSpecial Remarks:1)Contact person & relation-Father(Mr.Sanjay) 2)Gotra-Goyal 3)Native place-Gurgaon,Haryana 4)Vehicle in family-1 car,3 bike 5)Qualification - B.tech in Aerospace Engineering (Amity University).. and Masters in Aerospace Engineering from Coventry University,London (UK)D. Special Remarks:1)Essential-Working Profiles
; DOB:11/05/1999 Age:22 years, 10 months, 20 days years oldD. Age:24 - 27Birth Time:09:36:00 Family Outlook:Traditional & ModernD. Family Outlook:Traditional & ModernFamily Structure:Nuclear FamilyD. Family Structure:Nuclear, MicroReligion:HinduD. Religion:HinduSect:BaniyaD. Sect:BaniyaCasteGuptaD. Caste:Maglik:Not ManglikD.Maglik:Not ManglikMarital Status:Never MarriedD. Marital Status:Never MarriedIncome:100000D. Monthly Min. Income:150000 & AboveEducation:BBAD. Academic:GraduateProfessional:NAD. Professional:Degrees HolderOccupation:ManagerD. Occupation:Working job & BusinesspersonWork Location:Noida,UPD. Work Location:Delhi NCRHeight:5 feet 3 inchD. Height:5 feet 6 inch - 5 feet 8 inchWeight:60D. Weight:65 - 75Body Type:AverageD. Body Type:AverageFacial Color:WheatishD. Complexion:Fair & WheatishFamily Status:Upper MiddleD. Family Status:Upper MiddleCountry:IndiaD. Country:IndiaState:Uttar PradeshD. State:DELHI NCRCity:NoidaD. City:DELHI NCRSmoke:Non SmokerD. Smoking Habits:Non SmokerDrink:Non DrinkerD. Drinking Habits:Non DrinkerDiet:vegetarianD. Food Habits:vegetarianNationality:D.Nationality:IndiaJanam Patri:NoD. JanamPatri:NoSpecial Remarks:1)Contact person & relation-Father(Mr.R.K Gupta) 2)Gotra-Mahaur 3)Native place-Noida,UPD. Special Remarks:1)Banking Sector will Prefer
Thus you will see that we used our discretion whereas the girls is desiring income of boy R150,000 while the boy is earning Rs125,000 as it was very difficult to find a match at this age and also have
one or two minor discretions.
Thus it is our manner of making search of matches and sending those which match with each other
absolutely correct with our minor discretion.
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Explained by vasdevloond, founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, cost free marriage bureau
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MARRIAGE … CHAPTER .. VI 16-9-22
-HAVING DISCUSSED HOW MATCH MAKING IS DONE THROUGH BASIC SEARCH
NOW I TRY TO EXPLAIN AS TO HOW WE SEARCH MATCHES THROUGH ADVANCED
SEARCH, WHY AND HOW IT WORKS:
1. IF WE DO NOT FIND ANY MATCH IN BASIC SEARCH OR NEED MORE, THEN WE
GET TO ADVANCED SEARCH WHEREIN WE NEED TO FILL IN ALMOST ALL MAJOR
INFORMATION LIKE 1. DESIRED AGE, MANGLIK, NON-MANGLIK OR ANSHIK
MANGLIK, RELIGION HINDU, MUSLIM ETC., , THEN COMMUNITY, HEIGHT,
INCOME, QUALIFIATIONS, JOB AND JOB LOCATION ETC. ETC.
2. AFTER THAT WE CLICK ON SUBMIT, WE FIND MANY BIODATAS AS PER INFORMATION
ALREADY FILLED IN THE ADVANCED SEARCH PROGRAMME.
3. IN ORDER TO SORT OUT WHETHER ANY MATCHES HAVE BEEN SENT ALREADY,
THROUGH THE PROGRAMME, ALL SUCH NAMES APPEAR IN YELLOW COLOUR
AND AS SUCH WE KNOW THERE IS NO NEED TO SEND THESE AGAIN.
4. FROM THE BALANCE TO DO MATCH MAKING AS WE DID IN THE BASIC SEARCH.
5. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FOR SENDING MATCHES, IN BASIC WE CLICK AT
INDICATION AGAINST THE NAME AND THEN CLICK AT THE COMPARISON, AND
IF WE ARE SATISFIED WITH ALL PARAMETERS, WE CLICK AT SUBMIT AND THE
MATCHES GET TO BOY AND GIRL VICE VERSA
WHILE IN THIS ADVANCE SEARCH, FOR THE MATCHES SELECTED AND TO BE
SENT, WE NOTE DOWN NAME AND MAIL ID OF ALL MATCHES SELECTED AND
SEND TO BOTH BOY AND GIRL THROUGH THEIR MAIL IDs BY OPERATING AT
SEND USER BIODATA.
6. BESIDES ALL MENTIONED ABOVE, THERE DOES EXIST JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE
PROGRAMME THROUGH WHICH WE CHECK WHETHER JANAMAPATRI PARAMETERS
MEET THE REQUIREMENTS AND THOSE WHEREIN APPEAR 50% OR MORE, ONLY THOSE
MATCHES ARE SENT WHILE THE REST EVEN IF OK, ARE CANCELLED AND ARE NOT
SENT. THIS OPERATION IS DONE ONLY FOR THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
AND WANT TO VERIFY THAT ASTROLOGICALLY THEIR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE
SUCCESS IN LIFE AFTER THE MARRIAGE.
-WITH THESE OPERATIONS, OUR PROCESS OF MATCH GETS OVER AND THEREAFTER
WE LOOK TO FINDING THOSE WHO LIKE THE BIODATAS OF EACH OTHER AND FOR
THIS, CALLS ARE DONE FOR 4 DAYS AND FOLLOW UP IS DONE ON REMINDERS WHICH
APPEAR IN A LIST OF ALL THOSE PERSONS WHO HAVE NOT REPLIED AND FOR WHOM
COULD NOT FIND MATCHES DURING THE LAST MONTH..
- BEFORE I GET TO HOW MEETINGS ARE HELD, LET ME GET TO EXPLAIN AS TO HOW WE
GET NEW BIODATAS
- WE GET BIODATAS INQUIRIES THROUGH 2 AGENCIES WHOM WE HAVE CONTRACTED,
ON DAILY BASIS PRACTICALLY BY MAKING CALLS ON ALL THE INQUIRIES RECEIVED,
WE GET 6-7 BIODATAS AND ON THE BASIS OF CALL RECEIVED FROM INTERESTED
PARTIES, ALMOST 1-2 BIODATAS DAILY ARE RECEIVED. THUS WE GET ALMOST 8
NEW BIODATAS DAILY, APPROXIMATELY 200 PER MONTH. THESE NEW BIODATAS
HELP US TO SEARCH MATCHES FOR THOSE FOR WHOM WE DID’NT FIND THE MATCHES
AND ALSO TO ADD TO THE BIODATA POOL.
- BESIDES PROMOTIONS ARE BEING DONE THROUGH FACEBOOK AND BY FREE DISTRIBUTION
OF BOOKS PUBLISHED BY THE UNDERSIGNED REGARDING MARRIAGE ETC.
-NEXT WILL GO IN FOR HOW MEETINGS ARE CALLED OF THOSE TWO PARTIES WHO
HAVE APPROVED EACH OTHER AND ALSO HOW ARE HANDLED THOSE WHO CANNOT
COME FOR THE MEETING CONDUCTED BY THE UNDERSIGNED.
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Explained by vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage
Bureau, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 www.vasdevloond@gmail.com www.
