MARRIAGE TO DO, WHY -IS IT FICTION -IS IT DREAM -IS IT PHYSICAL NECESSITY -IS IT SOCIAL COMPULSION -IS IT RELIGION OR VARIOUS SECTS NECESSITY -IS IT COMPULSION OF PARENTS -IS IT SELF DESIRE -IS IT FOR CREATING MINE AND THINE -IS IT FOR HANDING OVER AND/OR ALLOCATING ACCUMULATION OF ASSETS ETC. TO ONE'S OWN CHILDREN ETC. -IS IT DESTINY -IS IT A CHANCE -IS IT A GAMBLE -IS IT NECESSARY FOR DIVISION OF WORK AND SHARING RESPONSIBILITIES -IT IS UNION OF TWO OR UNITY OF TWO AS IT IS CALLED TWO IN ONE SOUL -IS FOR REASONS FOR LEISURE AND PLEASURE -IS IT FOR PROGRESS BY OWNING AND SHARING -RESPONSIBILITIES -IS IT FOR REALISATION OF DREAMS BY SELF AND/OR BY CHIDREN -IS IT TO ACCEPT LIFE AS IT HAPPENS OR TO REPENT AND REGRET -IS IT FOR ADJUSTING OR CURBING ONE'S FREEDOM FOR BIGGER GAINS -IS IT AVOIDABLE AND IF SO WHY -IS IT FOR SECURITY IN CASE BAD HEALTH, INCAPACITY ETC. -IS IT AVOID LONELINESS AND NECESSARY TO TALK, DISCUSS AND SHARE CONFIDENCE. conclusion: despite all answers available in modern world, then why it is necessary to marry, curb one's freedom, and in many cases to repent/regret and live under compulsion. With all these odds then why it is essential to marry is the question. ................................................................. envisioned by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com 17-9-21 2nd chapter: ........................................................................... -HAVING GIVEN REASONS FOR MARRIAGE IN MY EARLIER WRITE-UP IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW WHAT MARRIAGE MEANS AND WHAT ARE ITS IMPLICATIONS. HENCE THE NEED FOR THIS WRITE-UP. -AS CAREER IN LIFE IS IMPORTANT, MARRIAGE IF NOT, IT IS NOT AT ALL LESS IMPORTANT THAN THE CAREER. -AS FOR CAREER, HIGHER STUDIES AND SCORING HIGHEST MARKS ARE ESSENTIAL, SAME IS THE CASE FOR MARRIAGE WHICH NECESSITATES TO READ LITERATURE ON MARRIAGE. -ALSO AS FOR CAREER, ONE DECIDES IN ADVANCE AS TO WHAT TYPE OF JOB/PROFESSION ONE IS TO GO IN, LIKEWISE FOR MARRIAGE ALSO ONE NEEDS TO DECIDE WHAT TYPE OF PARTNER IS ESSENTIAL TO LEAD THE HAPPIEST AND PROGRESSIVE LIFE. -HENCE IT BECOMES NECESSARY TO READ BOOKS WHICH ARE WRITTEN BY ME TITLED .. MARRIAGE ENCLOPEDIA, PRE-MARRIAGE EDUCATION AND GUIDANCE AS ALSO TO FOLLOW UP MY WRITE-UPS ON FACEBOOK FROM TIME TO TIME AS ALSO MANY MARRIAGE RELATED MAGAZINES, BOOKS ETC. -I HAVE ADOVOCATED IN MY EARLIER WRITE-UP THAT WHATEVER POLICIES, LAWS. RULES AND REGULATIONS AND DECISIONS ARE TAKEN AT A PARTICULAR TIME AND IN PARTICULAR CIRCUMSTANCES, AFTER SOME TIME THESE LOSE THEIR VALIDITY AND APPLICATION AND SUCH CHANGES, CORRECTIONS AND REPLACEMENTS ARE INVENTED THEREOF. -SAME IS THE CASE IN MARRIAGE WITH ALL RELIGIONS ETC. -HENCE MARRIAGE WHICH I CALL IS THE PIOUS INSTITUTION, HAS ALSO GONE INTO DRASTIC CHANGES -THIS PIOUS INSTITUTION ALSO GOT DEGENERATED INTO FIGHTS IN FAMILIES IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, STATUS, DOWRY, ASSETS ETC. AND IN EXTREME LEADING TO DIVORCES AND GETTING INTO LITIGATIONS NOT ONLY EXPENSIVE BUT LENGTHY AS WELL IN APPLICATION OF LAWS PROCEDURES. AS SUCH IN ORDER TO AVOID SUCH PROBLEMS, VARIOUS DIFFERENT FORMS OF MARRIAGE ARE TAKING PLACE, LIKE THE FOLLOWINGS -NOT TO MARRY -LIVE IN ARRANGEMENT -HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE -MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION -AS IN LIFE NOTHING IS PERFECT, THESE VARIANTSARE ALSO NOT PERFECT AND ARE FRAUGHT WITH FLAWS WHICH ARE INTERPRETED BY EACH INDIVIDUAL BY ONE'S OWN PERCEPTION AND PRINCIPLES. HOWEVER THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT ALL THESE SUBSTITUTES ARE DEVOID OF LITIGATIONS, TROUBLES AND EXPENSES RELATED THERETO. -AS ALL THESE SUBSTITUTES ARE LOOSE ARRANGEMENTS IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIP, THESE ENCOURAGE MUCH EASIER BREAK-UPS RESULTING IN NEGLECTING THE UPBRINGING OF THEIR CHIDREN WHO WHEN GET GROWN ARE AFFECTED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, DISOBEDIENCE OF LAW AND ORDER, LIVE IN ISOLATION, STRESS AND STRAIN AND UTIMATELY LIVE A LIFE NOT ONLY IN UNHAPPINESS BUT IN MANY CASES INDULGING IN CRIMES AND CRUELTIES. ...................................................... perceived by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdeveloond@gmail.comwww.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com 3rd chapter 19-9-21 AND WHAT ONE LOOKS ABOUT? chapter 3: -AFTER HAVING STUDIED AND UNDERSTOOD ALL PLUS AND MINUS POINTS ABOUT MARRIAGE, FOR THOSE WHO HAVE MADE UP THEIR MIND FOR MARRIAGE AND FOR OTHERS FOR KNOWLEDGE SAKE, FOLLOWING ARE THE MOST CRITICAL ISSUES TO KNOW ABOUT AND PERHAPS ABOUT: -FEATURES...... -1.COMMUNITY 2. AGE 3.QUALIFICATIONS, 4. IF REQUIRED WORKING, WHAT INCOME 5. PLACE OF WORK 6. WHAT TYPE OF WORK, BUSINESS OR JOB 7. FACIAL LOOK/ COMPLEXION 8. HEIGHT 9. WEIGHT 10. HABITS 11. TEMPERAMENT AND MANNERS 12. DIET HABITS 13. FAMILY STATUS AND OCCUPATIONS 14. TRADITIONS AND CULTURE 15. HOUSE OWNED OR RENTED, WHERE AND IN WHICH LOCATION. -TO TAKE DECISION, IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KEEP IN WHAT IS CALLED 'LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR, AS THIS EXERCISE WILL ENABLE YOU TO SEE IN YOUR INNER SIDE TO DETERMINE ON ALL POINTS TO ENABLE YOU TO INDENTIFY WHICH ARE COMPATIBLE AND WILL ALSO BE ACCEPTABLE. BY THE SPOUSE. MUST REMEMBER THAT THOSE UNREASONABLE WILL MOSTLY BE REJECTED AND IF ACCEPTED, THERE WILL BE SOME COMPULSIONS OR HIDDEN DESIRES/ DEMANDS. -FOR EXAMPLE, TO ASPIRE FOR THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL, IF YOUR COMPLEXION IS DARK OR AT THE MOST FAIR, BEWARE HER UPKEEP KEEP WILL BE VERY EXPENSIVE, POSSIBLY SHE WILL BE MORE DEMANDING AND COMMANDING. -HENCE ALL THE ABOVE FACTORS MUST BE BALANCED AS BEST AS POSSIBLE, TO ENSURE SMOOTH SAILING IN MARRIED LIFE, LEAST WORRIED, RATHER BE ENCOURAGED TO REMAIN HAPPY AND PROGRESSIVE. -HAVING UNDERSTOOD WELL, THE MEANINGS AND IMPLICATIONS OF ALL THE ABOVE FACTORS, PLEASE Y INDICATE YOUR OWN POSITION CLEARLY AND FRANKLY. -ALSO HEREAFTER PUT IN AGAINST EACH FACTOR YOUR DESIRES, WEIGH ALL THESE AND EACH ITEM, WHETHER IN YOUR VIEW, THESE SEEM TO BE DESIRABLE AND ACCEPTABLE, CLEARLY BEAR IN MIND IF THE CHOICED ONES ARE ABNORMAL, IT WILL BE VERY DIFFICULT TO FIND THE DESIRED SPOUSE. -HENCE THE PRINCIPLE OF COMPATABILITY AND ACCEPTABILITY ARE ESSENTIAL TO BE KENPT IN MIND TO LEAD A FRUITFUL COVETED LIFE,. -MUST ALSO KEEP IN MIND WHAT IS CALLED SURAT AND SEERAT WHCIH MEANS BEAUTY AND QUALITIES. CHOICE FOR OUTWARD BEAUTY IS PERSONAL, TEMPORARY AND MOSTLY FOR SOCIAL APPRECIATION AND ADMIRATION WHILE INNER BEAUTY IS PERMANENT AND COMFORTING ALWAYS. TO MAKE CHOICE BETWEEN THE TWO IS VERY DIFFICULT. HENCE IT WILL BE MORE PRACTICAL TO RECONCILE OUTWARD BEAUTY TO FAIR ONE WHICH REQUIRES MINUTELY AND CAREFULLY SEARCHED FOR IN RESPECT OF MANNERS, BEHAVIOUR, HABITS, ATTITUDES, BELIEFS, VIEWPOINTS, TOLERANCE, ACCEPTANCE ETC. ETC. -WORKING GIRL WILL HAVE FINANCIAL ADVANTAGES BUT THERE WILL ALSO BE SOME INCONVENIENCES AS WELL WITH RESPECT TO TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE AND ALSO DEMANDING SACRIFICE OF MANY COMFORTS ETC. -IF THERE IS NOT DIRE NECESSITY TO SUPPLEMENT INCOME, IT WILL BE THE BETTER CHOICE TO CONCENTRATE ON MATCHING ACADEMIC QUALIFICATIONS. -ESSENTIAL MARRAIGE ALSO REQUIRES SACRIFICING PART OF OF SELF-FREEDOM AND INSTEAD TO ENDORSE ADJUSTMENT AND COMPATABILITY. -IN FOLLOW UP HEREAFTER HOW TO SEARCH A PARTNER WILL BE COVERED IN THE NEXT CHAPTER. ................................................................ expressed by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contacts: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.facebook.com chapter 4 21-9-21
TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS ON VARRIOUS
PARAMETERS TO ENABLE THOSE
INTERESTED FOR MARRIAGE TO TAKE
JUDIOUS DECISION.
COMMUNITY
IF MARRIED IN SAME COMMUNITY.
IT IS EASIER TO SOCIALISE AND IS ALSO
VERY CONVENIENT AND COMFORTABLE
WITH CUSTOMS, TRADITIONS, LIVING
AND EATING HABITS.
ON THE CONTRARY IF GOT MARRIED IN
DIFFERENT COMMUNITY FOR EXAMPLE
BRAHMIN FOR KHATRI AND EVEN BANIYA
WITH KHATRI, IT BECOMES COMPARATIVELY
MORE DIFFCULT TO ADJUSTM WHILE IN
MARRIAGE, HOW TO ADJUST IS
ALREADY A DIFFICULT PROCESS.
SUGGESTION; IT IS BETTER TO MARRY
IN THE SAME COMMUNITY UNLESS IT
IS A LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN MARRIAGE
ETC.
2. AGE
NOW IN THIS AGE OF COMPETITION, ALMOST
EVERYONE CONCENTRATES ON ATTAINING
HIGHER AND HIGHER EDUCATION, IN ORDER
TO GET THE BEST COVETED JOB WISHING FOR
AND AS SUCH MARRIAGE IS NEGLECTED AND/OR
NOT GIVEN DUE IMPORTANCE.
UNDOUBTEDLY IT IS GOOD TO ATTAIN HIGHER
EDUCATION BUT MARRIAGE IS ALSO EQUALLY
IMPORTANT AS WHEN ONE GETS BEYOND THE
NORMAL AGE BRACKETS WHETHER BOY OR GIRL
1. IT BECOMES DIFFICULT TO GET THE
CHOICE PARTNER
2. ADJUSTMENT ALSO COMPARATIVELY
GETS DIFFICULT AS EACH ONE IS
ACCUSTOMED TO HIS/HER OWN WAY
OF LIVING.
SUGGESTION.
IT IS AS SUCH ESSENTIAL TO BALANCE EDUCATION
AND MARRIAGE AND AS IT IS BETTER TO THINK
OF MARRIAGE AT THE AGE OF
BOYS; 28-30
GIRLS; 26-28
LET NOT BE FORGOTTEN TO SEARCH FOR THE
DESIRED PARTNER, IT TAKES GENERALLY AT LEAST
6 TO 7 MONTHS.
3. QUALIFICATIONS;
QUALIFICATIONS ARE IMPORTANT TO SEARCH
FOR A BETTER PARTNER, IF DESIRING FOR WORK,
FEMALE PARTNER HELPS TO POOL ADDITIONAL
INCOME, EVEN IF NOT WORK, THE BRINGING UP
AND CARE OF THE CHILDREN IS BETTER TAKEN
CARE THAN THAT BY AN ILLITERATE FEMALE
PARTNER, IN GENERAL, EXCEPTIONS OF COURSE
ARE NOT RULED OUT.