vasdevloond@marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
 -ESSENTIAL IT IS LET THE READERS AND INTERESTED SPOUSES KNOW AS TO WHAT ARE THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS OF MGNC BEFORE GETTING REGISTERED IF THEY WANT SO. ........................................................................... MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT –MGNC dated 18-09-2022 PROCEDURE AND CONDITIONS; 1. It is essential that the candidate gives his/her mail id, phone/ mobile number, whatsapp number and for alternate contacts mail id, phone number of any of his/her family member is to be essentially given.. 2. All messages will be sent through mail id only and NOT NOT in whatsapp, nor by messages, nor by any other alternative. 3. All messages will be prefixed/begin with MGNC (abbreviation of Marriage Guidance New Concept) 4. How to open biodatas -press at the CLICK button 5. How to reply: at the end of biodata, there are 2 click buttons indicating APPROVED OR DISAPPROVED 6. How to send approval or disapproval: click at the Approved or Disapproved buttonas you decide. 7. Purpose of clicking at approved or disapproved click button (1) The 2nd party will get intimated whether you have approved or disapproved, as also MGNC will see in the MGNC programme the action taken by you. 8. Follow-up: In follow up of approved biodata, 3 reminder messages go automatically to the 2nd party to give reply whether he/she approves or reject/disapprove. 9. On 5th day, if no reply is received from the 2nd party, MGNC staff calls the 2nd party to find out whether 2nd party’s approves or rejects/ disapproves the biodata of the 1st party. (a) If approved, approval indication will appear in our programme and the approval message will go to the 1st party automatically (b) If disapproved by the 2nd party, the message of rejection/disapproval will go automatically to the 1st party and also in MGNC programme. 10. In case of REJECTION by 2nd party, automatic reminders list appears EVERY MONTH with the names for whom matches are still to be searched, after taking this reminder list, MGNC staff will search the matches and if found some matches, MGNC staff will send those matches to the client whose biodata was not approved last month. Hence there is no need to call MGNC staff, follow up is taken care by the MGNC staff by themselves automatically. 11. Limit to send biodatas has been fixed at 20 (twenty) biodatas FREE OF COST or by 6 (six) months whichever is earlier. 12. If the client is satisfied and wants to continue, then he/she will have to remit Rs5000/- (five thousand) to MGNC account to continue further which however is subjected to the discretion of Mr Vas Dev Loond, founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept(MGNC) to allow continuation of biodata free of cost, depending on the financial capacity of the candidate. 13. Continuation of registered biodata, after the limit of sending 20 biodata is exhausted or 6 months are over, is restricted to either payment of -2- Rs5000 or by discretion allowed by Mr. Vas Dev Loond 14. After BOTH PARTIES have approved each other, following process is undertaken by MGNC staff: (a) NOC (no objection letter) is sent to both the parties to confirm their acceptance for giving their contacts, mail, phone numbers to each one vice versa, which is applicable and is restricted: FOR THOSE WHO ARE LIVING FAR AWAY AND ARE NOT LIVING IN DELHI NCR WILL BE GIVEN NOC AND AFTER CONFIRMATION FROM BOTH THE PARTIES, MGNC SHALL SEND TO EACH VICE VERSA BIODATA OF EACH WITH ALL CONTACTS LIKE MAIL ID, CELL/PHONE NUMBER, HOUSE ADDRESS, LOCATION OF WORK ETC. (b) FOR THOSE LIVING IN DELHI NCR, ALL EFFORTS ARE MADE TO CALL BOTH THE PARTIES WHO HAVE APPROVED THE BIODATAS, TO MGNC OFFICE TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH OTHER, MAKE BOY AND GIRL TALK TO EACH OTHER INDIVIDUALLY AND PRIVATELY AND TO ENGAGE IN DISCUSSIONS AND GUIDANCE ABOUT ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR OF PARENTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF BOY AND GIRL AFTER THEIR MARRIAGE TAKES PLACE. © This meeting is held FREE OF COST in pursuance of social service to the concerned parties. 15. When approval is received from both the parties, MGNC staff engages in taking following action: (a) MGNC staff gives there and then complete biodatas vice versa to each of them to discuss and decide about house visits, conduct inquiries, engagement and marriage process etc. etc. (b) if approval from either of the party is NOT RECEIVED, then CONTACT INFORMATION IS NOT GIVEN TO THE OTHER AT ALL. 16. OBLIGATION: if for certain reasons, meetings and discussions fail, in that case, the party interested who wants to get more biodatas, SHALL HAVE TO GIVE MGNC STAFF REASONS FOR REJECTION and thereafter this information of rejection will be computed in the biodata and sending of more biodatas based on those reasons of rejections will start. (a) If meeting is to be conducted in MGNC staff presence, and then if either of the 2 parties fails to come/present for the meeting, for whatsoever reasons, for having wasted MGNC staff time and also of the other party who had come specifically for the meeting, his/her biodata is invalidated and is relieved only if commitment is made about not repeating such mistake or excuse hereafter.. 17. COMPLIANCE OF NOC (NO OBJECTION LETTER): it clearly and fully specifies that if and until and unless all the requirements of NOC letter will be met by both the parties, the biodata vice versa will not be parted with by the MGNC staff to either of them. (a) for giving full contacts/complete biodata by MGNC staff, it is ESSENTIAL that the client has confirmed and given approval to part with his/her contacts/biodata to the other party, as a measure of safety and secrecy of information as given to MGNC staff by the client. -3- 18.NO REPLY AND NON RECEIPT OF CALLS BY CLIENTS: should the client not reply to the documents like biodata computation, terms and conditions of MGNC, procedure and conditions sent herewith alongwith the registration, for 3 days, IT IS PRESUMED THATALL THESE DOCUMENTS HAVE BEEN CONFIRMED BY THE CLIENT and no objection shall be accepted after expiry of 3 days. 19.To ensure that our social work and cost free match making is being taken seriously by the clients, who do not care to reply back whether they like the match biodatas sent to them and also if not liked, despite calls made by MGNC staff on their phones, mobiles, whatsapp etc. we feel obliged to restrict this free to invalidate or cancel his/her biodata subject to the following conditions: (a) the concerned candidate confirms by mail and/or in writing that he/she shall never absent himself/herself after having given his/her acceptance to attend the meeting on the specified date/day and time and if ever this act of absence happens again, his/her biodata may be cancelled with no option to get it renewed. (b) if this act of absence happens 2nd time, then the absentee will necessarily have to remit payment of Rs5000/- in MGNC account and then and thereafter his/her biodata will be relieved for sending biodatas hereafter. 20. ESSENTIAL TO NOTE FOR MEETINGS HELD AND CONDUCTED BY MGNC STAFF, THERE ARE NO CHARGES AT ALL, AND AS SUCH CONSULTATION AND GUIDANCE ARE GIVEN TOTALLY FREE FOR THE BENEFIT OF THE CANDIDATES AND THEIR FAMILIES AS WELL. - (A)HOWEVER THOSE, NOT LIVING IN DELHI NCR, ONE OR BOTH, - NOC LETTER WILL BE ISSUED TO BOTH OF THEM FREE OF COST, ONLY AFTER CONFIRMATION OF SHARING BIODATAS VICE VERSA IS RECEIVED. (B)NOC COULD ALSO BE GIVEN TO THOSE LIVING IN DELHI NCR AS WELL PROVIDED THEY HAVE SOME SPECIFIC REASONS AND WHEREBY MGNC STAFF FEELS SATISFIED. 21. IF IN THE MEETING, REJECTION TAKES PLACE BY EITHER OR BOTH THE PARTIES, THERE IS NO CHARGE AT ALL, AS THE SOLE PURPOSE IS TO CONDUCT THE MEETING AND GIVE AS MUCH CONSULTATION AND GUIDANCE AS POSSIBLE. 22. WAIVER: In case there are some genuine reasons, the entire discretion lies with Mr Vas Dev Loond, founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, to waive ofF the restriction(s) and get the biodata validated. 23. l, Vas Dev Loond, as Founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, confirm to have stipulated the above terms and conditions to enable the spouses interested for marriage to know clearly the advantages and restrictions which need to be followed by the candidate, after his/her registration has been done.. ………………………………………………………………………
Chapter VIII 22-9-22
MARRIAE …. CHAPTER VIII 21-9-22
I SHALL ILLUSTRATE AS TO HOW MEETINGS ARE HELED IN MGNC OFFICE AT OKHLA
-THE UNDERSIGNED COMPARES THE BIODATAS OF BOY AND GIRL WHO HAD APPOVED THE
BIODATAS OF EACH OTHER AS INDICATED IN THE MATCH MAKING OF BOTH AND IF THERE
ARE ANY DIFFERENCES, THESE ARE JOTTED DOWN FOR PUTTING QUESTION TO THE CONCERNED
SPOUSE.
- NOTE IS TAKEN OF THE SPECIAL REMARKS, AND IF THERE IS ANY SPECIFIC REMARK, THEN
THAT IS NOTED TO ASK FOR CLARIFICATION AND ALSO TO CONFIRM WITH THE OTHER
PARTY.
-THERE EXISTS A REMARKS COLUMN IN THE BASIC BIODATA WHICH INDICATES HOW MANY
BIODATAS WE HAD SENT EARLIER AND WHICH HAD BEEN REJECTED FOR WHAT REASONS
THESE REMARKS ARE NOTED DOWN AND ARE SPECIFICALLY ASKED FROM THE SPOUSE
CONCERNED FOR CLARIFICATIONS AS ALSO KEEP HIM/HER INFORMED OF THE REASONS FOR
WHICH HE/SHE HAD REJECTED THE BIODATAS SENT EARLIER.
-IN THIS REMARKS COLUMN, WE ALSO SEE WHAT REMARKS WE HAD GIVEN IN CASE OF
REJECTIONS ETC.
-THEREAFTER WE LOOK TO THE DESIRES PART OF BOTH THE SPOUSES AND CHECK THE
VARIANCE IF ANY AND IN CASE OF VARIATIONS, DO JOT DOWN TO CHECK SPECIFICALLY
ON THOSE POINTS
FOR EXAMPLE, ONE IS MENTIONING FOR VEG AND THE OTHER IS MENTIONING VEG
AND NON-VEG, WILL CHECK WHETHER VEG WILL AGREE TO NON-VEG AND IF NOT,
WILL ASK THE OTHER PERSON, WILL HE/SHE ACCEPT TO BE VEG, POSSBLY HE/SHE
MAY SAY, NOT AT HOUSE, THEN STILL SEEK CLARIFICATION WHETHER THE VEG WILL
AGREE AND WHEN THEY GO TO RESTAURANT, WILL THEY ORDER SEPARATE MEALS
AND WILL THEY EAT TOGETHER OR SEPARATE, MAYBE ONE WHO IS VEG MAY NOT
ACCEPT THE SMELL OF NON-VEG
- ADVISE BOTH OF THEM THAT MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHANGE AND ACCEPTABILITY
AND IF THIS SMALL UNDERSTANDING AND ACCOMMODATION IS NOT DONE, THEN
HOW THE LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE WILL BE MANAGED.
- DEPSITE THIS ADVICE AND INSISTENCE BY VEG AS ALSO BY NON-VEG, WE DO PUT
IN BASIC BIODATA REMARKS COLUMN FOR VEG, PURE VEG AND FOR NON-VEG
DELETE VEG, AND KEEP NON VEG ONLY, HENCE THERE IS NO CONFUSION FOR
SENDING FUTURE BIODATAS.
- LIKEWISE WHATEVER FACTORS WHICH ARE OBSERVED IMPORTANT TO MENTION
WE DO MENTION, FOR EXAMPLE CASUAL DRINK, WORKING HOURS, AND AT TIMES
COME TO KNOW THAT WORKING JOB IS AT NIGHT AND/OR BY SHIFTS, LIKEWISE
THOSE WHO WORK IN NAVY, MILITARY ETC.THAT INFORMATION IS SPECIFICALLY
MENTIONED, SO ON AND SO FORTH.