MUST REMEMBER THAT WORKING GIRLS ARE MORE
DEMANDING, EVEN IF NOT WORKING, THE EDUCATED
GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE FREED TO SOCIALISE
REMAIN BUSY AND IN GENERAL REQUIRE TO GET TO
PARLOURS, STROLLING ETC. ETC., SHALL SPEND LEAST
TIME FOR THE HOUSEHOLD, WHICH SHE WOULD LIKE
TO BE TAKEN BY THE MAIDS ETC. HENCE THE EXPENSE
AND ESSENTIALLY OBLIGE TO PARTICIPATE IN DECISION
TAKING, DISCUSSIONS ETC.
SUGGESTION; IT IS BETTER TO GO IN FOR AN EDUCATED
FEMALE PARTNER REASONABLY WELL EDUCATED AS YOU
ARE, WHICH IF WORKING, WILL HELP IN SUPPLEMENTING
INCOME, AFFORDING MAIDS AND BETTER EDUCATION
FOR THE CHILDREN, BETTER TO DISCUSS AND SYNTHASISE
DECISIONS AND ACTIONS THEREOF.
BUT BE AWARE, IN SUCH A SITUATION. ACCOMMODATION.
RECONCILIATION, SHEDDING OWN’S OWN FREEDOM
GETS ESSENTIAL. IF ONE IS PREPARED FOR THIS, THEN IT
BETTER TO GO IN FOR WELL MATCHING EDUCATED FEMALE
PARTNERS.
4 WORKING GIRLS/BOYS AND INCOME THEREOF.
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SUPPLEMENT THE INCOME BUT
IT REQUIRES MUCH MORE INCONVENIENCE IN HOUSE-
HOLD AFFAIRS AND ALSO NECESSITATES TO MAKE
MUCH MORE EFFORTS FOR ADJUSTMENTS AND
RECONCILIATIONS.
SUGGESTION; WHEN THE FEMALE PARTNER WORKS,
NO DOUBT IT ADDS TO THE INCOME, BUT IT IS NOT
NECESSARY AND THE MALE PARTNER HAS SUFFICENT
INCOME AND/OR RESOURCES, IT BETTER TO MARRY
AN EDUCATION FEMALE PARTNER, WHO WILL BE
MORE PARTICIPANT IN TAKING DECISIONS, TAKE
CARE OF HOUSEHOLD AFFAIRS AND ALSO TAKE CARE
OF BETTER UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN THAN
LEAVING THEM TO THE MAIDS’CARE.
BALANCE PARAMETERS SHALL BE DISCUSSED IN
FOLLOWING CHAPTERS. TKS
Illustrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage
Guidance New Concept cost free marriage bureau
NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867
www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
IN FOLLOW UP FACTORS NECESSARY TO ANALYSE
AND DECIDE, IN ADDITION TO THOSE ELABORATED
IN CHAPTER 4:
5 PLACE OF WORK
IT COULD BE IN THE COUNTRIES IN DIFFERENT STATES
AND CITIES AND IT COULD BE ABROAD AS WELL, ALSO
WHETHER IN THE COUNTRIES WHERE THE LANGUAGE
IS SPOKEN AND USED AS THE BOY/GIRL HAS STUDIED.
OR IN A COUNTRY WHERE THE BOY/GIRL DOES NOT
KNOW THE LANGUAGE AND HASTO LEARN AFTER GETTING
MARRIED AND GET SETTLED..
PLACE OF WORK BECOMES IMPORTANT WHEN SUPPOSE
BOY AND GIRL BOTH ARE WORKING, AND BOTH LIVE MUCH
AWAY FROM THE RESIDENCE AND WORKPLACE OF EACH
OTHER, SUPPOSE A GIRL IS WORKING AS A TEACHER IN
ONE PLACE AND THE BOY’S RESIDECE NEEDS TRAVEL OF
AN HOUR OR SO, IT WILL SEEM CUMBERSOME FOR THE
GIRL TO TRAVEL THAT FAR AND BE EXPECTED TO TAKE
CARE OF HOUSEHOLD ETC. HENCE IT BECOMES REASONABLE
THAT THE BOY DECIDES TO SHIFT NEARBY IN THE PLACE
WHERE THE GIRL IS WORKING, WHICH WILL FACILITATE WORKING
AND TAKING CARE OF HOUSEHOLDS CONVENIENTLY
WITHOUT MUCH FATIGUE.
SUGGESTION; IT IS ESSENTIAL FOR BOY AND THE GIRL
NEED TO DECIDE HOW AFTER MARRIAGE IT WILL BE
CONVENIENT FOR BOTH TO LIVE AND WORK IN THE
SAME PLACE AND ALSO IN THE NEARBY AREA. THAT
IS WHY IN BIODATAS, GENERALLY IT IS SPECIFIED WHICH
CITIES, AND AREA WOULD LIKE THE BIODATAS OF BOY
OR GIRL IS TO BE SEARCHED FOR.
EQUALLY IMPORTANT ONE WOULD TAKE JUMP TO A
DIFFERENT COUNTRY WITH DIFFERENT LANGUAGE AND
ONE IS READY TO TAKE THIS RISK/INCONVENIENCE FOR
THE SAKE OF THE RIGHT CHOICEST SPOUSE WHERE HE/SHE
IS WORKING.
6. WHAT TYPE OF WORK, BUSINESS OR JOB ONE IS DOING.
IN GENERAL THOSE GROWN UP AND COMING FROM BUSINESS
WOULD PREFER TO SELECT A SPOUSE FROM BUSINESS CLASS
SO IS THE CASE WITH DOCTORS, BEAUCRATIC WORK, MILITARY
ETC.
IT IS GENERALLY SAID AND IS GREATLY TRUE ALSO WHEN THE
CHILDREN ARE GROWING, THEY SEE THEIR PARENTS IN WORK
AND ALSO DISCUSSING AMONGST THEM VARIOUS PROBLEMS
WHICH THEIR WORK ENTAILS, HENCE THE CHILDREN LISTEN,
GRASP AND LEARN ABOUT 50% OF THE JOB THEIR PARENTS
ARE DOING, IN THEIR EARLY AGE. AND AS SUCH WHEN A GIRL
COMING FROMTHE BUSINESS FAMILY AND VICE VERSA, HE/SHE
KNOWS VERY WELL WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES AND
INCONVENIENCE OF MAKING A CHOICE FROM THE BUSINESS
CLASS AND SO HAPPENS WITH WORKING CLASS ETC.
ALSO IT BECOMES ESSENTIAL TO KNOW WHAT TYPE OF JOB
ONE IS DOING, WHETHER IT IS SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE AND
IS NOT CAUSING INCONVENIENCE IN THEIR CONJUGAL LIFE,
FOR EXAMPLE BEAUTY PARLOUR, NURSES, NIGHT SHIFTS ARE
NOT ACCEPTABLE AT ALL AND SO ALSO HAPPENS WHEN THE BOY
IS WORKING IN NIGHT SHIFTS OR IN TRAVEL, AS IS THE CASE
IN JOBS AS PILOTS, HOSTES ETC.
SUGGESTION; HENCE GETTING MARRIED IN A BUSINESS CLASS
FAMILY, IT IS MUCH CONVENIENT TO UNDERSTAND THE
IMPLICATIONS, INCONVENIENCE AND ADVANTAGES OF
GETTING MARRIED TO GIRL/BOY FROM BUSINESS FAMILY.
SO HAPPENS FOR DOCTORS, SERVICE CLASS PERSONS.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT ONE DOES EXACTLY KNOW
WHAT TYPE OF JOB WILL BE HIS/HER PREFERENCE ETC.
7 FACIAL LOOK/COMPLEXION.
IT IS THE DESIRE OF ALMOST EVERYONE WHETHER GIRL OR
BOY TO HAVE BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME FACIAL EXPRESSION/
COMPLEXION, IRRESPECTIVE OF WHETHER ONE’S OWN
COMLEXION IS DARK, FAIR, WHITISH ETC. AS IT IS AN
EMOTIONAL AND VISUAL CHOICE,MANY OF IMPORTANT
FACTORS ARE OVERLOOKED, NEGLECTED AND/OR SACRIFICED.
THEN IT ALSO BECOMES NECESSARY WHETHER ONE WOULD
GIVE IMPORTANCE TO EXTERNAL FACIAL LOOK OR WOULD
PREFER THE INNER QUALITIES OF THE SPOUSE ONE IS THINKING
OF GETTING MARRID TO.
IN THIS WILL ALSO COME IN THE FORM AND SHAPE OF THE FACE,
ETC. INCLUDING THE EYES, HAIRS ETC.
SUGGESTION; WHEN MOVING IN SOCIETY AND ALSO FOR INNER
PLEASURE, MATCHING OF ALL THESE ARE DESIRABLE, BUT MOST
IMPORTANT IS TO CONCENTRATE ON THE INNER QUALITIES OF THE
PERSON CONCERNED WHETHER BOY OR GIRL, WHETHER ONE
BEHAVES AND IS MANNERLY AS ONE WISHES FOR, IS SOFT SPOKEN,
TOLERANT, ACCEPTING EACH OTHER AS ONE IS ETC. ETC. BECAUSE
TO LEAD A PROGRESSIVE AND HAPPY LIFE, ALL THE CITIED QUALITIES
ARE ESSENTIAL ALL THE TIME AND AT EVERY STAGE. IF ONE CAN HAVE
BOTH, THE BEST AND IF NOT, I THINK, ONE SHOULD GO IN FOR INNER
QUALITIES AND COMPROMISE FOR THE FACIAL LOOK, SUPPOSE HE
IS WHITISH WHILE THE GIRL IS FAIR AND VICE VERSA. GIVEN THAT
REST OF THE CRITERIA ARE AS ONE HAS WISHED FOR, THEN COMPROMISE
SHALL REMAIN THE BETTER OPTION.
8. HEIGHT;
WHY IT IS MOST WANTED AND MANY A TIME DESPITE ALL THE MATCHING
QUALITIES IN THE SPOUSE, ONE GETS TO REFUSE BELIEVING THAT IT ILL
ENCOURAGE SOCIAL CRITICISM AND MOST IMPORTANT, IT WILL BE MUCH
DIFFICULT TO CONVENIENTLY TALK OVER AND FOR LOVE LIFE AS WELL . FOR
EXAMPLE,IF THE MAN IS TALLER THAN THE GENERAL STIPULATION OF 4-5 CMS
OF THE GIRL, HE WILL MOST OF THE TIME NEED TO BEND TO TALK AND CONVERSE
ESPECIALLY WHEN SOME SUBJECT IS CONFIDENTIAL, SAME ALSO SHALL HAPPEN I
LOVE MAKING. HENCE HEIGHT BECOMES QUITE IMPORTANT AND ITS SIGNIFICANCE
NEEDN’T BE NEGLECTED.
SUGGESTION; IF IN LOVE, HEIGHT BECOMES INSIGNIFICANT 2. WHEN ONE
WILL FEEL FULLY HAPPY TO ENJOY REST OF THE QUALITIES, ONE DOES NOT MIND
THE ABNORMAL PROBLEM OF HEIGHT, AMITABE IS A VERY GOOD EXAMPLE,
AND RECITATION OF HIS SONG IF WIFE IS TALLER, THEN GET TO THE STAIRCASE
ETC. ETC. THIS CRITICISM IN SOCIETY IS NEVER THOUGHT OF BECAUSE AMBITAB’S
QUALITIES AS AN ACTOR ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE HEIGHT QUESTION .
IN CONCLUSON; IT IS BETTER TO OVERWEIGH REST OF THE QUALITIES AND IF THERE
IS A LITTE BIT DIFFERENCE AGAINST THE ACCEPTED NORMS OF HEIGHT, ONE SHOULD
OVERLOOK AND NOT INSIST ON THE ACCEPTED NORMS OF HEIGHT.
9. WEIGHT.
WEIGHT ALSO TAKES IMPORTANCE AS THAT OF HEIGHT. IF ONE IS SLIM, WOULD LIKE
FURTHER BEING TO MUCH WEIGHTY CREATES HEALTH PROBLEM AND CAUSES
INCONVENIENCE TO WORK.
SUGGESTIONS WHICH DIFFERENCE GENERALLY IS THE ACCEPTED NORM NEEDS TO
BE 10-15 KGS MORE THAN THE GIRL.
QUESTION ARISES WHY SO, I THINK IT IS BECAUSE THE GIRL IN GENERAL IS SHORTER IN
HEIGHT AS SUCH HER WEIGHT HAS TO BE COMPARABLE TO HER HEIGHT AND VICE VERSA
IS FOR THE BOY. FURTHER AS NOW THERE IS THE LEAST MANUAL WORK AND MOST OF
THE JOBS INVOLVE SITTING AND CONCENTRATING IN THE JOB. ONE GENERALLY GETS
BULKY AND DEVELOPS QUITE A FEW DISEASES, HENCE IT HAS BECOME AN ESSENTIAL
NORM THAT BOY AND GIRL HAVE TO BE SLIM.
HOWEVER, IT NEEDN’T BE FORGETTEN THE TALLER ONE IS WHETHER IT IS GIRL OR THE
BOY, MORE MATCHING WEIGHT BECOMES ESSENTIAL AND NEGLIGIBLE.THAT IS WHY
SLIMS PREFER SLIM PARTNERS AND FATTY PREFER FATTY PARTNERS ALSO.
SUGGESTION; ONE NEEDS TO BE CONSCIOUS OF HIS/HER WEIGHT AND ALSO REMAIN
CONSCIOUS OF THE ACCEPTED NORMS OF WEIGHT, AND BE READY TO ACCEPT
chapter 5 23-9-21
ADDITIONAL FACTORS;
10 HABITS. AND TEMPERAMENT.
HABITS ARE WHICH ONE IS ACCUSTOMED TO AND CANNOT GO WITHOUT. CERTAIN
HABITS ARE TAKEN FROM PARENTS, MANY FROM SOCIETY, SOME ARE PRESUMED
AS NECESSITIES LIKE WHEN ONE IS FAT AND BULKY, SMOKING IS THOUGHT TO BE AN
OPTION, WHEN ONE IS ALONE, SAD AND LONELY, ONE TAKES TO DRINKS, WHEN ONE
IS TEMPTED TO EARN MORE AND EASILY AND ALSO TO SOCIALISE, ONE IS PROKED TO
GAMBLING. MANY GET ADDICTED TO STOCKS, AND WHEN THESE FALL, THEY ARE NOWHERE
BUT THIS HOPE OF EARNING MORE AND MORE KEEPS THEM ADDICTED TO STOCK, SOME
ARE PROFESSIONSALS WHILE MANY KNOW NOTHING BUT ARE LURED TO STOCKS AND
GET ADDICTED TO REMAIN BUSY WITH THE MOVEMENT OF STOCK, SAME GOES
WITH THEFT, ETC. ETC. TELLING LIES IS ALSO NOT EXCLUDED, NOR GETTING ANGRY
AND BE TEMPERAMENTAL, CONTRADICT EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE, NEVER TOLERATE,
PRESUME TO BE MORE INTELLIGENT AND MORE CLEVER, TO DECEIVE OTHERS IS A
PLEASURE, TO THRASH AND FIGHT ON SMALL AND UNACCPETABLE ISSUES ETC.
NOT TO FORGET SOME HABITS ARE CUSTOMARY AS IN UTTER PARADESH, TAKING PAAN
IS NOT ONLY CUSTOMARY BUT RITUAL, NOW IN MARRIAGES DRIKS HAVE BECOME
A NECESSITY, NOT ONLY THIS, MANY ESPECIALLY BOYS AND GIRLS ARE BEING LURED
AND HABITUATED TO TAKE TO SMOKING HOOKAS WITH GANJAS, DRUGS ETC, EVEN IN
IT IS SERVED IN CIGARETTES ETC.
SOMETIME CERTAIN HABITS TEND TO BE PRESTIGE JUST LIKE TAKING SIGARS ETC.
NEVER TO FORGET ALL HABITS ARE EXPENSIVE AND DO TEND TO RESULT IN BAD HEALTH.
SUGGESTION; HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO CHECK ABOUT HABITS, SOME MAY BE TOLERABLE
LIKE SMOKING TIME TO TIME, DRINKING CASUALLY ETC. ETC. AND WHEN THESE TURN IN
HABIT, THESE ARE CONDEMNED AND ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE IN MOST OF THE CASES EXCEPT
WHEN BOTH BOY AND GIRL ARE ADDICTED TO SAME OR DIFFERENT HABITS.
BEING SHORT TEMPERED, GETTING ANGRY, NOT LISTEN AND OR NOTALLOW OTHERS TO SPEAK,
TO DOMINATE, KEEPING BIAS, NEVER FORGET ANY UNCHERISHABLE BEHAVIOUR, EVEN
THOUGH IT HAPPENS TO BE UNINTENTIONAL AND EVEN CASUAL ONE.
ALL THESE NEED TO BE SERIOUSLY CHECKED AND DECISION TAKEN WHETHER ONE
NEEDS TO AVOID SUCH HABITS AND WANTS A PARTNER, WHO COULD HELP HIM/HER
TO SHED THESE HABITS AND/ OR NEED A COMPANY TO SOCIALISE AS A COUPLE AND/OR
IN SOCIETY.
HENCE ESSENTIAL TO ANALYSE ONE’S OWN HABITS AND THEN DECIDE AS TO HOW HE/SHE
IS GOING TO ACCEPT CERTAIN HABITS OR INSIST ON TO BE ACCEPTABLE OR NON
TOLERABLE.
MANY A TIME REFUSAL COMES IN IF ONE IS NON-VEG WHILE THE PROPOSED PARTNER
IS PURE VEGETARIAN. SOME TIME IT IS SAID THAT NO COOKING AT HOME AND TAKING
OUTSIDE IS PERMITTED. I FEEL IT IS NO GOOD, IF BOTH ACCEPT TO CHANGE TOWARDS
BECOMING VEGETARIAN OR NON-VEG, IT GETS EASIER TO ENJOY FOOD, CHAT AND RELAX.
11. MANNERS;
THESE ARE VERY IMPORTANT IN SERVICING, BEING POLITE, POLISHED IN TALK, NOT TO
INTERFERE AND PROVOKE ONE’S OWN IDEA IN COURSE OF TALK BY SOMEONE AND ALSO
IN DISCUSSIONS. POLITENESS, HUMILITY, BE RESPECTFUL, BE TOLERANT, KEEP PATIENCE
ALL THESE FORM PART OF MANNERS.
SUGGESTIONS;
MARRIAGE NEEDS COMPATABILITY AND ACCEPTANCE. HENCE MANNERS NEED TO BE
CHECKED BUT NOT IMPOSED, HENCE THESE NEED DECISION WHETHER THE MANNERS OF
THE PROPOSED PARTNER GO INTO TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE OR NOT AND IT
GOES VICE VERSA. I WILL SAY MANNERS ARE INBORN, ACQUIRED, WILLING TO ADAPT
AND CHANGE, AND/OR IMPOSED ONES. NEVERTHELESS IT IS ESSENTIAL TO CHECK
ON MANNERS WHICH ARE ESSENTIAL TO LIVE A HOMOGENIOUS AND CONGENIAL
CONJUGAL DAILY LIFE.
11. DIET HABITS:
SOME REGIONS ESPECIALLY IN SOUTH IN INDIA ENJOY RICE, IN WEST BENGAL, BENGALIS RELISH
FISH. IN NORTH WHEAT PREPARED CHAPATIS. PURANTHANS ARE RELISHED. MANNER OF
EATING IN DIFFERENT RIGIONS ARE DIFFERENT SOME TAKE BY HANDS WHILE OTHER
TAKE SPORKS AND SPOONS AS ESSENTIALS. MANY ARE USED TO TRADITIONAL FOOD AS
IS SERVED IN THEIR COMMUNITY, VILLAGES ETC. WHILE IN CITIES, MODERN COOKING
AND EATING ARE ESSENTIAL. HOWEVER, IN THIS MODERN AGE, VARITIES HAVE BECOME
QUITE COMMON, FOOD NOT ONLY OF VARIOUS REGIONS IN THE COUNTRY BUT ALSO FROM
FOREIGN COUNTRIES ARE LIKED AND RELISHED. ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT THOSE WHO
ARE PURE VEGETARIAN, DO NOT AND SHALL NEVER CHANGE TO WHAT IS CALLED MODERN
NON-VEG FOOD.
SUGGESTION: AS MARRIAGE NEEDS CONGENIALITY. IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THE PARTNER
BEING SEARCHED FOR HAS PRACTICALLY THE SAME EATING HABITS, AS SUCH AFTER MARRIAGE
BOTH WILL ENJOY AND RELISH THE SAME FOOD IN COOKING, EATING AND ENJOYING, MORESO
AS BOTH WILL HAVE THE SAME TASTES AND LIKINGS. IT IS POSSIBLE FOR CERTAIN OVERWHELMING
REASONS, TEMPORARILY THESE HABITS COULD GET INTO TOLERANCE BUT IN THE LONGER RUN
ONE OR THE OTHER HAS TO ADAPT TO THE LIKING OF THE OTHER, AND MOSTLY ADPATATION
COMES TO THE TASTE OF THE MALE PARTNER.
12. FAMILY STATUS AND OCCUPATIONS;
STATUS SOCIALLY AND MONETARILY NEEDS TO BE CHECKED COMPARED TO ONE’S OWN STATUS,
IF STATUS MORE OR LESS IS THE SAME, GOING IN RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE TWO
FAMILIES BECOMES EASIER BOTH IN RECEIVING ENDS, ENERTAINING, CONVERSATION ETC. ETC.
THAT IS HOW WE SEE IN GENRAL BUSINESS COMMUNITIES, PREFER TO GET MARRIED IN BUSINESSES WHILE THOSE IN JOBS AND HIERCHY, PERFER TO GET INTO SUCH VOCATIONS.
NEEDLESS TO FORGET THAT THOSE IN BUSINESS OCCUPATIONS GET TRAINED IN BUSINESS AND
THOSE IN SERVICES, GET USED TO LEARN, MOVE IN JOBS, HOW TO MAKE PROGRESS PROFESSIONALLY ETC.
AS LIVING TOGETHER IN MARRIAGE NEEDS TO TALK, ENGAGE IN DISCUSSIONS AND DELIBERATIONS.
FOR PARTNERS COMING FROM SAME OCCUPATIONS. VOCATIONS ETC. IT GETS EASIER TO
CONVERSE ANDPARTICIPATE IN DISCUSSION ON THE SAME RELATED SUBJECTS. FOR
EXAMPLE THOSE IN BUSINESS, WILL TALK MOST OF THE TIME ABOUT BUSINESS, DOCTORS
WILL TALK PROBLEMS OF THEIR PROFESSION, SAME GOES ON IN MILITARY AND ALMOST
IN ALL PROFESSIONS. AS SAME HAVE THE SAME AND/OR SIMILAR VOCATIONAL LEANING AND
LEARNING, IT GETS EASIER TO TALK ABOUT DAILY PROBLEMS, FIND SOLUTIONS TOGETHER
AND MAKE LIFE EASY GOING AND RELAXING.
NOT TO FORGET, WHEN STATUS MORE OR LESS IS THE SAME, COMPATABIITY IN
RELATIONS AND ALSO BETWEEN THE COUPLE BECOMES EASIER.
SUGGESTION; IT IS ESSENTIAL NOT TO NEGLECT STATUS, KEEPING IN VIEW AS TO
WHAT IS YOUR STATUS MONETARILY AND SOCIALLY, AND AS SUCH TO THINK OF A
PARTNER TO BE OF THE SAME, SIMILAR AND/OR IS IN ACCEPTABLE LEVEL.
CHAPTER 6 24-9-21
13. TRADITIONS AND CULTURE;
TRADITIONS; MEAN 1. CUSTOMARY 2. ORTHODOX 3. HABITUAL 4. CONSERVATIVE.
-TRADITIONS ARE MOSTLY TAKEN IN WEARS, EATING, ACCEPTED NORMS AND BELIEFS
AND COMPARED TO MODERN WEAR, EATING, THINKING, BEHAVIOUR ETC. MOSTLY
BOTH ARE CONTRADICTORY, ALSO THESE VARY FROM REGION TO REGION AND FROM
COUNTRY TO CONTRY AND IF ONE LIVES AND ADOPTS TO WHERE ONE IS SETTLED DOWN,
ADAPTATION GETS ESSENTIAL.
SUGGESTION; WORKING GIRLS, MOSTLY WEAR MODERN CLOTHES AND IN FUNCTIONS
AND CELEBRATIONS GENERALLY IN MOST OF THE COUNTRIES ARE USED TO
WEAR SAREES, SALWAR KURTA/KAMEEZ AND SUBSTITUTES.
WHERE SOMEONE WAS BORN AND PARTNER IS BEING SELECTED FROM THAT
REGION, ONE HAS ESSENTIALLY TO ACCEPT THE WEAR OF THE REGION,
TRADITIONS AND RITUALS AND IN WORK PLACE, IF DIFFERENT WEAR IS
REQUIRED, AS HE/SHE HAS ADAPTED, THE OTHER PARTNER WILL HAVE
TO AS THE ENVIRONMENTS OF THAT PLACE AND/OR WORK PLACE OBLIGE SO.
HENCE IF ONE IS LIVING MODREN LIFE, IT WILL BE BETTER TO THINK OF A
PARTNER WITH MODERN WEAR, EATING AND THINKING, IN PREFERENCE.
CULTURE; CONSISTS OF 1. CIVILISATION 2.LIFE STYLES 3. HABITS 3. TRADITION 4. CUSTOMS
ONE WILL OBSERVE THAT CULTURE, AS CULTURE OF SOUTH IS NOT THE SAME
AS THAT OF THE NORTH, DIFFERENT COMMUNTIES HAVE DIFFERENT CULTURES
OF BELIEFS PRAYERS AND PRAYER PRACTICES, FUNCTIONS AND CELEBRATIONS
ETC. ETC.
THAT IS HOW COMMUNITIES HAVE COME UP, REGIONS HAVE COME UP
VARIOUS CULTURES AND PRACTICES ALSO.
SUGGESTION; IT IS BETTER TO THINK OF PARTNER MOSTLY WITH THE SAME CULTURE AS THE
BOY/GIRL IS USED TO, HENCE MARRIAGES IN GENERAL TAKE PLACE IN THE
SAME COMMUNITIES, WHICH HELPS THE COUPLE TO ADUST COMPARATIVELY
QUICKER. IF IN THE SAME COMMUNITY, CHOICE IS MADE, IT IS COMPARATIVELY,
SO ALSO FREOM THE SAME REGION, BETTER BUT IT IS NOT A FIXED RULE.
14. HOUSE OWNED OR RENTED;
IT GETS ESSENTIAL WITH STATUS AND ALSO WITH THE MEANS. OWNED
HOUSE NEEDS JUST MAINTENANCE, WHILE RENTED HOUSE NOT ONLY THAT
IT IS FELT EXPENSIVE AND WASTE OF MONEY BUT ALSO DEPENDS ON THE
OWNER WHETHER HE/SHE WOULD LIKE TO CONTINUE THE TENANT TO CONTINUE
STAYING OR OBLIGE THEM TO LEAVE, HENCE SHIFTING BECOMES CUMBERSOME
AND EXPENSIVE.