- IT IS ALSO ESSENTIAL TO MENTION THAT MOST OF THE TIME BIODATA IS NOT SEEN BY
THE CONCERNED SPOUSE AND IS SEEN BY FATHER, MOTHER, BROTHER ETC. IN THIS
CASE BIODATA OF EACH IS READ OUT SO THAT THE CONCERNED SPOUSE KNOWS
EXACTLY WHOM HE/SHE IS GOING TO MEET AND WHAT ARE HIS/HER PARTICULARS.
-SUCH SPOUSE(S) WHO DO NOT SEE THE BIODATA, ARE ADVISED TO ENSURE THAT THEY
MUST SEE THE BIODATA HIMSELF/HERSELF SERIOUSLY AND TREAT SELECTION OF BIODATA
AS HIS/HER LIFE EXAM WHICH SHALL DETERMINE HIS/HER MARRIED LIFE.
-FURTHER TO ENSURE THIS BINDING, WE GET PERSONAL MAIL ID AND PHONE NUMBER
OF THE SPOUSE CONCERNED SO THAT HE/SHE CAN SEE THE BIODATAS, CHECK AND
APPROVE WHAT HE/SHE LIKES, IT IS LEFT TO HIM/HER TO CONSULT HIS/HER FAMILY
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- MEMBERS OR NOT.
-MEETING OF FAMILIES, BOY AND THE GIRL.
-IN THE MEETING, MGNC STAFF SUGGESTS TO THE SPOUSES TO BRING IN THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS
AN IF FOR SOME REASON, THE SPOUSES DO NOT BRING THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS ETC.
WE ACCEPT THAT AND CONDUCT THE MEETING.
-WE INSIST FOR THE PRESENCE OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS AS WE FEEL THAT NOW TIME HAS
CHANGED AND AS SUCH THE ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR OF THE PARENTS NEED TO CHANGE AND
SELECTION OF THE SPOUSE, BOY AND GIRL, SHOULD BE LEFT TO THEM, AS IT IS THEY WHO HAVE
TO LIVE THEIR LIFE, AND IF THEY WANT TO TAKE ADVICE OF THEIR PARENTS, IT IS LEFT TO THEM,
BUT OUR ADVICE REMAINS, THAT THERE SHOULDN’T BE COMPULSION FROM THEIR SIDE.
- LIKEWISE THERE ARE SO MANY FACTORS, LIKE JOINT FAMILY, MICRO UNIT, WORKING GIRL,
NON-WORKING GIRL, LIMITATION OF BEHAVIOUR, MANNERS, ATTITUDES, ADVANTAGES A
DISADVANTAGES OF WORKING AND NON WORKING GIRLS ETC. ETC
- IN SHORT PARENTS ARE CALLED TO LISTEN TO THEM, AND ADVISE WHAT WE FEEL IS ESSENTIAL
SO THAT ONCE THEIR CHILD GETS MARRIED, THE MARRIED LIFE GOES SMOOTH AND HAPPY.
- BOTH THE FAMILIES THUS MEET EACH OTHER, DO INTRODUCTION AND CHECK UP ON INQUIRIES
IF ANY.
- AFTER ABOUT 8-10 MINTUES AFTER BOTH THE FAMILIES HAVE SEEN THE BOY AND THE GIRL,
THE BOY AND GIRL ARE MADE TO SIT SEPARATELY TO TALK TO EACH OTHER AND KNOW ABOUT
WHAT EACH ONE HAS COME FOR TO KNOW ABOUT AND VERIFY WITH REGARD TO WHAT IS
MENTIONED IN THE BIODATA, WHICH GENERALLY HELPS EACH OF THEM TO CHECK ABOUT
COMPATABILITY TO FACIAL, BODY STRUCTURE AND TENTATIVE BEHAVIOUR AND ATTITUDE
ETC.
- SOON AS THEY FINISH THEIR TALK, EACH ONE GETS BACK TO HIS/HER FAMILY MEMBERS
TO EXPRESS HIS/HER VIEWS, HOLD DISCUSSIONS AND MAKE UP MIND TO INFORM MGNC
STAFF ABOUT THEIR DECISION.
- THIS INFORMATION FROM EACH SPOUSE AND HIS/HER FAMILY IS TAKEN SEPARATELY AND
SECRETLY IN ORDER TO GET EACH ONE’S VIEWS INDEPENDENTLY AND SECRETELY WITHOUT
KNOWING OR BEING COMMUNICATING AS TO WHAT ARE THE VIEW OF THE OTHER PARTY.
- AFTER VIEWS OF BOTH THE PARTIES ARE KNOWN, IF APPROVAL IS OBTAINED FROM BOTH
THE PARTIES, THEN BIODATAS VICE VERSA WITH PERSONAL PHONE NUMBERS, LOCATIONS
ARE GIVEN IN FULL TO EACH ONE.
- IF ONE OF THE PARTY REJECTS, THEN IT IS TAKEN REJECTION OF BOTH THE PARTIES,
AND ARE INFORMED THAT THEY WILL BE RECEIVING NEW BIODATAS HEREAFTER AS USUAL.
- AND FROM THE FAMILY, WHO REJECTS, SPECIFIC REASONS ARE ASKED FOR, AND WHICH
ARE IMPORTANT TO BE MENTIONED IN HIS/HER BIODATA, THOSE ARE NOTED DOWN
AND COMPUTED IN HIS/HER BIODATA SO THAT FUTURE BIODATAS ARE SENT SPECIFICALLY
BY TAKING THESE NEW ADDITIONS INTO ACCOUNT.
- FOR THOSE WHO HAD APPROVED EACH OTHER AND TAKEN THEIR BIODATA VICE VERSA,
ARE EXPLAINED AS TO HOW HOUSE VISITS ARE CONDUCTED, INQUIRIES TO BE DONE,
AND IF EVERYTHING GOES, BETTER TO LET THE BOY AND GIRL MEET EACH OTHER, VISIT
EACH OTHER’S HOUSE, MEET THE FAMILIES, FAMILIARISE WITH THEM, AND AS SUCH
GETTING TO MARRIAGE AND LEADING MARRIED LIFE GETS EASIER AND COMFORTABLE
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MARRIAGE … CHAPTER IX 23-9-22
-IN PURSUIT OF AS TO HOW MEETING IS CONDUCTED IN MGNC OFFICE,
HEREUNDER IS GIVEN COMPARISON OF BOY AND GIRL WHO HAVE APPROVED
EACH OTHER AND HAVE AGREED TO COME TO MGNC OFFICE FOR THE MEETING.
- AFTER THE HANDWRITTEN COMPARISON OF BASICS IN BIODATAS, SHALL ALSO
APPEAR THE POINTS REGARDING CLARIFICATIONS WILL BE SOUGHT FROM THE
CONCERNED PARTY/PARTIES
- AND IF AFTER GETTING CLARIFICATIONS, NECESSARY CLARIFICATIONS/ADDITIONS/
ALTERATIONS WILL BE MENTIONED IN THE BIODATA OF THE CONCERNED PARTY.
- AND IF FELT NECESSARY, THE CLARIFICATIONS ARE COMMUNICATED TO THE
OTHER PARTY FOR INFORMATION AND UNDERSTANDING.
COMPARISON OF BASIS AND DESIRES
OF BOTH THE PARTIES AGREED TO ATTEND
THE MEETING.
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MALE FEMALE
Basic Desires )( Basic Desires
-Age 27.3 … 23-26 ………. 26.5 26-28
-family traditional traditional ……… traditional traditional
Outlook & modern & modern & modern
-family nuclear nuclear-micro ……… nuclear-micro nuclear-micro
Structure
-religion hindu hindu …….. hindu hindu
-sect Khatri Khatri …….. Khatri Khatri
-caste pahuja - ……. Arora …
-manglik anshik anshik manglik …….. don’t know don’t know ……………..
-marital never never ……. Never never
Status married married married married
-income Rs80,000 no issue Rs41,666 Rs100,000 ………………
-addl income nil - - nil -
-education M.COM Graduate B.Sc Graduate
-professional C.A NA NA NA
-occupation Asst.Manager working/not working CHO working/business
-is job yes No, foreign no …. no no
trasferable
-work Gurgaon Delhi NCR ….. Gurgaon Delhi NCR ……………….
Location
- Height 5.10 5.5 to 5.7 ……. 5.2 5.6 to 5.9 ……………….
-weight 80 60-70 ……. 59 70-80
-body type average average ……. average average
-facial colour fair fair-wheatish …… fair fair-wheatish
-family status middle middle ….. middle middle &upper middle
-house/flat house house …… house house
-owned/rented owned ….. ….. owned owned
-house/flat area 150 gaj ….. ….. 150 gaj ………
-country India India ,,,,, India India
-state Haryana Delhi NCR … …. Haryana Haryana
-City Gurgaon Delhi NCR …… Jind Gurgaon
-smoke non-smoker non-smoker ,,,,, non-smoker non-smoker
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-drink non-drinker non-drinker …. Non-drinker non-drinker
-diet non-veg veg & non-veg … veg veg & non-veg …………
-janampatri yes yes ….. no no
-SPECIAL REMARKS SPECIAL REMARKS
Native place Gurgaon …… ….. 1 car, 1 bike, 1 scooty -1st preference business
Family annual income person
23 lakhs -business family -
Working preferred Professional: nursing & -height 5.6 to 5.10
Diploma in community essential
Health.
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ANALYSIS OF ABOVE BASICS AND DESIRES;
All items which need clarifications I have marked…………, and which relate to 1. Don’t know 2. income difference. 3. delhi NCR 4. Height 5. Diet 6.location.