NOW UNDER COMPULSION OF WORK, IF ONE GETS JOB IN CERTAIN CITIES WHICH
ARE EXPENSIVE, TO GO ON RENT IS ACCEPTED AS THE NORMAL NORM AND IS NOT
INSISTED UPON TO HAVE OWNED HOUSE, BUT STILL IT REMAINS ESSENTIAL THERE
IS OWNED HOUSE IN NATIVE PLACE. INDUSTRIALISATION AND JOBS AS SUCH
HAVE OBLIGED MANY TO GO IN FOR RENTED HOUSES.
IT ALSO GOES WITH THE THINKING, YOUNG CHILDREN GO IN FOR RENTED HOUSES
AS BUYING A HOUSE OF THEIR OWN DOES NOT FALL INTO THEIR MEANS/INCOME.
AS SUCH, IN FOREGIN IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IN INDIA IN BIG CITIES SAME IS THE
CASE.
DESPITE THIS FACT, ASIANS GENERALY PREFER TO HAVE A HOUSE OF THEIR OWN AS
A FIRST PRIORITY AND AS SOON AS RESOURCES PERMIT, THEY GO INTO BUYING A
HOUSE.
NOT ONLY TO HAVE A HOUSE OF ONE’S OWN, LOCATION BECOMES VERY
IMPORTANT FROM HEALTH REASONS, SOCIALISING REASONS AND WHEN THE
CHILDREN ARE BORN, FOR THEIR COMPANY AND ASSOCIATION.
BESIDES, WHEN ONE IS USED TO CERTAIN AREAS AND COMFORTS IN PARENTAL
HOUSE, ONE WOULD INSIST IF NOT SAME, AT LEAST FOR SIMILAR ONE.
SUGGESTION; HENCE TO HAVE A HOUSE OF ONE’S OWN SHOULD NOT BE A COMPULSION
AND BE KEPT AS ANOPTONAL ONE IF REST OF THE PARAMETERS SEEM TO BE
ACCEPTABLE.
FURTHER IF THE INTENDING COUPLE DECIDES BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE TO
GET TO MICCRO UNIT, RENTING A HOUSE REMAINS THE ONLY REASONABLE AND
CONVENIENT ANSWER. HOWEVER, IF THE BOY HAS A HOUSE, BESIDES PRETIGE, IT
SAVES LOT OF EXPENSES, HENCE THE PREFERENCE MANY A TIME BECOMES AN
ABSOLUTE CONDITION. ALL THE FACTORS NEED TO BE CONSIDERED TOGETHER
NOT AT ALL IN ISOLATION AND COMPULSORY ONES.
HENCE LOCATION IS AS EQUALLY IMPORTANT AS IMPORTANT IS TO HAVE A
HOUSE OF ONE’S OWN, IN RENTED HOUSE, ONE CAN MANAGE FOR SOME
TIME BUT WHEN BUYING A HOUSE, LOCATION IS VERY IMPORTANT TO BE
KEPT IN VIEW.
FOR ABOVE REASONS, IN DESIRES QUITE SOME TIME, OWN HOUSE AND
LOCATIONS ARE STIPULATED AND ARE MADE COMPULSORY.
chapter 6 26-9-21
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
TO MARRY WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
TO MARRY WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
TO MARRY WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
TO MARRY WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING EXPLAINED AND ELABORATED ON VARIOUS
FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE DECISIONS FOR MAKING
UP MIND FOR MARRIAGE. TODAY I SHALL DISCUSS
ON
1. VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE
2. WHAT ARE THE FACTORS WHICH STOP DECISION
TAKING AND/OR INTERFERE AND INFLUENCE IN
IN DECISION TAKING ALONE FOR MARRIAGE.
3. JOINT, NUCLEAR OR MICRO UNIT.
VARIOUS FORMS OF MARRIAGE.
-I HAVE ALREADY EXPLAINED AS TO WHY MARRIAGE
WENT INTO OTHER FORMS, WHAT FACTORS COMPELLED
THESE CHANGES TO THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE,
MOSTLY THESE WERE:
(a) COERCION
(b) DOWRY
(c) INHERITANCE
(d) SATI
(e) ABUSE BY IN-LAWS, FIGHTS ETC.
(f)
THESE ARE THE MAIN REASONS WHICH NECESSITATED CHANGES
IN THE SOCIAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE IN ORDER TO GET RID OF ABOV-
MENTIONED ABSUSES: THESE ARE;
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE
(b) LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT OF MARRIAGE
(c) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION
(d) HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE
JUST A FEW PASSING REMARKS ABOUT THE ADVANGES OF ABOVE
TYPES OF MARRIAGES:
(a) LOVE MARRIAGE; IS SOLELY BASED ON LOVE AND
NOTHING ELSE, NEITHER COMMUNITY, NOR CASTE,
NOR RELIGION NOR ANY INTERFERENCE OR COMPULSION
BY PARENTS ETC. ADDITIONAL ABSUSES LIKE COERCION,
DOWRY, INHERITANCE, SATI ETC. ARE RULED OUT AND ARE
MOSTLY REPLACED BY:
-EQUALITY, CARING SHARING, PARTICIPATION,
CONSULTATION AND DELIBERATIONS ETC.
IT IS NOW ACCEPED AS THE MOST PRACTICAL TYPE OF MARRIAGE
TO LIVE A BETTER MARRIED LIFE WITHOUT ANY FAMILY
INTERFERENCE AND ALSO AVOIDS ALL ABOVE CITED CAUSES
OF CONFLICTS.
ALAS DESPITE ITS GAINS OF EQUALITY FOR EACH AND EVERY
ASPECT OF LIFE, SINCE ALMOST ALL CRUCIAL PROBLEMS ARE
DISCUSSED IN ADVANCE AND DECISIONS TAKEN IN UNISON,
STILL, LOVE RELATIONSHIP GETS DETERIORATING SLOWLY AND
SLOWLY AND MOSTLY FINISHES IN DIVORCES
(b) MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION: THIS SYSTEM WAS INVENTED TO AVOID
CONFLICTS ABOUT INHERITANCE, DOWRIES ETC.
IT IS QUITE CURRENT AND IS MOSTLY ACCEPTED IN LOVE MARRIAGES
AND IS SLOWLY AND SLOWLY BEING ACCEPTED IN SOCIAL/CUSTOMARY
FORM OF MARRIAGE AS WELL.
FURTHER IT HAS TAKEN ITS LEGAL SHAPE AND AS SUCH WHEN MARRIAGE
KNOTS CEREMONY IS TAKING PLACE, THIS MARRIAGE BY SEPARATION IS
EXPLAINED AND LEGALLY DECREED.
© LIVE-IN MARRIAGE: IT HELPS IN TO AVOID LEGAL TUSSLES OF DIVORCES
AND EXPENSES. IT ALSO HAS ITSOWN FLAWS, AS IT IS SAID AND IS TRUE
AS WELL, ÁNYTHING EASY GOT, IS EASY LOST ALSO’ HENCE THIS LIVE-IN
MARRIAGE CONTINUES SO LONG AS THE COUPLE CAN MANAGE, AS SOON
ANY DIFFERENCES BREW UP, IT DOES NOT TAKE MUCH TIME TO BREAK
RELATIONSHIP WHICH BESIDES PERSONAL SUFFERANCE OF THE COUPLE,
IT DRASTICALLY AFFECTS THE UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN ETC.
(d )HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE; IT IS THE EXTREME FORM OF MARRIAGE BY
BY TWO OF SAME SEX – MALE WITH MALE AND FEMALE WITH FEMALE.
IT HAPPENS IN TOTAL DISGUST OF THE PRESENT SYSTEM OF ALL TYPES
OF MARRIAGES AND ALSO ALL SORTS OF ABUSES AS WELL. IT IS BELIEVED
BY SUCH PERSONS THAT OPPOSITE SEXES NECESSARILY CREATE CONFLICTS
AND ARE BEREFT OF EQUALITY AND FREEDOM. IT HELPS IN NOT TO
HAVE CHILDREN AND DOESN’T CREATE THE URGE FOR MINE AND THINE.
AS ARTISTS WHO GENERALLY EXPRESS ANTOGISM AGAINST THE PRESENT
SYSTEM PREFER TO GO IN FOR HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGES. AS THERE
IS SAME THINKING BY BOTH ABOUT OPPOSITE SEXES, MINE AND THINE IS
AVOIDED TO A GREAT EXTENT, THIS TYPE OF MARRIAGE IS GENERALLY
CONDEMNED AND EXCEPT IN FEW COUNTRIES, IT HAS NOT BEEN ACCEPTED
LEGALLY.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT AT TIMES, COMPANY, ASSOCIATION,
IMPOTENCY, BREAK FROM ABOVE TYPES OF MARRIAGES, DO ENCOURAGE
TO GET INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO NOTE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT TWO SAME SEXES
GO INTO MARRIAGE, IN THEM ALSO SOONER OR LATER, ONE TURNS OUT
TO BE COMMANDING ONE AND THE OTHER REMAINS A PASSIVE AND
ACCEPTING ONE. I THINK EQUALITY DOES NOT EXIST, AND INSTEAD RICH
AND POOR, WELL-TO-DO AND NEEDY/UNEMPLOYED/MISERABLE GET INTO
THIS HOMOSEXUAL ARRANGEMENT.
ESSENTIAL ALSO TO KNOW, ONCE SOMEONE GETS INTO HOMOSEXUAL TYPE
OF MARRIAGE, ONE REMAINS ADDICTED TO IT AND NEVER RETURNS TO
ALTERNATIVE FORM OF MARRIAGES.
FINALLY, TO REMAIN HAPPY AND TO AVOID ALL SORTS OF CONFLICTS REMAINS
THEIR OBJECTIVE WHICH RESULTS INTO HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE.
JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE;
THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI/HOROSCOPE IT IS A BIG HURDLE AND
MOSTLY IS THE DECIDING FACTOR, RULING OUT REST OF THE PARAMETERS
OF MARRIAGE, AT MOST THOSE ARE COMPROMISED.
I HAD WRITTEN AND BLIEVE THAT KUNDLI/JANAPATRI/HOROSCOPE IS LIKE
SERPANT WHICH KEEPS FEAR ABOUND IF EVER ANY DEVIATION OR NON-
ACCEPTED IS RESORTED TO, FUTURE MARRIED WILL GO ON CONFLICTS AND
DIVORCE ETC.
NOW I BELIEVE IN MY CONVICTION AND DO COMPARE JANAMATRI WITH
BAT (CHAMGADAR) WHICH ONCE GETS INFLICTED, IT NEVER SEPARATES
EVER THOUGHOUT ONE’S LIFE.
EXCEPT IN HINDU RELIGION, I DO NOT FIND THAT JANAMPATRI HAS ANY
SIGNIFICANCE, WE MAY TALK OF CHRISTANITY, MUSLIMS, ETC.
I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH ONE WHOM LOVES
AND/OR ACCEPTS BECAUSE OF QUALITIES AND/OR GOES BY EMOTIONS,
JANAMPATRI SHOULD HAVE NO SIGNIFICATE AND ONE SHOULD NEVER
THINK OF IT AS AN ESSENTIAL FACTOR.
I HAVE OBSERVED IN MANY CASES THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI
DO NOT FIND A COMPANION WITH MATCHING HOROSCOPE, REMAIN
UNMARRIED UNTIL THE TIME A JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
IS FOUND. IT IS HORRIBLE, AS ONE SUFFERS TOTAL OR A MAJOR PART
OF ONE’S LIFE IN SEARCH AND WAITING.
THIS IS MY SUGGESTION AND IS IN NO CASE A PRONOUNCEMENT. I WILL
SAY THAT THOSE WHO BLIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST WAIT TO MATCH
LEST ANY BAD OR WORST HAPPENS AFTER MARRIAGE, THE AFFECTED
BOY AND/OR GIRL WILL ACCUSE THEIR PARENTS AND PERHAPS WILL
NEVER MARRY AGAIN.
FOR SUCH PERSONS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST CONSULT THEIR
PANDIT AND EXPLORE ALL TYPES OF REMEDIAL MEASURES. AND THEN
GET INTO MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT.
NEVERTHELESS
I AM OF FIRM BELIEF THAT THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, MUST
WAIT AND SEARCH FOR SOMEONE WITH MATCHING JANAMPATRI
AND MUST ALSO BELIEVE IN COMPROMISE IF THEY FIND THE BOY AND GIRL
MATCHING JANAMPATRI.
SEARCH MAY TAKE A LONGER TIME BUT NEVER TO THINK THEY WILL
NEVER BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING COMPANION
CAUTION; SUCH BELIEVERS IN JANAMPATRI MUST START SEARCH FOR
SPOUSE AT QUILTE AN EARLY STAGE, LEAVING A MARGIN OF A YEAR
OR SO AS SEARCH AND MATCHING ARE LIKELY TO TAKE LONGER TIME
EXCEPT BY CHANCE ONE MAY BE ABLE TO FIND JANAMPATRI MATCHING
SPOUSE IN ONE OR TWO ATTEMPTS.
SUGGESTION; IF THE BOY AND/OR GIRL BELIEVE IN JANAMPATRI, THEY
CHECK ABOUT IT IN ADVANCE BEFORE GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIP OF
ANY SORT, IF EITHER OF THEM IS INFLUENCED BY PARENTS ETC. THEN
IT IS LEFT TO THE BOY AND GIRL WHETHER TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS
OR GO ABOUT THEIR THINKING. IT IS OBSERVED THAT IN CERTAIN
COMMUNITIES IT IS ESSENTIAL AND MATCHING JANAMPATRI IS AN OVER-
RIDING FACTOR WHILE IT IS LOSING SIGNIFICANCE WITH MODERN
AGE AND EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS, AS ALSO WITH THOSE WHO FALL
IN LOVE AND ARE LIVING FOR JOB ETC. PURPOSES IN A PLACE WHERE TO
FIND COMPANION IS VERY DIFFICULT.
FINALLY AND LASTLY IT IS THE BOY AND GIRL ALONE WHO ARE TO DECIDE
WHETHER TO GO ABOUT JANAMPATRI MATCHING OR NOT.
……………
Analysed and explained by vasdevloond founder of cost free marriage
bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept NGO to contact:
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY, AND WHEN?
FOR DECISION TAKING FOLLOWING ARE ALSO
FACTORS WHICH NEED FULL CONSIDERATION
FOR TAKING DECISION:
1. MICRO UNIT: GENERALLY, GIRL WOULD
PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT AS IT
IS GENERALLY FELT AND IS ALSO A FACT
THAT WHILE LIVING IN INITIAL STAGE
OF MARRIAGE, IF ONE LIVES IN A JOINT
FAMILY, HUSBAND’S ATTENTION IS
DIRECTED MOST OF THE TIME FOR HIS
FAMILY AND AS SUCH GIVES VERY LITTLE
TIME TO WIFE, AND IN ANY CONFLICT,
MISUNDERSTANDING, DECISION TAKING
THE HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE
OF HIS FAMILY. AS SUCH POSSIBILITY
OF CONFLICTS ARISING IS MORE THAN
GIVING ENOUGH TIME TO THE WIFE FOR
LISTENING, APPRECIATING AND DOING
EFFORT FOR ADJUSTMENT.
HENCE WHEN THE COUPLE LIVES IN A MICRO
UNIT, THERE IS NO INTERFERENCE FROM ANY
ONE AND IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE COUPLE
TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AND ADJUST IN
THEIR RELATIONSHIP, MANNERS, HABITS AND ALSO
FOR PARTICIPATING IN ALL ACTIVITIES OF HOUSE-
HOLD AS A PARTNER IN REAL SENSE. BUT LET IT
NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT THIS HONEY-MOON
RELATIONSHIP LASTS FOR A SHORTER TIME AND WHEN
IT IS THOUGHT OF HAVING A CHILD, THEN QUESTION
ARISES ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE
ARE WORKING, AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE
CHILD, MAID OR THE PARENTS. WHEN THE CHILD
IS LEFT WITH THE MAID, MOTHER REMAINS WORRIED
MOST OF THE TIME, MORESO THE CHILD GENERALLY
WILL DEVELOP MANY OF THE HABITS OF THE MAID.
HENCE NEED FOR JOINT FAMILY ARISES.
SUGGESTION; MICRO UNIT SHOULD BE THOUGHT OF
TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE, WHICH HELPS AND IS
MUCH CONVENIENT TO ADUST WITH EACH OTHER AND
ACCOMMODATE WITH DIFFERENT MANNERS, ATTITUDES
AND HABITS OF EACH OTHER.
CARE: IT MUST BE TRIED TO SEEK ACCEPTANCE OF THE
PARENTS AND IN EXTREME IS NOT, THEN MUST THINK OF
AND TAKE DECISION BETTER TO GO IN FOR MICRO UNIT,
IF THE WIFE IS NOT WORKING, THEN MICRO UNIT IS THE
BEST OPTION AND IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
WORKING. INITIAL AND SHORTER PERIOD TO LIVE AND
ENJOY IN MICRO UNIT WILL BE THE BETTER ANSWER.
JOINT FAMILY; JOINT FAMILY HELPS IN DISTRIBUTION OF WORK,
HELP AND CARE OF ALL SORTS BUT GREATEST DRAW-
BACK IS THAT IT ENCOURAGES CONFLICTS AND MANY
A TIME HUSBAND REMAINS IN THE INFLUENCE AND
OBEDIENCE OF HIS PARENTS AND AS SUCH WIFE IS NEGLECTED
A LOT, SHE IS NOT GIVEN ENOUGH TIME TO TALK AND UNDERSTAND
EACH OTHER AS MANY RESERVATIONS AND INTERFERENCE OF
THE FAMILY MEMBERS REMAIN UNAVOIDABLE.
SUGGESTION; BESIDES CONSULTATION WITH THE WOULD-BE
WIFE, IF PRIMARY CHOICE REMAINS TO OPT FOR A GIRL WHO
IS COMING FROM THE JOINT FAMILY, IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER
FOR HER TO ADJUST THAN THE ONE COMING FROM NUCLEAR
FAMILY.
NUCLEAR FAMILY; HELPS IN THE GIRL GETTING ENOUGH TIME TO
BE LOVED AND GUIDED BY THE PARENTS, AT LEAST BETTER THAN
IN A JOINT FAMILY. BUT THERE IS DRAW-BACK ALSO THAT SUCH GIRL
WOULD HAVE BEEN KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWING PAMPERED
BY PARENTS WHICH AFTER MARRIAGE, AS SUCH SHE WILL NOT BE
ABLE TO GET AND ENJOY AND IT IS ALSO POSSIBLE, THAT SHE WILL REMAIN
COMPARATIVELY MUCH ATTACHED TO HER PARENTS, ESPECIALLY
WTH THE MOTHER, WHICH IN A WAY RETARDS ADJUSTMENT IN
THE COUPLE AND HUSBAND’S FAMILY.
BUT ADVANTAGE REMAINS, FROM AND IN NUCLIEAR FAMILY,
THE RESPONSIBILITIES GET THE LEAST AND INTERFERENCE FROM
IN-LAWS BECOMES THE LEAST AND RARE.
CAUTION; THUS FOR THE GIRL COMING FROM NUCLEAR FAMILY, SHE
WILL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND SHALL REQUIRE MORE TIME
AS SUCH HUSBAND MUST GET PREPARED TO CONCEDE AND ACCEPT
WHATEVER THE HABITS, MANNERS AND EVEN DEMANDS OF THE GIRL ARE.
CONCLUSION; ADJUSTMENT IN MICRO UNIT IS THE BEST FOR A
SHORTER PERIOD UNTIL A CHILD IS BORN.
JOINT FAMILY IS BETTER ONLY WHEN THE HUSBAND HAS FULLY
UNDERSTOOD AND ACCEPTS IN ACTION THAT WIFE IN MORE
IMPORTANT AFTER MARRIAGE THAN HIS FAMILY AND AS SUCH
AS AND WHEN ANY PROBLEM EMERGES, HE OWNS TO HIMSELF
TO TAKE DECISION AND SETTLE IT AND IF ALL EFFORTS FAIL, BE
PREPARED TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
NUCLEAR UNIT GIRL SHALL BE NEEDING MORE CARE AND MORE
CONSIDERATION FROM HUSBAND TO ADJUST.
HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO SEE THE CONDITIONS OF ONE’S
FAMILY, ALSO NEEDS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF HIS FAMILY,
MAKE UP HIS MIND AND THEN THRASH IT OUT IN ADVANCE
BEFORE GOING INTO SELECTION OF THE PARTNER.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING TALKED ABOUT VARIOUS FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE IN
DECISION TAKING FOR THE MARRIAGE AND ALSO VARIOUS FORMS
OF MARRIAGE,
IT IS IMPORTANT WHETHER THE BOY OR GIRL TAKE DECISION BY
HIMSELF OR HERSELF ALONE AND/OR BE GUIDED BY THE FAMILY.
RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC.
IN SOCIAL MARRIAGE INFLUENCE OF THE PARENTS MOSTLY AND
THAT OF RELATIONS AND FRIENDS RARELY, DOES PLAY A CRUCIAL
ROLE IN DECIDING ABOUT CHOICE OF A PARTNER.
WHILE IN CASE OF LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT AND
HOMOSEXUAL, PARENTS VIEWS ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT IT IS FINALLY
THE CONCERNED BOY AND GIRL WHO MOSTLY STICK TO HIS/HER
DECISION AND DO NOT CARE FOR WHAT THEIR PARENTS SHALL
THINK ABOUT AND/OR REMAIN ADAMANT ABOUT THEIR NON-ACCEPTANCE.
SUGGESTION; PARENTS MUST WORK AS SUGGESTIVE, EXPRESSING JUST
THEIR FEELINGS AND VIEWS, AND MUST NOT AND NEVER INSIST NOR
RESIST AGAINST THE DECISION BEING TAKEN BY THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
IF THE PARENTS CONTINUE RESISTING AND OBJECTING, THEY WILL BE DOING
GREATEST HARM TO THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER WHO IN RETALIATION MAY
RESORT TO SAYING
(a) HENCE DECIDE NOT TO MARRY
(b) IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG WITHIN THE COUPLE AFTER MARRIAGE,
PARENTS WILL ALWAYS BE ACCUSED WHICH COULD POSSIBLY AFTER
SOME ARGUMENTS AND DISCUSSION, RESULT IN AVOIDING AND/OR
BREAKING RELATIONSHIP WTH THE PARENTS. THUS PARENTS REMAIN
IN A FIX ALL THE TIME, WORRIED BUT WITHOUT ANY ANSWER AND SO
ALSO HAPPENS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL.
© AS THE BOY OR GIRL ISTO LIVE HIS/HER LIFE, IF HE OR SHE TAKES HIS OR
HER DECISION OVERRIDING THE VIEWS AND WISHES OF THE PARENTS,
HE OR SHE WILL DO HIS/HER BEST TO AVOID ANY CONFLICT WITH THE
PARTNER AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND AS SUCH NEEDN’T BE ACCUSED
OR REPRIMANDED BY HIS/HER PARENTS FOR NOT HAVING LISTENED
AND AGREED TO THEIR VIEWS AND FOREWARNING.
(d ) ESSENTIAL THE BOY AND THE GIRL MUST CONSCIENCELY AND PATIENTLY
LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS VIEWS, WORK OUT ON ALL PROS AND CONS
OF THE VIEWS OF HIS/HER PARENTS, AS GUIDE AND WELL WISHERS BUT
NEVER IN ANY MANNER THINK OF BEING INFLUENCD AND/OR OBSTRUCTED
FOR TAKING HIS OR DECISION.
(e ) HENCE THE BOY OR THE GIRL CONCERNED MUST REMAIN THE SOLE AND
FINAL DECISION TAKER, THIS IS WHAT I BELIEVE IN AND SUGGEST ACCORDINGLY.
HEREAFTER THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHICH MODE OF SEARCH NEEDS TO BE USED TO
HELP IN THE QUEST TO FIND THE MOST DESIRED COMPATIBLE AND RESPECTFUL PARTNER.
ESSENTIAL AND MOST IMPORTANT IT IS THAT THE BOY OR GIRL MUST DECIDE AND SPECIFY
HIS/HER DESIRES, ASPIRATIONS AND PREFERENCES, TO EACH AND EVERY MODE OF RESEARCH
AS OTHERWISE IT IS LIKELY THAT MOST OF THE CHOICES WILL BE REFUSED BY THE CONCERNED
BOY OR GIRL, AND ALL EFFORTS WILL GO FRUITLESS. HENCE THIS DECISION AND SPECIFICATION
OF HIS DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS/PREFERENCES ARE THE PRIME-MOST AND DO MAKE THE SEARCH
MUCH EASIER.
HENCE TO MAKE SEARCH OF A PARTNER, FOLLOWING MODES ARE GENERALLY EMPLOYED;
(a) THROUGH PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES ETC.
(b) THROUGH PANCHAYATS, SOCIAL AND/OR RELIGIOUS ORGTANISATIONS
AREA LEADER ETC. ETC.
(c) PANDITS, PRIESTS, GOING THROUGH THE LISTS MAINTAINED BY
TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AND NOTING DOWN THE
INFORMATION ONE IS LOOKING FOR TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THE
RESPECTED NOTED DOWN PARTIES.
(d ) THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS.
IN GENERAL, IT IS OBSERVED THAT THE EDUCATED BOYS AND GIRLS PREFER TO GO
THROUGH MARRIAGE BUREAUS AS PER CHOICE AND MEANS, WITH ONE OR MANY
MARRIAGE BUREAUS, WHILE GENERALLY COUNT ON PRIESTS, LISTS MAINTAINED
IN THE TEMPLES, MOSQUES, CHURCHES ETC. AS ALSO THROUGH THEIR RELATIONS.
FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES ETC. ETC.
IN LOVE MARRIAGES ETC. IT MAY HAPPEN WITH COLLEAGUES IN COLLEGES, WORKPLACE
NEIGHBOURHOOD, PLACE OF RESIDENCE, FUNCTIONS/CELEBRATIONS, COMMON VISITING
AND STROLLING PLACES ETC. ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE, WHY AND WHEN?
NOW OUT OF ALL PARAMETERS GIVEN, THE BOY OR GIRL CONCERNED WILL WORK OUT
ON PROS AND CONS AND AS SUCH MAKE HIS/HER MIND AS TO WHAT COULD BE THE OPTIONAL,
AND RESTRICTIVE POINTS AND AS SUCH MAKE CHART WITH CLEAR STIPULATIONS, MOSTLY
CONCENTRATING ON THE FOLLOWING POINTS:
OPTIONAL TO DECIDE DURING MEETING ESSENTIAL
1 AGE,HEIGHT,WEIGHT,COMPLEXION
2 BAHITS
3 HOUSE OWN/RENTED
4 FAMILY RESPONISBILITIES,
HABITS, ATTITUDES,SYSTEMS
5 WORKING OR HOMELY GIRL
6 WORKING OR BUSINESSMAN
7 WORK-PLACE AND LOCATION
8 JOB LIMITATIONS LIKE SHIFTS,
COMPULSORY TAVEL AS IN NAVY,
POLICE, MILITARY, AIR ETC.