Manglik: girl desires: don’t know, in question, whether she will accept manglik, non-manglik as well
she needs to clarify, as otherwise biodatas of manglik
and non-manglik she might be rejecting and MGNC
will be wasting their time.
Income: desired income is Rs80,000 ….. in what consideration, the girl is opting for Rs80,000
will she accepting biodatas with income of Rs80,000
and/or some conditions attached to this income
of Rs80,000 p.m.
Work Location: Delhi NCR …… ……. Delhi NCR means anywhere in Delhi NCR, for
example, will she accept profiles from Shahdara
when she is working in Gurgaon
Height: Boy is desiring height of girl to Needs to be asked whether he has read the
be 5.5 minimum biodata himself and needs to confirm whether
5.2 is ok against his desires 5.5 and whether
he will be accepting height 5.2 and/or there are
some conditions attached thereto
VEG & NON VEG: Girl is veg, but is opting Does she carry any restrictions that non-veg will
for non-veg as well. not be cooked in the house 2. If all members
of the boy are non-veg, will she cook or order
veg for herself3. does non-veg smell affect her.
4. If to live in micro unit, will she cook for the
husband or not 5. Does she believes in to mould
herself and become non-veg.
TO ASK THE BOY AS WELL, since the girl is veg,
is there any problem for him not to eat non-
veg at all, and if not, to ask for reasons, besides
MGNC staff explaination, if for such a small
thing, you do not opt to mould yourself and
change to veg, how you will manage with so
responsibilities and issues after marriage.
NOW IN THIS PARTICULAR CASE 39 biodatas were sent, almost all were rejected, for what reasons.
these are specified in brief as under:
1.varun and many others: do not fall in the desired age of 27 or maximum 28 yrs. In MGNC search
for matches, the age difference remains from few months to 4 years and in extreme, if no biodatas
are found, gets to 5 years as well. HENCE ESSENTIAL IT NEEDS TO BE EXPLAINED THAT IF SHE STICKS
TO 28 MAXIMUM, WHILE HER AGE IS 26.5, HARDLY THERE WILL BE ANY BIODATAS AVAIABLE,
HENCE TO EXPLAIN AND GET FIRM REPLY. SHALL BE ASKED AND COMPUTED.
2. LOCATION OF BOY IS GHAZIABAD, while she says that she wants Gurgaon only. Hence question
to be asked shall relate to, “why she is desiring DLHI NCR, let her be specific for Gurgaon only.
(b) also essential to explain that while selecting where one is working, generally one wants
the spouse to work in the same city, which in other terms is called location of work, hence
in desires, must be specified against location, where one is working, until and unless the
job is transferable. For example, someone is posted in Karnataka and for time being is working
from home in Delhi, hence the desire must specify Karnataka and not Delhi, as sooner or later
the person working in Delhi, will have to get back to Karnataka, unless he/she opts to leave
the job, and if that happens, the 2nd party will not be accepting his/her match.
3. Anshik Manglik: in desires she says, don’t know, then why she is rejecting anshik manglik,
essential therefore is and MGNC shall ask her to specify, if not anshik manglik, will she agree
to mangliks and non-mangliks or which.
4. No reply: if some biodatas are found not suitable, no reply is given. MGNC staff explains
that it is essential that candidate must indicate non-interested/not suitable, so that MGNC
staff knows and the boy/girl who has approved also knows/is informed.
ALL THIS INFORMATION IS COLLECTED, TO GET CLARIFICATIONS AS ALSO IF FOR SOME
REASONS APPROVALS DO NOT HAPPEN, THEN ALL CLARIFICATIONS ARE COMPUTED IN
THE BIODATA AND AS SUCH MORE PRECISE MATCHES ARE SENT AND TIME WASTAGE OF
MGNC STAFF IS AVOIDED.
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NEXT CHAPTER WILL COVER AS TO HOW MEETINGS ARE CONDUCTED.
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CHAPTER X 25-9-22
25-9-22
-HOW MEETINGS ARE CONDUCTED, IS EXPLAINED HEREUNDER.
-BOTH PARTIES GENERALLY COME IN GROUPS OF BOY AND GIRL
INDIVIDUALLY AND SEPARATELY WITH HIS/HER FAMILY MEMBERS.
-BOTH GROUPS ARE SEATED SEPARATELY MUCH AWAY FROM EACH
OTHER.
-THE PURPOSE TO MAKE BOTH SIT SEPARATELY, IS THAT ALL DISCUSSIONS
WHICH CONCERN ONE PARTY ARE NOT KNOWN TO THE OTHER, AND ALL
KEPT SECRET.
-THESE TWO QUESTIONS ARE NECESSARILY ASKED FROM THE BOY AND
THE GIRL WHEN MGNC FOUNDER VASDEVLOOND SITS FOR DISCUSSION
AND CLARIFICATIONS INDIVIDUALLY WITH EACH GROUP:
-THE BOY AND GIRL INDIVIDUALLY ARE ASKED WHETHER YOU HAVE SEEN,
READ AND UNDERSTOOD THE BIODATA BEFORE GIVING APPROVAL WHILE
MOST OF THE TIME REPLY COMES THAT MY FATHER, MOTHER OR BROTHER
HAS SEEN.
VASDEVLOOND TELLS THE BOY AND THE GIRL CONCERNED THAT MARRIAGE
IS HIS/HER LIFE EXAM, PLEASE DO ENSURE THAT YOU TAKE PERSONAL INTEREST
IN BIODATAS AS AND WHEN THESE ARE SENT AND GIVE YOUR VIEWS IN APPROAL
OR REJECTION AS YOU LIKE AS ALSO WHETHER YOU MAY LIKE TO CONSULT YOUR
FAMILY OR NOT, IS YOUR OWN CHOICE.
(B) IF PERSONAL PHONE NUMBER, WHATSAPP AND MAIL ID ARE NOT GIVEN
OF THE BOY OR THE GIRL, THEN THIS INFORMATION IS TAKEN AND COMPUTED
IN THE PROGRAMME.
© FURTHER EACH ONE, THE BOY AND GIRL, ARE EMPHATICALLY EXPLAINED THAT
NOW THEY HAVE BECOME ADULT, WHILE THEY TAKE ALL DECISIONS IN THEIR
WORK PLACE ALONE BY THEMSELVES, THEN WHY NOT HIMSELF/HERSELF
DECIDE ABOUT APPROVAL OR REJECTION OF BIODATAS AND SO ALSO FOR
THE MARRIAGE.
(D) THEY ARE ALSO EXPLAINED IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG, THEN PARENTS WILL
BE BLAMED AS IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO BLAME OTHERS FOR THE FAULT WHETHER
IT HAPPENS BY HIM/HER AND IF DECISION IS TAKEN BY HIM/HER, THEN THERE IS
NO SCOPE TO BLAME PARENTS ETC.
( E) PARENTS ARE ALSO ADVISED THEY MUST TREAT THEIR CHILDREN AS ADULT
AND ALLOW THEM TO TAKE THEIR OWN DECISION AS IT IS THEY WHO HAVE TO
LIVE THEIR LIFE, HENCE NO INFLUENCE NEED TO BE EXERCISED AT ALL AND IF
THE CHILD ASKS FOR THEIR VIEWS, THEY MAY EXPRESS THEIR VIEWS, BUT NEVER
NEVER INSIST AND COMPEL THE CHILD ON THEIR OWN VIEWS.
HOW AND IN WHAT MANNER MEETING AND DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD WITH
EACH GROUP INDIVIDUALLY.
- IF BIODATA HAS NOT BEEN READ BY THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED,
VASDEVLOOND READS OUT THE BIODATA IN FULL AND ALSO DRAWS HIS/HER
ATTENTION SPECIALLY TO THE POINTS WHEREIN ARE OBSERVED SOME DIFFERENCES.
-CLARIFICATIONS ARE SOUGHT ONLY AND SPECIFICALLY FROM THE BOY OR THE GIRL
CONCERNED, AND PARENTS/BROTHERS ETC. ARE REQUESTED NEITHER TO SPEAK NOR
TO INTERFERE AND AS SUCH ALLOW THE BOY OR THE GIRL CLEARLY
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OPEN HIS/HER MIND AND EXPLAIN AS HE/SHE FEELS AND THINKS.
-TO BE SPECIFIC IN THE PRESENT CASE AS SHOWN AND ELABORATED IN
CHAPTER IX, CLARIFICATIONS COULD BE ASKED FROM THE GIRL FOR THE
FOLLOWINGS:
-BOY IS NON VEG WHILE YOU ARE VEG, HOW YOU WILL MANAGE.
-INCOME YOU SPECIFIED TO BE Rs100,000 FOR WHAT REASONS
YOU ARE OPTING FOR Rs80,000 p.m.
-YOUR AGE IS 26.5 WHILE YOU ARE ASKING THE AGE OF THE BOY
TO BE MAXIMUM 28 YEARS, DO YOU NOT THINK THAT THIS
RESTRICTION WILL RESTRICT CHOICE OF MATCHES TO A GREAT
EXTENT WHILE THE GENERAL RULE IS THAT AGE DIFFERENCE
IS 4 YEARS BETWEEN THE BOY AND THE GIRL PL THEREFORE
BE SPECIFIC TO LET US KNOW WHETHER YOU STICK TO YOUR
DECISION OF 28 OR WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE TO 30 YEARS, TO
ENABLE MGNC STAFF TO COMPUTE FOR FUTURE SEARCH IF
NECESSARY.
- IN DESIRES YOU MENTION.. DELHI NCR, WHILE IN REMARKS FOR
REJECTIONS YOU INSIST FOR GURGAON ONLY. PLEASE SPECIFY
WHETHER GURGAON IS THE ONLY CHOICE AND/OR IF SOME GOOD
BIODATA IS FOUND, WILL YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND.