9 COMPATABILITY DESIRED IN;
- ANGER, SMOKING, DRINKING,
- NON-VEG
- PATIONATE, GOOD LISTNER,
- PRO DISCUSSIONS AND DECISION TAKING
- -NON-BIASED
- -CARING, SHARING AND PARTICIPATING
10. PHYSIQUE ANY PHYSICAL PROBLEMS - WHETHER TO DISCLOSE OR NOT,MINOR NO,
SERIOUS/MAJOR TO DISCLOSE
11 JOINT OR MICRO UNIT
12 IF SOMEHOW DIFFERENCES HAPPEN, WHEN AMENABLE TO LISTEN, DISCUSS AND DECIDE
13 ANY INCONVENIENCE OF WORKING WITH PARENTS PARENTS IN THEIR BUSINESS
14 FINANCIAL LIABILITIES IF ANY
15 JANAMPATRI ESSENTIAL OR NOT
16 TO DO MEETINGS TO CHECK ABOVE ESSENTIAL
17. WHAT INQURIES AND ABOUT SUBJECTS, INCOME, WORK, HABITS, CHARACTER, WHAT MORE
18 MARRIAGE CELEBRATIONS, BY SHARING OR INDIVIDUALLY
19 DEMANDS OR INSISTENCE OF CERTAIN BUDGET OR ANY STIPULATIONS OF KIND AND COINS
ABOVE ARE JUST THE GENERAL POINTS WHICH NEED CONSIDERATION, REFLECTION AND ESSETIAL
TO TAKE DECION AND CLASSIFY THESE INTO … OPTIONAL, CHANGEABLE DURING/AFTER THE MEETINGS PERSONAL, HOUSE VISITS ETC. ETC.
ESSENTIAL SOME TIME AND MANY A TIME, ONE GOES BY EMOTIONS AND FORGETS ALL ABOVE
PARAMETERS.
PERHAPS IF ONE WISHES, ONE CAN REFER TO AND READY THE BOOKS TITLED
MARRIAGE ENCYCLOPEDIA, PRE-MARRIAGE EDUCATION AND GUIDANCE, AND
CHECK ON ALL POINTS AS DETAILED IN THE BIODATA FORM FORULATED BY
MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED .. MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, COST
FREE MARRIAGE BUREAU, NGO, FOR CONTACT VASDEVLOOND@GMAIL.COM
9811943867 WWE.MARRIAGEGUIDANCE.IN WWW.FACEBOOK.COM
TO DO MARRIAGE, WHY AND WHEN?
NOW OUT OF ALL PARAMETERS GIVEN, THE BOY OR GIRL CONCERNED WILL WORK OUT
ON PROS AND CONS AND AS SUCH MAKE HIS/HER MIND AS TO WHAT COULD BE THE OPTIONAL,
AND RESTRICTIVE POINTS AND AS SUCH MAKE CHART WITH CLEAR STIPULATIONS, MOSTLY
CONCENTRATING ON THE FOLLOWING POINTS:
OPTIONAL TO DECIDE DURING MEETING ESSENTIAL
1 AGE,HEIGHT,WEIGHT,COMPLEXION
2 BAHITS
3 HOUSE OWN/RENTED
4 FAMILY RESPONISBILITIES,
HABITS, ATTITUDES,SYSTEMS
5 WORKING OR HOMELY GIRL
6 WORKING OR BUSINESSMAN
7 WORK-PLACE AND LOCATION
8 JOB LIMITATIONS LIKE SHIFTS,
COMPULSORY TAVEL AS IN NAVY,
POLICE, MILITARY, AIR ETC.
9 COMPATABILITY DESIRED IN;
- ANGER, SMOKING, DRINKING,
- NON-VEG
- PATIONATE, GOOD LISTNER,
- PRO DISCUSSIONS AND DECISION TAKING
- -NON-BIASED
- -CARING, SHARING AND PARTICIPATING
10. PHYSIQUE ANY PHYSICAL PROBLEMS - WHETHER TO DISCLOSE OR NOT,MINOR NO,
SERIOUS/MAJOR TO DISCLOSE
11 JOINT OR MICRO UNIT
12 IF SOMEHOW DIFFERENCES HAPPEN, WHEN AMENABLE TO LISTEN, DISCUSS AND DECIDE
13 ANY INCONVENIENCE OF WORKING WITH PARENTS PARENTS IN THEIR BUSINESS
14 FINANCIAL LIABILITIES IF ANY
15 JANAMPATRI ESSENTIAL OR NOT
16 TO DO MEETINGS TO CHECK ABOVE ESSENTIAL
17. WHAT INQURIES AND ABOUT SUBJECTS, INCOME, WORK, HABITS, CHARACTER, WHAT MORE
18 MARRIAGE CELEBRATIONS, BY SHARING OR INDIVIDUALLY
19 DEMANDS OR INSISTENCE OF CERTAIN BUDGET OR ANY STIPULATIONS OF KIND AND COINS
ABOVE ARE JUST THE GENERAL POINTS WHICH NEED CONSIDERATION, REFLECTION AND ESSETIAL
TO TAKE DECION AND CLASSIFY THESE INTO … OPTIONAL, CHANGEABLE DURING/AFTER THE MEETINGS PERSONAL, HOUSE VISITS ETC. ETC.
ESSENTIAL SOME TIME AND MANY A TIME, ONE GOES BY EMOTIONS AND FORGETS ALL ABOVE
PARAMETERS.
PERHAPS IF ONE WISHES, ONE CAN REFER TO AND READY THE BOOKS TITLED
MARRIAGE ENCYCLOPEDIA, PRE-MARRIAGE EDUCATION AND GUIDANCE, AND
CHECK ON ALL POINTS AS DETAILED IN THE BIODATA FORM FORULATED BY
MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED .. MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, COST
FREE MARRIAGE BUREAU, NGO, FOR CONTACT VASDEVLOOND@GMAIL.COM
9811943867 WWE.MARRIAGEGUIDANCE.IN WWW.FACEBOOK.COM
TO DO MARRIAGE, WHY AND WHEN?
HAVING GIVEN MOST OF THE SEARCH POINTS IN THE
SEARCH CHART, POSSIBLY ONE MAY THINK OF SOME
MORE TO ADD, THAT WILL BE PERFECT.
BEFORE GETTING TO REFLECT AND JOT DOWN VIEWS
AGAINST ANY OF THE 3 COLUMNS, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT
ONE SITS IN A CALM AND QUITE ENVIRONMENT, FEELS
FREE FROM ALL OTHER ENGAGEMENTS, CONCENTRATES
COOLY AND CALMLY TO STUDY, ANALYSES EACH AND
EVERY POINT CAREFULLY, ESSENTIAL TO MIRROR ONE’S
OWN NEEDS FOR THE MISSING ONES AND/OR TO FIND
COMPATABILITY.
THIS SEARCH CHART HAS 3 COLUMNS, WHEN ALL ARE
FILLED IN, THEN STUDY AND ANALYSE WHICH NEED TO
BE LEFT OUT, ESPECIALLY THOSE LEFT IN THE OPTION, AND
CONCENTRATE BETWEEN THOSE WHICH ARE JOTTED
DOWN IN THE MEETING AND THOSE WHICH
ARE ESSENTIAL, IT IS POSSIBLE YOU MAY GET INCLINED
TO CHANGE QUITE A FEW TO OPTION AND NOT NECESSARY
AND THUS GET FEW LEFT IN THE COLUMNS OF MEETING
AND ESSENTIAL. PLEASE BE SURE THE LESSER THESE WILL
BE, THE MORE AND BETTER YOU WILL BE ABLE TO CONCENTRATE
AND CHECK BY ALL MEANS, ANSWERS FOR THE QUESTIONS YOU
HAD JOTTED DOWN.
IF REALLY AND FULLY CONCENTRATED TO JOT DOWN THE QUESTIONS
AND WITHOUT GETTING EMOTIONAL OR BEING INFLUENCED IN ANY
MANNER, I AM SURE, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO GET THE CHOICES PARTNER
YOU WANTED TO BE WITH, SUBJECT TO HOUSE VISITS AND INQUIRIES
THEREOF LATER ON.
HEREAFTER I WILL TRY TO LET YOU KNOW WHAT INFORMATION IN THE
BIODATA ARE NECESSARY TO MENTION AND WHAT ARE NECESSARY TO
TO MARRY WHEN AND WHEN?
AS NOW DECISION AS TO WHAT THE BOY OR THE GIRL DESIRE HIS/HER
PARTNER TO BE, ONE NEEDS TO JOT DOWN CLEARLY ON PAPER OR IN
THE BIODATA AS DESIGNED HEREUNDER;
BOY OR GIRL
MY SPECIFICATIONS DESIRES
……………………………………………………………………………………………..
1 never married …….. never married
2 divorcee/divorced……… divorcee/divorced
(a) Have child(ren) .. accept child(ren)
(b) No child … accept no child
3 date of birth and time … date of birth and time
4 place of birth …. Place of birth
5 religion, sect. caste… religion, sect.caste/ all communities/religion immaterial
6 horoscope/janampatri yes/no… horoscope/janampatri yes/no
7 manglik/non-manglik/anshik… manglik/non-manglik/anshik
8 house owned/rented … house owned/rented/immaterial
9 in city, state. country …. in city, state, country
10 nationality ….. nationality, immaterial
Physical attributes
1. Height, weight, .. height from…. To……, weight from… to…
2. Complexion weatish/fair/dark … weatish/fair/dark
Habits
1, smoke, diet, drink … smoke, diet, drink
Family status
Affluent, middle. Poor …. Affluent, middle, poor
Occupations
Father, mother, brothers, unmarried sisters … father, mother,brothers, unmarried sisters
Boy or Girl Education and occupation
1. Academic … academic
2. Professional qualifications … professional qualification
3. Occupation and designation …. Occupation and designation
4. Work location, city, state,country … work location, city.state,country
5. Is the job transferable … is the job transferable
6, income per month … income per month desired or immaterial
7, any additional income …. Any additional income
Job, prefer to continue working or not … essential to work, left to spouse choice
after marriage.
Family consists of joint, nuclear/micro ….. joint/nuclear/micro
- preference if any - preference if any
To specify if any restrictions or reservations .. to specify if any restrictions or reservations
Photo 1-2 natural without make-up Photo 1-2 natural, without make-up
Additional information if any, about family. Additional information, if any, about family.
job, manners/attitude, and/or any other job, manners/attitudes and/or any other
specification specifications.
ESSENTIAL; WHOSOEVER IS FILLING UP THIS FORM ABOUT HIM/HER, NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO
SPECIFY CLEARLY ALL FACTS HONESTLY AND CLEARLY AS ON HIS/HER INFORMATION GIVEN
THE SEARCHED SPOUSE WILL BASE HIS/HER WILLINGNESS OR NON-DESIRABILITY/
NON-ACCEPTANCE.
2, EQUALLY IMPORTANT IS THAT DESIRES AND ASPIRATIONS ARE COMPARABLE AND
JUSIFIED AS PER HIS/HER OWN SPECIFICATIONS. IT MUST BE KEPT IN VIEW IF THE
DESIRES ARE ABNORMAL, THE CHOICE WILL BE VERY LIMITED AND RARE.
3 NEED ALSO TO BE KEPT IN MIND RESTRICTIONS/RESERVATIONS IF ANY AND OF
ALL SORTS, WILL MAKE SEARCH DIFFICULT, MORE THE RESERVATIONS/RESTRICTIONS,
MORE DIFFICULT IT WILL BE TO FIND THE PARTNER.
4 HENCE THE MORE REALISTIC ONE IS ABOUT HIMSELF/HERSELF AND ALSO ABOUT HIS/HER
DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS, IT WILL BE EASIRE AND QUICKLY TO FIND THE DESIRED PARTNER.
Next will follow how to verify biodata received with all information as detailed above
and to decide whether to accept the biodata or reject it, and if rejected, for what reasons.
TO MARRY WHEN AND WHEN?
AS NOW DECISION AS TO WHAT THE BOY OR THE GIRL DESIRE HIS/HER
PARTNER TO BE, ONE NEEDS TO JOT DOWN CLEARLY ON PAPER OR IN
THE BIODATA AS DESIGNED HEREUNDER;
BOY OR GIRL
MY SPECIFICATIONS DESIRES
……………………………………………………………………………………………..
1 never married …….. never married
2 divorcee/divorced……… divorcee/divorced
(a) Have child(ren) .. accept child(ren)
(b) No child … accept no child
3 date of birth and time … date of birth and time
4 place of birth …. Place of birth
5 religion, sect. caste… religion, sect.caste/ all communities/religion immaterial
6 horoscope/janampatri yes/no… horoscope/janampatri yes/no
7 manglik/non-manglik/anshik… manglik/non-manglik/anshik
8 house owned/rented … house owned/rented/immaterial
9 in city, state. country …. in city, state, country
10 nationality ….. nationality, immaterial
Physical attributes
1. Height, weight, .. height from…. To……, weight from… to…
2. Complexion weatish/fair/dark … weatish/fair/dark
Habits
1, smoke, diet, drink … smoke, diet, drink
Family status
Affluent, middle. Poor …. Affluent, middle, poor
Occupations
Father, mother, brothers, unmarried sisters … father, mother,brothers, unmarried sisters
Boy or Girl Education and occupation
1. Academic … academic
2. Professional qualifications … professional qualification
3. Occupation and designation …. Occupation and designation
4. Work location, city, state,country … work location, city.state,country
5. Is the job transferable … is the job transferable
6, income per month … income per month desired or immaterial
7, any additional income …. Any additional income
Job, prefer to continue working or not … essential to work, left to spouse choice
after marriage.