(B) WE DO UNDERSTAND LOCATION OF WORK PREFERABLY BEING
SAME IS CONVENIENT, BUT MANY DO NOT MIND THAT ALSO
IF LOCATIONS ARE IN DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS IN THE SAME
CITY/DELHI NCR ETC.
© AFTER MARRIAGE THE GIRL SHIFTS TO THE BOY’S HOUSE THEN
WHY YOU ARE PUTTING THE CONDITION FOR GURGAON ONLY.
-REGARDING MANGLIK, ANSHIK MANGLIK, NON-MANGLIK, YOU
SAY THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW, WHILE YOU HAVE REJECTED ANSHIK
MANGLIK, PLEASE SPECIFY WHAT YOU WANT, MANGLIK OR NON-MANGLIK.
SAME PROCEDURE IS APPLIED FOR THE BOY ALSO AND IF THERE ARE SOME
SPECIFIC QUESTIONS THESE ARE ASKED AND CLARIFICATION SOUGHT:
-IN THE PRESENT CASE OF EXAMPLE, FOLLOWNG QUESTIONS WILL BE
ASKED:
YOU ARE NON-VEG, WHILE THE GIRL IS VEG, WILL YOU TURN TO BEING
PURE VEGETARIAN AND IF NOT, HOW WILL YOU MANAGE, PLEASE
CLARIFY AND SPECIFY, KEEPING WELL IN VIEW THAT MARRIAGE INVOLVES
COMPATABILITY AND ACCEPTANCE OF EACH OTHER AS EACH ONE IS.
(B) FURTHER YOU DISCUSS THIS POINT WHEN YOU MEET WITH THE GIRL
SO THAT THERE IS CLARIFICATION AND AGREEMENT BEFORE APPROVAL
IS GIVEN.
2. IN YOUR DESIRES YOU HAVE MENTIONED THAT THE HEIGHT OF THE GIRL
NEEDS TO BE 5.5 WHILE THE HEIGHT OF THE GIRL IS 5.2, DO YOU MIND IT
OR THERE IS NO OBJECTION AT ALL.
ONCE THESE CLARIFICATIONS ARE SOUGHT, THE BOTH THE GROUPS INCLUDING
BOY AND GIRL ARE MADE TO SIT ACROSS EACH TO CONVERSERVE EASILY WITH
EACH OTHER AND AT THE SAME TIME BOTH THE FAMILIES AS ALSO THE BOY AND GIRL
CAN SEE EACH OTHER AND FORM THEIR VIEWS.
AFTER ABOUT 8-10 MINIUTES OF THIS MEETING, THEH BOY AND GIRL ARE MADE
TO SIT TOGETHER AND DISCUSS WITH EACH OTHER WHAT THEY WISH FOR
WHILE BOTH FAMILIES SIT TOGETHER TO FAMILIARISE WITH EACH OTHER AND SEEK CLARIFICATIONS ON WHATEVER DOUBTS COME TO THEIR MIND. ETC.
(A)IN THE NEXT CHAPTER, WHY MGNC INSISTS FOR MEETINGS AND DISCUSSIONS WITH
THE BOY, GIRL AND THEIR PARENTS, WILL BE DISCUSSED IN DETAIL AND IT IS THEREAFTER
(B)REGARDING MEETING OF THE BOY AND GIRL AND THEREAFTER FOR CONVEYEING THEIR VIEWS
TO EACH ONE’S FAMILY MEMBERS INDIVIDUALLY AND SECRETELY, WILL BE DISCUSSED IN
THE NEXT TO NEXT CHAPTER XII..
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CHAPTER XI 26-9-22
CHAPTER XI 26-9-22
MEETINGS BY MGNC; WHY IS IT ESSENTIAL FOR MGNC TO OBLIGE BOY AND GIRL AS ALSO THEIR FAMILIES TO COME TO MEETING ?
1. KEENNESS TO ORIENT THE BOY AND THE GIRL AS ALSO THEIR PARENTS TO CHANGE AND ADAPT
TO THE PRESENT ENVIRONMENTS AND MODE OF LIVING.
2. LET THE BOY AND GIRL AS ALSO THEIR FAMILY ACQUAINT, KNOW AND FAMILIARISE WITH EACH
OTHER.
3. BOY AND GIRL AFTER APPROVAL OF BIODATAS OF EACH AS ALSO THEIR FAMILIES ARE KEEN TO
TO SEE AND KNOW ABOUT THE GIRL AND THE BOY, VICE VERSA, AS ALSO TO MEET THE FAMILIES
TO CHECK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE, WHAT THEY ARE DOING, WHERE THEY ARE LIVING AND
WHAT ARE THEIR EXPECTATIONS ABOUT THE BOY AND THE GIRL, AS ALSO TO CLARIFY DOUBTS
IF ANY ABOUT THE INFORMATION GIVEN IN THE BIODATA OF BOY AND THE GIRL.
4. THE FOUNDER OF MGNC VASDEVLOOND FEELS THAT IT IS ESSENTIAL AND IS FOR THE
BENEFIT OF THE BOY AND THE GIRL AND THEIR FAMILIES TO MEET EACH OTHER, GET
CLARIFICATIONS OF THEIR DOUBTS OF ALL TYPES TO CHECK WITH EACH OTHER AS ALSO
TO GET CLARIFICATIONS FROM VASDEVLOOND AS WELL .
5. VASDEVLOOND BEFORE CONDUCTING MEETING WITH EACH FAMILY AND THE BOY OR THE GIRL
PREPARES QUESTIONS FROM THE BIODATA OF EACH AS TO WHICH ARE THE POINTS OF
DIFFERENCE WHICH NEED CLARIFICAIONS FROM THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
6. AS PER HIS EXPERIENCE, BIODATAS MOST OF THE TIME ARE SEEN BY THE FAMILY MEMBERS
AND NOT BY THE BOY OR THE GIRL, VASDEVLOOND FEELS IT IS ESSENTIAL TO CONVEY TO THE
BOY AND THE GIRL THAT IT IS ESSENTIAL THEY MUST SEE THE BIODATAS THEMSELVES TO MAKE
UP THEIR MIND AS TO WHICH BIODATA EACH ONE LIKES OR NOT AS TO DEPEND ON PARENTS
IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG, WILL PUT THEM TO BLAME THEIR PARENTS RATHER THAN
OWNING THE BLAME BY HIMSELF AND HERSELF, AS ALSO WHEN THE BOY AND THE GIRL ARE TO
LIVE THEIR OWN LIFE, THEN WHAT IS THE NEED TO COUNT ON PARENTS FOR MAKING CHOICE
AND SELECTION FOR THEM, AS ALSO NOW THEY ARE ADULTS, THEY ARE REQUIRED AND MUST
TAKE DECISIONS BY THEMSELVES AS ADULTS.
7. TO ELABORATE HIS POINT OF VIEW VASDEVLOOND MAKES THE BOY AND THE GIRL UNDERSTAND
THAT IF CHOICE IS LEFT TO PARENTS, WHO RATHER BELONG TO, HAVE LIVED IN AND BELIEVE IN
THE OLD CUSTOMS AND OLD WAY OF LIVING, WHILE THE WORLD AFTER INDUSTRULISATION
HAS CHANGED, THEIR MODE OF LIVING AND BEHAVIOUR HAVE GONE INTO ENORMOUS
CHANGE TOWARDS EQUALITY, IT IS THEREFORE ESSENTIAL THAT THE BOY AND GIRL MAKE
THEIR OWN DECISION, NEVER LEAVE IT TO PARENTS CHOICE AND IF THEY THINK, THEY CAN
CHECK THE VIEWS OF THEIR PARENTS FOR AND AGAINST, TO DISCUSS AND AS SUCH TO FIRM
UP HIS/HER DECISION TO APPROVE OR REJECT.
8. QUESTIONS FOR CLARIFICATIONS ARE ASKED FROM THE BOY AND THE GIRL AND MORE
SPECIFICALLY FROM THE BOY’S FAMILY 1. WHO TAKES CARE OF HOUSEHOLDS 2. WHO ENGAGES
IN COOKING AND WHEN THEY WILL GET THEIR DAUGHER IN-LAW, WILL THEY BE EXPECTING HER
TO COOK, ESPECIALLY IF THE CHOICE IS MADE FOR A WORKING GIRL 3. WHAT ARE THE
LIMITATIONS AND ADVANTAGES OF MAKING A CHOICE FOR THE WORKING GIRL, THE BOY
AND GIRL ARE ALSO EXPLAINED IN THE SAME MANNER 4. WHO KEEPS THE SALARY OF THE BOY
AND IS THE BOY QUESTIONED AS TO HOW HE IS SPENDING WHATEVER IS GIVEN AND/OR LEFT
TO HIM 5. WHO IS THE DECISION TAKER IN THE HOUSE, AND WHAT IS THE ROLE OF THE BOY
IN DECISION TAKING OF ALL KINDS 5. DO THEY EXPECT THAT THEIR DAUGHTER IN-LAW WILL
ALSO GIVE HER SALARY TO THEM, HUSBAND AND/OR WILL BE ALLOWED TO KEEP WITH HER
OR IT WILL BE LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISION AS THEY LIKE ETC. ETC
9. BOTH THE FAMILIES ARE EXPLAINED WHEN MARRIAGE IS DONE OF THE BOY AND GIRL, IT
ONE AS CORDIAL AND AS BEST AS POSSIBLE AS IT IS THEIR HAPPY RELATIONS WHICH DO
INFLUENCE THEITHEIR CHILDREN TO ENSURE HAPPY RELATIONS AMONGST THEMSELVES TO LIVE
A MARVELOUS MARRIED LIFE.