Family consists of joint, nuclear/micro ….. joint/nuclear/micro
- preference if any - preference if any
To specify if any restrictions or reservations .. to specify if any restrictions or reservations
Photo 1-2 natural without make-up Photo 1-2 natural, without make-up
Additional information if any, about family. Additional information, if any, about family.
job, manners/attitude, and/or any other job, manners/attitudes and/or any other
specification specifications.
ESSENTIAL; WHOSOEVER IS FILLING UP THIS FORM ABOUT HIM/HER, NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO
SPECIFY CLEARLY ALL FACTS HONESTLY AND CLEARLY AS ON HIS/HER INFORMATION GIVEN
THE SEARCHED SPOUSE WILL BASE HIS/HER WILLINGNESS OR NON-DESIRABILITY/
NON-ACCEPTANCE.
2, EQUALLY IMPORTANT IS THAT DESIRES AND ASPIRATIONS ARE COMPARABLE AND
JUSIFIED AS PER HIS/HER OWN SPECIFICATIONS. IT MUST BE KEPT IN VIEW IF THE
DESIRES ARE ABNORMAL, THE CHOICE WILL BE VERY LIMITED AND RARE.
3 NEED ALSO TO BE KEPT IN MIND RESTRICTIONS/RESERVATIONS IF ANY AND OF
ALL SORTS, WILL MAKE SEARCH DIFFICULT, MORE THE RESERVATIONS/RESTRICTIONS,
MORE DIFFICULT IT WILL BE TO FIND THE PARTNER.
4 HENCE THE MORE REALISTIC ONE IS ABOUT HIMSELF/HERSELF AND ALSO ABOUT HIS/HER
DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS, IT WILL BE EASIRE AND QUICKLY TO FIND THE DESIRED PARTNER.
Next will follow how to verify biodata received with all information as detailed above
and to decide whether to accept the biodata or reject it, and if rejected, for what reasons.
TO MARRY WHEN AND WHEN?
AS NOW DECISION AS TO WHAT THE BOY OR THE GIRL DESIRE HIS/HER
PARTNER TO BE, ONE NEEDS TO JOT DOWN CLEARLY ON PAPER OR IN
THE BIODATA AS DESIGNED HEREUNDER;
BOY OR GIRL
MY SPECIFICATIONS DESIRES
……………………………………………………………………………………………..
1 never married …….. never married
2 divorcee/divorced……… divorcee/divorced
(a) Have child(ren) .. accept child(ren)
(b) No child … accept no child
3 date of birth and time … date of birth and time
4 place of birth …. Place of birth
5 religion, sect. caste… religion, sect.caste/ all communities/religion immaterial
6 horoscope/janampatri yes/no… horoscope/janampatri yes/no
7 manglik/non-manglik/anshik… manglik/non-manglik/anshik
8 house owned/rented … house owned/rented/immaterial
9 in city, state. country …. in city, state, country
10 nationality ….. nationality, immaterial
Physical attributes
1. Height, weight, .. height from…. To……, weight from… to…
2. Complexion weatish/fair/dark … weatish/fair/dark
Habits
1, smoke, diet, drink … smoke, diet, drink
Family status
Affluent, middle. Poor …. Affluent, middle, poor
Occupations
Father, mother, brothers, unmarried sisters … father, mother,brothers, unmarried sisters
Boy or Girl Education and occupation
1. Academic … academic
2. Professional qualifications … professional qualification
3. Occupation and designation …. Occupation and designation
4. Work location, city, state,country … work location, city.state,country
5. Is the job transferable … is the job transferable
6, income per month … income per month desired or immaterial
7, any additional income …. Any additional income
Job, prefer to continue working or not … essential to work, left to spouse choice
after marriage.
Family consists of joint, nuclear/micro ….. joint/nuclear/micro
- preference if any - preference if any
To specify if any restrictions or reservations .. to specify if any restrictions or reservations
Photo 1-2 natural without make-up Photo 1-2 natural, without make-up
Additional information if any, about family. Additional information, if any, about family.
job, manners/attitude, and/or any other job, manners/attitudes and/or any other
specification specifications.
ESSENTIAL; WHOSOEVER IS FILLING UP THIS FORM ABOUT HIM/HER, NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO
SPECIFY CLEARLY ALL FACTS HONESTLY AND CLEARLY AS ON HIS/HER INFORMATION GIVEN
THE SEARCHED SPOUSE WILL BASE HIS/HER WILLINGNESS OR NON-DESIRABILITY/
NON-ACCEPTANCE.
2, EQUALLY IMPORTANT IS THAT DESIRES AND ASPIRATIONS ARE COMPARABLE AND
JUSIFIED AS PER HIS/HER OWN SPECIFICATIONS. IT MUST BE KEPT IN VIEW IF THE
DESIRES ARE ABNORMAL, THE CHOICE WILL BE VERY LIMITED AND RARE.
3 NEED ALSO TO BE KEPT IN MIND RESTRICTIONS/RESERVATIONS IF ANY AND OF
ALL SORTS, WILL MAKE SEARCH DIFFICULT, MORE THE RESERVATIONS/RESTRICTIONS,
MORE DIFFICULT IT WILL BE TO FIND THE PARTNER.
4 HENCE THE MORE REALISTIC ONE IS ABOUT HIMSELF/HERSELF AND ALSO ABOUT HIS/HER
DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS, IT WILL BE EASIRE AND QUICKLY TO FIND THE DESIRED PARTNER.
Next will follow how to verify biodata received with all information as detailed above
and to decide whether to accept the biodata or reject it, and if rejected, for what reasons.
TO MARRY WHEN AND WHEN?
AS NOW DECISION AS TO WHAT THE BOY OR THE GIRL DESIRE HIS/HER
PARTNER TO BE, ONE NEEDS TO JOT DOWN CLEARLY ON PAPER OR IN
THE BIODATA AS DESIGNED HEREUNDER;
BOY OR GIRL
MY SPECIFICATIONS DESIRES
……………………………………………………………………………………………..
1 never married …….. never married
2 divorcee/divorced……… divorcee/divorced
(a) Have child(ren) .. accept child(ren)
(b) No child … accept no child
3 date of birth and time … date of birth and time
4 place of birth …. Place of birth
5 religion, sect. caste… religion, sect.caste/ all communities/religion immaterial
6 horoscope/janampatri yes/no… horoscope/janampatri yes/no
7 manglik/non-manglik/anshik… manglik/non-manglik/anshik
8 house owned/rented … house owned/rented/immaterial
9 in city, state. country …. in city, state, country
10 nationality ….. nationality, immaterial
Physical attributes
1. Height, weight, .. height from…. To……, weight from… to…
2. Complexion weatish/fair/dark … weatish/fair/dark
Habits
1, smoke, diet, drink … smoke, diet, drink
Family status
Affluent, middle. Poor …. Affluent, middle, poor
Occupations
Father, mother, brothers, unmarried sisters … father, mother,brothers, unmarried sisters
Boy or Girl Education and occupation
1. Academic … academic
2. Professional qualifications … professional qualification
3. Occupation and designation …. Occupation and designation
4. Work location, city, state,country … work location, city.state,country
5. Is the job transferable … is the job transferable
6, income per month … income per month desired or immaterial
7, any additional income …. Any additional income
Job, prefer to continue working or not … essential to work, left to spouse choice
after marriage.
Family consists of joint, nuclear/micro ….. joint/nuclear/micro
- preference if any - preference if any
To specify if any restrictions or reservations .. to specify if any restrictions or reservations
Photo 1-2 natural without make-up Photo 1-2 natural, without make-up
Additional information if any, about family. Additional information, if any, about family.
job, manners/attitude, and/or any other job, manners/attitudes and/or any other
specification specifications.
ESSENTIAL; WHOSOEVER IS FILLING UP THIS FORM ABOUT HIM/HER, NEEDS ESSENTIALLY TO
SPECIFY CLEARLY ALL FACTS HONESTLY AND CLEARLY AS ON HIS/HER INFORMATION GIVEN
THE SEARCHED SPOUSE WILL BASE HIS/HER WILLINGNESS OR NON-DESIRABILITY/
NON-ACCEPTANCE.
2, EQUALLY IMPORTANT IS THAT DESIRES AND ASPIRATIONS ARE COMPARABLE AND
JUSIFIED AS PER HIS/HER OWN SPECIFICATIONS. IT MUST BE KEPT IN VIEW IF THE
DESIRES ARE ABNORMAL, THE CHOICE WILL BE VERY LIMITED AND RARE.
3 NEED ALSO TO BE KEPT IN MIND RESTRICTIONS/RESERVATIONS IF ANY AND OF
ALL SORTS, WILL MAKE SEARCH DIFFICULT, MORE THE RESERVATIONS/RESTRICTIONS,
MORE DIFFICULT IT WILL BE TO FIND THE PARTNER.
4 HENCE THE MORE REALISTIC ONE IS ABOUT HIMSELF/HERSELF AND ALSO ABOUT HIS/HER
DESIRES/ASPIRATIONS, IT WILL BE EASIRE AND QUICKLY TO FIND THE DESIRED PARTNER.
Next will follow how to verify biodata received with all information as detailed above
and to decide whether to accept the biodata or reject it, and if rejected, for what reasons.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
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TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
4-10-21
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN
IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW HOW TO CHECK MATCH BIODATA RECEIVED AND IT NEEDS
FOLLOWING EXERCISE:
CAUTION: 1.READ ENTIRE BIODATA, NEVER TO REJECT OR APPROVE ONLY BY SEEING PHOTO
ETC.
2 EXERCISE PATINENCE AND GO THROUGH ALL POINTS CAREFULLY, IF NOW
PATIENCE IS NOT EXERCISED, IT WILL BE DIFFCULT TO KEEP PATIENCE AFTER
MARRIAGE.
3 DO NOT BECOME EMOTIONAL, OVER-JOYED OR DISTRESSED BY GLANCING AT
THE BIODATA SENT.
4 IF NOT APPROVED FOR CERTAIN REASONS, BETTER SPECIFY AND INFORM THE
OFFICE BY MAIL GIVING SPECIFIC REASONS FOR REJECTION, SO THAT THESE REASONS
ARE INCORPORATED IN YOUR BIODATA, AND HEREAFTER TO SEND TO YOU MATCHES
AS SPECIFIED. FOR EXAMPLE YOU DID NOT LIKE THE PHOTO. DO MENTION..
MATCH PHOTOS BEFORE SENDING MATCHES, SUPPOSE YOU ARE MANGLIK,
AND OFFICE HAS SENT NON-MANGLIK, DO SPECIFY, SO THAT THIS AND ANY
OTHER INFORMATION GIVEN IS MENTIONED IN THE REMARKS BOX ALL PARTICULR
REQUIREMENTS YOU WANT THE OFFICE TO FOLLOW.
PROCEDURE;
1 KEEP YOUR BIODATA AGAINST THE MATCH BIODATA RECEIEVED TO ENABLE YOU TO SEE
EACH INFORMATION AS MENTIONED IN YOUR DESIRES AGAINST THE INFORMATION RECEIVED
IN THE MATCH BIODATA
2 AGAINST EACH COLUMN NOTE DOWN YES, NO, QUESTION MARK AS
YOU DECIDE.
3 THERE IS NO NEED TO GET BACK TO THOSE COLUMNS AGAINST WHICH
YOU HAVE PUT YES
4 CONCENTRATE YOUR ATTENTION ON THOSE COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE
GIVEN QUESTION MARK. READ THIS INFORMATION 2-3 TIMES TO FULLY GRASP
THE MEANING AND CLARIFICATION AND THEN DECIDE WHETHER TO PUT IT TO
YES OR NO.
5 NOW GET BACK TO ALL COLUMNS WHERE YOU HAVE INDICATED NO, REFLECT
CLEARLY 2-3 TIMES AS TO WHY YOU ARE DECIDING TO PUT NO AND IF YOUR
DECISION CHANGES TO YES, THEN CHANGE NO TO YES AND IF YOU STICK YOUR
DECISION TO NO, THEN LEAVE IT AS IT IS.
6 NOW YOU ARE REACHING A STAGE WHETHER TO APPROVE OR REJECT THIS MATCH
BIODATA. IT SHALL NEED TO SEE HOW MANY YES YOU HAVE PUT IN AND HOW MANY
NO, AND IF YES ARE SUFFICIENTLY MORE AND YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO TAKE A FINAL DECISION,
BETTER TO CLICK IN THE BIODATA YES, WITH CLEAR THINKING THAT WHEN YOU WILL
BE MEETING THE CONCERNED PARTNER, YOU WILL CONCENTRATE ON THESE POINTS
TO TAKE YOUR DECISION.
7 ONCE YOU HAVE SENT YOUR APPROVAL, THIS APPROVAL MESSAGE WILL GO TO THE
OFFICE AND ALSO THE PERSON WHOSE MATCH BIODATA HAD BEEN SENT TO YOU.
8 FOLLOW UP WITH CONCERNED PERSON WHOM YOU APPROVAL HAS BEEN SENT, CONTINUES
WITH MAIL MESSAGES 3 TIMES.
9 ON 5TH DAY OFFICE CALLS THE CONCERNED PERSON TO GET THE INFORMATION WHETHER
HE/SHE GIVES APPROVAL OR REJECTS SO THAT NECESSARY INFORMATION OF APPROVAL
OR REJECTION IS CONVEYED TO YOU.