9. THE BOY IS EXPLAINED AS WELL IF HE WILL KEEP VERY GOOD RELATIONS WITH HIS IN-LAWS AND
WILL RESPECT AND BEHAVE WITH THEM LIKE A SON, THERE IS EVERY POSSIBILITY AND PARENTS
OF THE DAUGHTER WILL EXPLAIN AND ADVISE HER THAT THEIR SON IN-LAW IS A VERY GOOD BOY
AND IF THERE ARE SOME OF HIS COMPUSIONS IN HIS FAMILY, YOU DO MANAGE TO ADJUST
WITH THOSE IN PARTICULAR IN THE SAME MANNER AS YOU HAD BEEN ADJUSTING AND LIVING
IN THIS FAMILY.
10.THE GIRL IS EXPLAINED THAT SHE BEING TO THE NEW HOUSE AND WITH UNKNOW MEMBERS
OF HER HUSBAND’S FAMILY AS ALSO THEIR HABITS, ATTITUDES, DISCIPLINE, WAY OF LIVING,
PERCEPTIONS OF LIFE ETC. IT TAKES ABOUT A YEAR OR TWO AT THE MOST TO UNDERSTAND
AND ADJUST TO THE SITUATION AS IT IS AND/OR CHANGED A BIT ETC. AND THAT AFTER A
PERIOD OF A YEAR OR TWO, YOU ALL WILL CERTAINLY GET ADJUSTED TO EACH OTHER AND
AND WILL CERTAINLY BECOME THE MEMBER OF HUSBAND’S FAMILY TO BE CONSULTED,
DISCUSSED AND MAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER. HENCE PATIENCE AND TOLERANCE ARE
ESSENTIAL AS AFTER THIS PERIOD OF A YEAR OR TWO, SHE STARTS CONTROLLING THE
MANAGEMENT OF THE HOUSE, MORESO THE HUSBAND ALSO GETS ADJUSTED AND NEVER
TO FORGET THAT FINALLY YOU WILL TURN OUT TO BE ALL IN ALL IN THIS HOUSE AS OWNER
BESIDES THAT THE HUSBAND WILL ALSO ADJUST WITH YOU IN ALL RESPECTS, WHICH IS A
REALITY ESPECIALLY IN OLD AGE WHEN MAN REACHES, HE GETS RETIRED, BECOMES PHYSICALL
WEAK, DEPENDS FOR ALMOST ALL HIS NEEDS ON HIS WIFE, AS SUCH ALL POWER GES SHIFTED
THE WIFE AND NONE ELSE. HENCE THE GIRL IS ADVISED PLEASE TO KEEP PATIENCE, MANAGE T
ADJUS WITH THE HUSBAND AND HIS FAMILY AS BEST AS YOU CAN, MORESO BECOM MEMBER
OF YOUR HUSBAND’S FAMIY.
11. BOY IS ADVISED IN CLEAR TERMS THAT WIFE IS A PRIORITY WHICH DOES NOT MEAN THAT
PARENTS SHOULD BE NEGLECTED, BUT IF EXTREMES HAPPEN, WHILE ALL EFFORTS ARE MADE
THAT SUCH A SITUATION SHOULD NOT HAPPEN, AND IF IT HAPPENS AND BECOMES
UNAVOIDABLE TO MAKE A CHOICE BETWEEN PARENTS AND THE WIFE, IT IS ESSENTIAL THA
THE HUSBAND MUST TAKE SIDE OF THE WIFE DESPITE ALL CRITICISM BY AND PERSUATION
OF PARENTS TO THE CONTRARY, WHILE VASDEVLOOND FIRMLY BELIEVES AND EXPLAINS THA
IF THE RELATIONS OF THE HUSBAND REMAIN CORDIAL, THEN SOONER OR LATER THE PARENTS
DO ADJUSTIN PARTICULAR WHEN THE COUPLE WILL HAVING A NEWLY BORN CHILD,. H
FURTHER EXPLAINS A;SO TO ALL OF THEM IF SOMEHOW RELATIONS BETWEEN THE HUSBAND
AND HIS WIFE AS ALSO WITH YOU ALL WORSEN, THEN YOU WILL GET WORRIED AND
DISTURBED, MORESO YOUR SON, WHICH SITUTION WILL BECOME UNBEARABLE AND THE LIFE
WILL MOST PROBABLY TURN INTO ACCUSATIONS OF ALL TYPES. HENCE IT IS ALL THE MORE
DESIREABLE THAT YOU ALL ACCEPT YOUR SON AND HIS WIFE TO MOVE OUT AS THEY WANT,
RATHER DO ALL THAT THEY MOVE OUT IN AS CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP AS MUCH AS IS
POSSIBLE.
12. PARENTS ARE ALSO SUGGESTED THAT THEY MUST THINK FROM NOW ON THAT THEIR
CHILDREN IF THEY ARE IN JOB. COULD MOVE TO OTHER CITIES, COUNTRIES ETC. FOR THEIR
PROGRESS, HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY START PREPARING THEMSELVES TO LIVE
ON THEIR OWN AND THAT TIME OF DEPENDING ON CHILDREN IN THEIR OLD AGE EXISTS NO
MORE AND IF IT EXISTS, IT EXISTS IN TIME TO TIME MEETING EACH OTHER AND EXTENDING
SOME FINANCIAL HELP, BUT THAT PARENTS WILL LIVE WITH THEIR CHILDREN IS NEITHER
ADVISABLE NOR THE PARENTS SHOULD EVER THINK OF AS MORE OR LESS LIFE HAS CHANGED
TO MICRO UNITS AND ONCE CHILDREN, PARTICULARLY THEIR WIVES IN MICRO UNITS LIVE IN
THEIR OWN MANNER, AS SUCH IT BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE TO ALLOW OLD PARENTS TO LIVE
WITH THEM, NOT TO TALK OF COMFORTABLY, EVEN ADJUSTMENT BECOMES IMPOSSIBLE.
13. BESIDES DURING THE COURSE OF MEETINGS, IF EVER SOME QUESTIONS ARE ASKED,
VASDEVLOOND REPLIES TO THEM BASED ON HIS VAST EXPERIENCE IN ALL SPHERES
OF LIFE AND UNDOUBTEDLY ALL LEAVE WITH FULL SATISFACTION AND APPRECIATION
OF OUR SYSTEM OF MEETING, DISCUSSIONS, ANSWERS AND GUIDANCE.
NEXT CHAPTER WILL RELATE TO BOY AND GIRL MEETING AND THEIR DECISION FOR APPROVAL
OR DISAPPROVAL.
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Explained and written down by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept,
cost free marriage bureau, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
www.vasdevloond@marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
chapter xii 28-9-22
28-9-22
-BOY AND GIRL MEETING
-AFTER THE BOY AND GIRL HAVE BEEN BRIEFED ABOUT THE POINTS OF
DIFFERENES IN THEIR DESIRES AND WHERE NECESSARY, CLARIFICATIONS
FOR CERTAIN POINTS, FOR EXAMPLE VEG/NON VEG, LATE SHIFTS, JOINT/
NUCLEAR FAMILY, WORKING/NON WORKING, LOCATION SPECIFICATIONS
ETC. ETC.
-THE BOY AND GIRL ARE MADE TO SIT TOGETHER TO DISCUSS WHATEVER
THEY HAVE COME TO DISCUSS DURING THE MEETING AND IN PARTICULAR
THE CONCERN BOY/GIRL IS ADVISED TO TALK ABOUT AS TO
DIFFERENE OF DESIRES AND AS SUCH SEEK CLARIFICATION TO YOUR
SATISFACTION.
-SOON AFTER ABOUT 20-30 MINUTES OR BEFORE AS THE BOY AND GIRL
FINISH THEIR DISCUSSIONS, EACH ONE IS ADVISED TO SIT WITH HIS/HER
FAMILY MEMBERS, GIVE THEM HIS/HER VIEWS AND THEN AWAIT COMMENTS
VIEWS AND SUGGESTIONS FROM THE MEMBERS OF HIS/HE FAMILY, SO THAT
WHEN ASKED BY MGNC STAFF FOR YOUR DECISION WHETHER IT IS APPROVAL
OR REJECTION, THEN YOU SHOULD BE READY TO REPLY IN AFFIRMATIVE AND IF
NEGATIVE, REASONS THEREFOR, TO ENABLE MGNC STAFF TO COMPUTE
THE SPECIFIC REASONS AS POINTED OUT IN THE BIODATA FOR SENDING
MATCHES HEREAFTER IN FULL CONSIDERATION OF THE REASONS PUT
FORWARD NOW.
-QUITE MANY TIMES REJECTIONS RELATE TO ATTITUDE DOES NOT TALLY,
WHAT WAS WRITTEN IN THE BIODATA DID NOT TALLY, CASUAL DRINING
IS NOT CORRECT, HE/SHE IS REGULAR DRINKER, LOCATION , FAMILY SET-UP
ATTITIDE, WAY OF TALKING ETC. ETC.
-AGAINST ALL THESE REASONS WHATEVER IS SPECIFIC TO BE MENTIONED IN
THE BIODATA OF THE OTHER PARTY CONCERNED ARE NOTED DOWN BUT
WHEN IT IS SAID THAT ATTITUDE DOES NOT TALLY, IT IS DIFFICULT TO COMPUTE
IN THE BIODATA FOR FUTURE EXCEPT THAT IT IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS
COLUMN TO CHECK ABOUT IT IN THE FUTURE MEETINGS AND IF IT REPEATS,
THEN MGNC INSISTS ON GETTING CLARIFICATION IN DETAIL AS TO WHAT
HE/SHE MEANS ABOUT ATTITUDE, AND THOSE SPECIFICATIONS AND CLARIFICATIONS
THEN ARE COMPUTED IN THE BIODATA THAN PUTTING IN THE REMARKS COLUMN.
-NOW IF BOTH THE PARTIES APPROVE EACH OTHER, THEN THEY BOTH ARE GIVEN
THEIR BIODATA IN FULL WITH PERSONAL PHONE NUMBER, MAIL ID, WHATSAPP
NUMBER AND ALSO OF THE RELATIONS WHOMSOEVER HE/SHE WANTS TO GIVE,
THUS THIS VICE VERSA BIODATAS CONTAIN ALL INFORATION AS WAS CONVEYED
TO EACH OF THEM IN THE BIODATA WHICH WAS SENT TO HIM/HER BUT IN ADDITION
FULL HOUSE ADDRESS AND PERSONAL CONTACT WHICH ARE GIVEN IN THE ORIGINAL
BIODATA IS GIVEN TO EACH OF THEM VICE VERSA, ONLY AFTER HAVING RECEIVED
APPROVAL FROM BOTH, IN CONFIRMATION AND AFFIRMATION OF SECRECY
MAINTANED BY MGNC OF ALL INFORMTION GIVEN TO THEM BY THE CANDIDATE..
-BOTH THE FAMILIES ARE SPECIFICALLY INFORMED THAT INITIALLY IT IS THE GIRL
AND HER FAMILY WHO WILL VISIT THE BOY’S HOUSE AS IT IS THE GIRL WHO FINALLY
SHIFTS AND LIVES IN THE HOUSE OF THE BOY AND AS SUCH IT IS ESSENTIAL FOR
HER AND ALSO HER FAMILY, TO ASSURE THEM THAT SHE/THEIR DAUGHTER WILL
BE COMFORTABLE AFTER MARRIAGE TO BE IN BOY’S HOUSE AND WITH THE BOY’S
FAMILY MEMBERS, WHICH MAY GENERALLY RELATE TO KNOWING CURIOUSLY
BY THE GIRL AND HER FAMILY AS TO HOW IS THE SET UP OF THE HOUSE, HOW IT
IT IS KEPT CLEAN, WHAT IS THE ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS
AND ESSENTIALLY OF THE BOY, SORTED OUT AND CONCLUDED DURING THE DISCUSSION
AND SERVICING ETC. BESIDES GETTING CLARIFICATIONS FOR VARIOUS QUESTIONS
THE FAMILY MEMBERS OF THE GIRL HAVE COME FULLY PREPARED TO CHECK ABOOUT
-AT THE SAME TIME, ALL LADIES OF THE BOY’S FAMILY GROUP TOGETHR AROUND THE
GIRL TO GET INTRODUCED AND TO CHECK WHAT THEY FEEL ABOUT THE GIRL AND
SO ALSO THE GIRL GETS TO KNOW HOW IS BOY’S MOTHER SISTERS AND PERHAPS
WIFE/WIVES OF BOY’S BROTHERS. ETC.
- BOTH THE FAMILIES ARE ADVISED NOT TO BE ABRUPT TO GIVE THEIR REPLY IF NEGATIVE
AND INSTEAD TO REPLY, THAT AS IT IS A FAMILY MATTER, IT NEEDS DISCUSSION IN THE
THE FAMILY PARTICULARLY WITH THE GIRL, AND THEN DECISION WILL BE CONVEYED IN
A DAY OR TWO.
- IF THERE IS YES FROM THE GIRL AND HER FAMILY, THEN THE BOY AND HIS FAMILY VISIT
THE GIRL’S HOUSE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THE WHEREABOUTS OF THE GIRL’S FAMILY.
WHAT THEY ARE DOING, WHAT IS THEIR ATTITUDE, BEHAVIOUR ETC. SO THAT AFTER
MARRIAGE THE RELATIONS OF BOTH THE FAMILIES TURN OUT AND REMAIN CONGENIAL.
- IF BOTH SIDES AGREE TO MOVE FORWARD, THE MGNC STAFF EMPHAISES THAT EACH
OF THE FAMILY MUST TAKE OUT TIME, NECESSARILY STEAL ENOUGH TIME, TO MAKE ALL
SORTS OF INQUIRIES WHATEVER THEY FEEL LIKE, WHICH IS VERY ESSENTIAL TO AVOID ANY
REGRETS HEREAFTER. IN THIS, ROLE OF THE FATHER, BROTHER ETC. IS EMPHASISED
TO BE PRIMARY AND WHATEVER THEIR OCCUPATIONS, THEY ARE ADVISED THAT THEY MUST
FIND ENOUGH TIME TO MAKE INQUIRES AS ADEQUATE AND AS PRECISE AS THEY CAN.
- AS FOR ENGAGEMENT IS CONCERNED, IT IS LEFT TO BOTH THE PARTIES TO MUTUALLY
WHEN THEY WANT BUT MGNC FOUNDER VASDEV SPECIFICALLY TELLS THEM THAT THEY
MUST GIVE THE BOY AND GIRL MINIMUM 2-3 MONTHS TO MEET EACH OTHER, DISCUSS
VARIOUS ISSUES WHATEVER THEY WANT TO ASK EACH OTHER AND SATISFY THEMSELVES
FULLY BEFORE MAKING DECISION FOR MARRIAGE. IN EXTREME IT IS ALSO SAID IF SOMEHOW
THE ATTITUDE, MANNERS , VIEWPOINTS OF THE BOY AND THE GIRL DO NOT TALLY, IT WILL BE
BETTER AND PREFERABLE TO BREAK THE ENGAGEMENT THAN BREAK THE MARRIAGE.
- BOTH THE FAMILIES ARE SPECIFICALLY INFORMED THAT ROLE OF MGNC FINISHES
SOON AFTER BOTH THE PARTIES AGREE AND GIVE THEIR APPROVAL AND AS SUCH
INQUIRIES OF ALL SORTS ARE LEFT TO THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BOTH THE PARTIES,
AND IN NO CASE MGNC BE PRESUMED/ASSUMED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR INQUIRIES
AS ALSO FOR GIVING TO EACH OF THEM THE CONTACTS.
- IT IS ESSENTIAL TO MENTION THAT APPROVAL/REJECTION OF EACH PARTY IS TAKEN
INDIVIDUALLY AND IT IS KEPT SECRET FROM THE OTHER PARTY, SO AS TO TAKE VIEWS
OF THE OTHER PARTY WITHOUT KNOWING AND/OR BEING INFLUENCED IN ANY MANNER.
ONCE VIEWS OF BOTH THE PARTIES ARE TAKEN BY MGNC, THESE ARE CONVEYED TO
EACH OF THE FAMILIES, IF APPROVED BY BOTH, EACH IS GIVEN BIODATA VICE VERSA AND
IF NOT APPROVED, THE PARTY WHICH REJECTS IS ASKED TO STAY BACK IN ORDER TO
KNOW EXACTLY THEIR VIEWS, AND IF IT IS CONSIDERED ESSENTIAL, THEN VASDEVLOOND
EXPRESSES HIS VIEWS AS TO WHAT EXTENT THEIR DECISION WAS RIGHT AND ON WHICH
POINTS THEY ARE MISTAKEN AND HOW THESE COULD BE AVOIDED IN FUTURE.
- THIS AFTER DISCUSSION WITH THE PARTY WHO HAS REJECTED. AND ALSO WHICH HAS
APPROVED, DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WILL BE RECONSIDERATION HEREAFTER,
NO, NOT ATT, REJECTION IS TAKEN AS FINAL AND THEIR BIODATAS ARE KEPT ACTIVE
FOR SENDING MATCHES IN FUTURE.
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Expressed and explained by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, cost
free marriage bureau, to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
www.vasdevloond@marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
CHAPTER XIII 30-9-22
30-9-22
-BEFORE I GET TO SHOWING IMAGES AS TO HOW
BOY AND GIRL AS ALSO THEIR FAMILIES ARE ASSEMBLED,
HOW THEY ARE GETTING ENGAGED IN DISCUSSION, HOW
BOY AND GIRL ARE SITTING TOGETHER IN DISCUSSION.
WHAT DECISION EACH IS CONVEYING AND WHAT FOLLOW
UP ACTION MGNC STAFF IS TAKING ETC. ETC.
-TODAY I SHALL DETAIL AS TO WHAT ARE ESSENTIALS TO
GO IN FOR SEARCH OF A SOULMATE.
ANSWERS;
1. HAVE I DETERMINED ABOUT MY REQUIREMENTS AND
SPECIFICALLY I NEED AND AM SEARCHING FOR.
2. BESIDES SPECIFYING REGARDING AGE, FAMILY, STATUS
WHAT THE BOY OR GIRL IS DOING, WHERE THE SEARCHED
SPOUSE EXISTS, WHERE HE/SHE IS WORKING, WHAT IS
LOCATION, WHETHER I NEED WORKING OR NON-WORKING
GIRL AND FOR THE GIRL, WANTS TO SPECIFY WHETHER
THE BOY WORKING IN BUSINESS, OR IN JOB, WHAT INCOME
ETC. ARE SPECIFIED AND ARE ESSENTIAL TO DETERMINE.
3. ESSENTIAL TO KEEP IN MIND THE MORE THE MORE RESTRICTIONS
ARE THOUGHT OF AND SEARCHED FOR, THE MORE DIFFICULT IT
BECOMES TO FIND THE DESIRED MATCH.
4. HENCE ESSENTIAL TO PUT IN REQUIREMENTS AND IN SEARCH WHAT
ARE ESSENTIALS AND NO MORE.
5. THEN THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH COULD BE THOSE
PARAMETERS;
6. FIRST AND PRIMEMOST IMPORTANT IN SEARCH IS TO WORK ON
AS TO HOW TO SELECT A PARTNER;
WHICH COULD BE WORKED IN THE FOLLOWING EXERCISE
(i) -WHAT ARE MY QUALITIES AND WHAT ARE MY WEAKNESSES
(ii) -I JOT DOWN THE WEAKNESSES AS IN SEARCH OF A PARTNER
TO BE COMPATIBLE, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT HE/SHE IS NOT HAVING
THOSE WEAKNESSES AND IF BOTH HAVE SAME HABITS, MANNERS
THEN THEIR ADJUSTMENT WILL POSSIBLY BECOME IMPOSSIBLE
FOR EXAMPLE THE ONE WHO IS SEARCHING FOR A MATCH BUT GETS
ANGRY QUICKLY, THEN HE/SHE NEEDS TO DETERMINE THAT SOULMATE
BEING SEARCHED MUST BE COOL TEMPERED, MUST BE TOLERANT, PATIENT
MORE LISTNER THAN BEING PRE-DETERMINED WITH HIS/HER IDEAS
ETC.
(iii) I START TO MIRROR IN MYSELF TO KNOW SPECIFICALLY AND ANALYSE
AS TO WHICH ARE OPTIONAL, WHICH COULD DETERMINED AFTER
MEETING THE GIRL, VICE VERSA, AND THEN DECIDE, AND THE FINAL
COMES ABOUT TO DETERMINE THAT THESE ARE ESSENTIAL AND
CAN IN NO MANNER BE ABANDONED OR TOLERATED OR AVOIDED
AND RECONCILED.
(iv) HENCE HEREAFTER GET TO JOTTING DOWN IN COLUMNS OPTIONAL,
CHANGEABLE IN/AFTER MEET, NOT CHANGEABLE AT ALL AND ARE
ESSENTIALS.
(v) ONCE ALL THESE ARE JOTTED DOWN, THEN READ ALL POINTS IN EACH
COLUMN AGAIN AND AGAIN AND WHICH ARE CONSIDERED NOT NOT
NECESSARY, JUST DELETE THOSE, AND HEREAFTER POSSIBLY YOU WILL
BE LEFT WITH FEW AND AS SUCH IT WILL BE EASY AND VERY CONVENIENT
TO CHECK SUCH DETERMINED VIEWPOINTS IN THE MEET, IN DISCUSSION
AND IN PARTICULAR PUT TO QUESTIONS, KNOW THE ANSWERS AND THEN TAKE
A DECISION WHETHER YOUR CHOICE FULFILS THE DESIRE OF COMPATABILITY
OR NOT.
(vi) IN THIS SEARCH, MANY WHETHER BOY OR THE GIRL, EACH ONE WANTS TO
HAVE BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME PARTNER WITHOUT KNOWING AND ANALYSING
AS TO WHAT COULD BE IMPLICATIONS OF SUCH A DECISION. HENCE IN ANSWER
IT WILL BE BETTER TO SEARCH FOR A PARTNER WHO IS MORE OR LESS OF
THE SAME FEATURE, COMPLEXION, BODY STRUCTURE ETC.ETC. WHICH WILL
BE MORE COMPATIBLE, ADJUSTABLE AND SHORT OF COMPARISON.
(vii) ONE AS SUCH ESSENTIALLY HAS TO PRE-DETERMINE AND DECIDE AS TO WHICH
HE OR SHE GIVES PREFERENCE BETWEEN SURAT AND SEERAT WHICH ARE
EXPLAINED HEREUNDER:
-SURAT WHICH MEAN EXTERNAL BEAUTY, IS DETERMINED FOR THE OUTSIDE
WORLD AND ALSO ESSENTIAL ONE NEEDS TO BE AWARE THAT BEAUTY SHALL
NECESSARILY NEED NOURISHING LIKE ANYTHING PRECIOUS NEEDS CARE AND
MAINTENANCE, LIKEWISE THERE WILL BE FREQUENT VISITS TO PARLOURS,
SHOPPING, POSSIBLY WILL BE LESS OR LEAST ACCOMMODATIVE, MORE
COMMANDING THAN ADJUSTING, IN EXTREME TO BE TEMPTED, PERSUADED
AND SOLICITED BY OTHERS LIKE BOSSES,THE RICH, MORE APPRECIATIVE ETC.ETC.
- ON THE CONTRARY SEERAT MEANS INTERNAL BEAUTIES WHICH ARE
DEFINED IN MANNERS, ATTITUDES, HABITS, TOLERANT, PATIENT,
ADJUSTABLE, CALM, APPRECIATIVE ETC. ETC.
- HENCE IN RESULT, SURAT IS A TEMPORARY PHASE WHILE SEERAT IS
LIFE LONG ASSET, WHICH NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO BE STUDIED, ANALYSED
AND DECISION TAKEN. WHICH PERHAPS COULD BE INFLUENCED BY STATUS
OF THE SPOUSE AND HIS/HER FAMILY, ACADEMIC AND PROFESSIONAL
QUALIFICATIONS, JOB OR ACTIVITY WORKING IN, INCOME ETC. ETC.
- FINALLY IF ONE GETS BOTH, IT IS THE BEST AND IF NOT, BASED ON ONE’S
OWN FEATURES, STATUS ETC. IF THE PARTNER IS DECIDED, THEN SUCH A
DECISION POSSIBLY WILL BE MORE HELPFUL TO LEAD A HAPPY MARRIED
LIFE.
(viii) - ESSENTIAL TO REMEMBER THAT THOUGH ONE MAY HAVE GOT TO CHOICE
PRE-DETERMINED, STILL MEETS, DISCUSSIONS, INQUIRIES ARE NECESSARY,
BUT IT IS ALSO A FACT THAT HUMAN MIND IS NOT STATIC, IT CHANGES IN
CIRCUMSTANCES, BEHAVIOUR INCOMPATIBILITY ETC. ETC. AND IF THIS
HAPPENS, THEN WHAT COURSE OF ACTION IS LEFT TO THE AFFECTED ONE
OR BOTH, THEN WHAT COULD BE THE SOLUTION:
(ix) BETTER TO MOULD YOURSELF THAN EXPECTING OTHER TO MOULD, AS
IT IS MUCH EASIER TO MOULD YOURSELF THAN TO EXERT AND INSIST THAT
THE OTHER PERSON MUST CHANGE. HENCE SOMEHOW DESPITE ALL CHECKS,
INQUIRES ETC. THE SOULMATE HASN’T TURNED OUT AS WAS EXPECTED,
THEN IT WILL BE BETTER TO ADJUST AND ACCEPT THE SITUATION AS IT IS
AND/OR TAKE IT TO DESTINY, IF ONE BELIEVES SO, AND MOVE ON IN LIFE
WHICH NEEDS TO KNOW AND UNDERSTAND CLEARY THAT IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL
THAT THE 2ND WILL BE BETTER THAN THE PRESENT ONE, AND ALSO TO REMEMBER
THAT THE 2ND SHALL REQUIRING MORE TOLERANCE AND ADJUSTMENT.
(x) MANY BELIEVE IN TO PROGRESS IN CAREER AND AS SUCH NEGLECT THE MARRIAGE
WHICH DOES NOT SEEM TO BE THE RIGHT CHOICE, AS THE NORMAL TIME AND AGE
FOR MARRIAGE PASSES OFF, IT GETS DIFFICULT TO FIND SOULMATE OF ONE’S CHOICE
AND PERCEPTION. HENCE MARRIAGE AT THE AGE OF BOYS 28-30, GIRLS 25-28 ARE
THE BEST BRACKETS FOR MARRIAGE, WHICH AGE IS MORE AMENABLE TO MAKE
ADJUSTMENTS AND ACCEPTANCE.
(xi) ESSENTIAL ALSO TO REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE NECESSARILY NEEDS COMPROISE
AS IT IS NOT NECESSARY ONE WILL BE ABLE TO HAVE WHAT ONE HAS DECIDED AND
IS PRE-DETERMINED. HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT ONE MUST WEIGH AND DECIDE
IN COMPROMISE IF MOST OF HIS/HER ESSENTIALS ARE FOUND IN THE SEARCHED FOR
SPOUSE.
(xii) MICRO UNIT IS BETTER FOR ADJUSTMENT, AVOIDS DEMANDS, ENCOURAGES GOOD
RELATIONS BETWEEN BOTH THE FAMILIES 2. PRE-MEETINGS, VISITS, AND DISCUSSIONS
ARE ESSENTIAL BEFORE GETTING INCLINED TO TAKE FINAL DECISION FOR MARRIAGE
3. WIFE NEEDS TO BE PRIORITIED OVER PARENTS IF SOMEHOW RELATIONS DO NOT GO
SMOOTH 4. NO OR LEAST INDULGENCE OF MOTHER WITH HER DAUGHTER 4. RESPECT
FOR INLAWS ON BOTH SIDES ANDFOR BOTH THE FAMILIES IS ESSENTIAL TO LEAD A
HARMONIOUS MARRIED LIFE. 5. UNITY AND CONSTRUCTION ARE PILLARS OF SUCCESS
AND HAPPY LIFE WHILE CONFLICTS, FIGHTS ARE DESTRUCTION WHICH TEND TO
BREAKING THE RELATIONSHIP OF MARRIED LIFE. ETC. ETC.
THERE COULD BE MANY MANY OTHER FACTORS, BUT IF ONE KEEPS IN MIND, TAKES CARE AND
BELIEVES THAT MARRIAGE IS SUCCESS AND PROGRESS OF LIFE AS OTHERWISE LIFE IS NOTHING
BUT REGRETS SOONER OR LATER.
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Expressed by Vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau,
to contact vasdevloond at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.vasdevloond@marriageguidance.in www.facebook:vasdevloond
The founder Vas Dev Loond, imbued in his pursuit to do social service to mankind, has decided to launch the Marriage Guidance- New Concept and to fill in the vacuum created by the modern society where grown-ups feel hesitant to make commitment and the parents remain worried to find a compatible and suitable match for their children.