10 IF CONTACT IS NOT ESTABLISHED, THEN ON 5TH DAY WILL APPEAR, NO REPLY, HENCE MESSAGE
WILL SHOW, NO REPLY, HENCE NOT INTERESTED.
11 IF APPROVED, THEN OFFICE WILL TAKE CARE TO ARRANGE MEETING AT THEIR OFFICE OR
ASK FOR NOC/NO OBJECTION LETTER FROM BOTH THE PARTIES AND THEREAFTER OFFICE
WILL SHARE ALL CONTACTS VICE VERSA TO BOTH OF YOU TO ESTABLISH CONTACT WITH EACH
OTHER AND GO IN FOR MEETING PROCESS ETC.
12 ESSENTIAL ALSO TO INFORM YOU THAT MARRIAGE BUREAU CALLED IN ABBREVIATION MGNC
HELPS IN ESTABLISHING CONTACTS BETWEEN TWO PARTIES, PARTICIPATES IN MEETINGS,
CONSULTATIONS AND IN NO MANNER INFLUENCES YOUR DECISION FOR APPROVAL/REJECTION,
13. ALL SERVICES ARE BEING RENDERED FREE AND AS SUCH NO GIFT OF ANY SORT IS ACCEPTED.
……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
Illustrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage bureau titled Marriage Guidance New Concept
cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact vasdevloond 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in
www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN ?
AFTER BOTH THE PARTIES HAVE APPROVED EACH OTHER AND ARE GIVEN ALL CONTACTS
BY MGNC VICE VERSA, THE QUESTION ARISES ABOUT HOUSE VISITS, FOR WHICH THE DATE
IS FIXED IN MGNC OFFICE AND/OR CONTACT IS ESTABLISHED BY BOTH THE PARTIES AT THEIR
CONVENIENCE.
VISIT TO THE BOY’S HOUSE BY THE GIRL AND HER FAMILY ETC. IS ESSENTIAL, IT IS EXPLAINED
AND IS GOT AGREED AS IT IS GIRL WHO IS TO RESIDE IN BOY’S HOUSE AND ALSO WITH HIS
FAMILY, HENCE IT BECOMES ESSENTIAL THAT SHE SEES THE AREA, ENVIRONMENTS OF THE
HOUSE, HOW SHE IS RECEIVED, WHAT AND HOW IS THE UPKEEP OF THE HOUSE ALSO HOW
IS THE BEHAVIOUR OF BOY’S FAMILY, MANNERS AND ATTITUDES ETC.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
GIRL AND GIRL’S FAMILY VISIT TO BOY’S HOUSE:
SOON AS GIRL AND GIRL’S FAMILY+ONE-TWO RELATIONS
REACH THE BOY’S HOUSE, EACH ONE IS GENTLY RECEIVED
AND MADE SEATED COMFORTABLY.
THE SEATING IS PLANNED IN A MANNER THAT ALL GENTS
INCUDING THE BOY SIT TOGETHER WHILE ALL LADIES
INCLUDING THE GIRL ARE MADE TO SIT SEPARATELY AT
A LITTLE BIT AWAY OR IN A ROOM.
THEREAFTER SOME SNACKS, TEA, COFFEE, SOFT DRINKS ARE
OFFEED AS PER LIKING OF EACH ONE.
SOON THEREAFTER INTORODUCTION IN BOTH THE GROUPS
TAKES PLACE AND QUESTIONS START BEING ASKED AND REPLIED
IN BOTH THE GROUPS.
AS FOR BOY’S FAMILY MEMBERS AND THIS GENTS GROUP IS
CONCERNED, THE GIRL’S PARENTS INITIATE THE TALK ABOUT
WHAT FATHER, MOTHER, BROTHERS, SISTERS, AND THE RELATIONS
WHO HAPPEN TO BE PRESENT, ARE DOING, WHERE AND WHAT
TYPE OF JOB OR BUSINESS EACH ONE IS ENGAGED IN. THEN ALL
SORTS OF RELATED QUESTIONS AND CONVERSATIONS GO ON.
AFTER THIS, GIRL’S FATHER/BROTHER ETC. SITS NEARBY THE BOY TO
ASK DETAILS ABOUT HIS WORK, ORGANISATION, WHERE IT IS SITUATED
WHAT ARE THE ACTIVITIES OF THE ORGANISATION, AND WHAT IS HIS
SPECIFIC ROLE , FUNCTIONS AND DESIGNATIONS, WHETHER IT IS MNC
OR PRIVATE COMPANY, WHAT SOCIAL BENEFITS THIS ORGANISATION IS
PROVIDING ETC. 2. HOW FAR IS THE PLACE OF WORK AND WHAT MODE
OF TRANSPORT IS USED AND HOW MUCH TIME IT TAKES, IN CURIOSITY
TO KNOW HOW THE GIRL WILL BE GOING TO HER JOB, WHETHER THEY
COULD GO TOGETHER, IF SEPARATELY, HOW MUCH TIME THE TRAVEL WILL
INVOLVE AND WHAT ARE THE MODES OF TRAVEL. 3. FURTHER POSSIBLY
IT IS ALSO ASKED WHETHER THE BOY’S WORK ENTAILS LATE SITTING,
TRAVEL ETC., GET INTO SOME MORE DETAILS 4. WHETHER THERE ARE
WEEKLY OFF , FOR SUNDAYS ONLY OR FOR 2 DAYS, SUNDAYS AND
SATURDAYS. 5. MONTHLY INCOME+ANY OVERTIME/BONUS
ETC. AND TAKEAWAY AMOUNT ETC. 6. REGADING QUALIFICATIONS,
WHETHER THESE WERE DONE REGULAR OR BY CORRESPONDENCE,
DID STUDIES IN WHICH COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY AND WHERE, TO CHECK
AS TO WHAT IS THE REPUTATION THE COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY ETC. 7
WHETHER THE BOY TAKES PART IN HOUSE-HOLD AFFAIRS AND OF
WHAT TYPE. MANY SO MANY QUESTIONS ARE ASKED TO CHECK
MAXIMUM ABOUT THE WORKING, HABITS AND HOBBIES OF THE BOY,
TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IS WRITTEN IN THE BIODATA AND HOW FAR
HIS HABITS, HOBBIES DO MATCH WITH THOSE OF THE GIRL, AND SO ON.
LIKEWISE THE GIRL IS INTRODUCED TO ALL FEMALE MEMBERS OF THE
BOY, WHO POSE ALL SORTS OF QUESTIONS TO HER ABOUT HER STUDIES,
WORK, HOBBIES, COOKING HABITS, WHETHER AFTER WORK, SHE ATTENDS
TO COOKING AND/OR ASSIST HER MOTHER, FAMILY ETC. 2. HOW MANY ARE
THE MEMBERS OF HER FAMILY AND WHAT EACH ONE IS DOING. 3. IN PARTICULAR
WHEN SNACKS ETC. ARE SERVED, THE BOY’S FAMILY REMAIN OBSERVING TO KNOW
HOW SHE IS TAKING THESE AND/OR SHE IS HELPING TO SERVE THEM AND IN WHAT
MANNER. 4. ALL SORTS OF CONVERSATIONS GO ON BY BOY’S MOTHER,
SISTERS ETC. TO KNOW HOW SHE REPLIES AND IN WHAT MANNER AND HOW
AFTER MARRIAGE POSSIBL SHE WILL BE BEHAVING. 5. ON THE OTHER
SIDE OF IT, GIRL AND HER FAMILY REMAIN KEEN TO KNOW WHAT ARE
THE ENVIRONMENTS OF THE HOUSE, WHO DOES THE COOKING, WHO TAKES
CARE OF THE HOUSEHOLDS, WHAT PART THE BOY PLAYS IN THE MANAGEMENT/
AFFAIRS OF THE HOUSE ETC. 6 WHETHER THERE IS ANY MAID ENGAGED BY BOY’S
FAMILY FOR CLEANING, ASSISTING IN COOKING, OR FOR COOKING ETC. ETC.
6 IN PARTICULAR THE GIRL AND HER MOTHER ETC. WOULD OBSERVE WHETHER
THE BOY’S PARENTS ARE IN GOOD HEALTH AND/OR OLD TO BE TAKEN CARE
7 HOUSE CONSISTS OF HOW MANY ROOMS, WHETHER THERE IS SEPARATE
ROOM FOR THE COUPLE TO LIVE IN. 8 SIMULTANEOUSLY TO OBSERVE HOW THE
BOY’S MOTHER AND/OR SISTER BEHAVE AND TALK ABOUT IN CONVERSATION,
QUESTIONS-ANSWERS AND MOST IMPORTANT, TO OBSERVE WHETHER THE
REPLIES AND BEHAVIOUR REFLECT SOME SORT OF DOMINANCE, CONTRADICTIONS
ETC.
NOW AS FOR MGNC PERSON WHOSOEVER GOES TO ASSIST IN THIS MEETING, HIS
JOB REMAINS TO SEE EVERYTHING GOES ON WELL IN CONGENIAL AND POLITE
MANNER AND WHATEVER QUESTIONS ARE BEING ASKED ARE BEING REPLIED
FRANKLY AND HONESTLY, BASED ON THE INFORMATION GIVEN IN THE BIODATA
AS ALSO BY OBSERVATION IN THE DISCUSSIONS. 2. ESSENTIALLY, HE IS TO ENSURE
THAT THE MEETING GOES ON SMOOTHLY, ALL QUESTIONS BY THE GIRL’S FAMILY
ARE ANSWERED FRANKLY AND HONESTLY, WITHOUT ANY IRRITATION, ANGER AND/OR
AVOIDANCE. 3. HE REMAINS DUTY BOUND TO INTERVENE WHEREVER AND WHEN ANY
BLOCKAGE IN CONVERSATION HAPPENS, INTERPRET AND EXPLAIN THE QUESTION/
SUBJECT IN HIS OWN MANNER, TO FACILITATE THE CONVERSATION AND ALSO TO
GET THE ANSWER TO WHAT THE GIRL’S FAMILY HAVE COME TO KNOW ABOUT AND/OR
WANT TO KNOW
MGNC ROLE ENGAGES HIM TO ASK FOR TIME AND DATE OF MEETING BY BOY’S FAMILY
TO GIRL’S HOUSE, WHICH THE GIRL’S FAMILY AFTER DISCUSSION AMONGST THEMSELVES
GIVE IMMEDIATELY OR DECIDE TO GIVE AFTERWARD AFTER DUE DISCUSSION WITH THEIR
DAUGHTER AND AMONGST THE FAMILY MEMBERS AND TO CONFIRM THE TIME AND DATE
AFTER 2-3 DAYS.
MGNC ROLE AFTER THE GIRL’S FAMILY LEAVE THE BOY’S HOUSE TO CHECK CLEARLY AS TO
WHAT IS THEIR VIEW AND HOW COMFORTABLE AND AGREEABLE THEY FEEL ABOUT THIS
MEETING, WHETHER THERE STILL SOME HISTITATIONS AND IF ANY, OF WHAT SORTS WHICH
THE GIRL’S FAMILY WANT TO DISCUSS AMONGST THEM AND THEN GET BACK WITH THE ANSWER.
IF THERE IS REJECTION BY THE GIRL’S FAMILY AND IS CONVEYED, THERE AND THEN AFTER
LEAVING THE HOUSE OF THE BOY, THEN THE MATTER IS CLOSED AND ON THE NEXT DAY
THE MGNC PERSON WHO HAD ASSISTED IN THE MEETING CONVEYS TO THE BOY’S FAMILY
ABOUT THE REJECTIONS AND REASONS THEREFOR AS PRONOUNCED BY THE FAMILY OF THE
GIRL.
IN CASE THE GIRL’S FAMILY DO NOT GIVE ANY COMMITMENT AND NEED TO DISCUSS AMONGST
THEMSELVES AND REPLY LATER IN A DAY OR TWO, MGNC PERSON FOLLOWS IT TO GET THE REPLY TO FIX THE MEETING AND IF NOT APPROVED, TO GET TO KNOW REASONS, AND CONVEY TO THE
FAMILY OF THE GIRL.
IF MEETING GOES WELL AND BOTH PARTIES AGREE TO MOVE ON FURTHER, THE BOY AND BOY’S FAMILY REMAIN KEEN TO VISIT THE HOUSE OF THE GIRL AND AS SUCH TIME AND DATE ARE FIXED THROUGH MGNC FOR VISIT AND MEETING AT GIRL’S HOUSE.
FOR VISIT TO GIRL’S HOUSE SHALL BE DISCUSSED SOON AFTER.
10-10-21
SOON AFTER THE GIRL AND THE GIRL’S FAMILY CONVEY THEIR APPROVAL, AS ALSO THE APPROVAL BY BOY’S FAMILY IS CONVEYED, MGNC STAFF GETS IN TOUCH WITH BOTH THE FAMILIES TO FIX
THE TIME AND DATE FOR VISIT OF THE BOY AND HIS FAMILY.
THE PROCEDURE IN THE GIRL’S HOUSE GOES ON ALMOST IN THE SAME MANNER AS IT HAD HAPPENED IN BOY’S HOUSE EXCEPT
THAT BOY REMAINS CURIOUS TO WATCH AS TO HOW THE GIRL IS SERVING THEM AND HOW SHE
IS CONVERSING AND REPLYING TO VARIOUS QUESTIONS BY MEMBERS OF HIS FAMILY.
THE BOY AND HIS FAMILY THEREAFTER CONCENTRATE TO ASK ABOUT WHAT GIRL’S PARENTS ARE
DOING. HOW MANY ARE BROTHERS AND SISTERS, WHAT THE GIRL IS DOING AND IF WORKING, WHERE ETC. HER TIMINGS OF LEAVING THE HOUSE AND COMING BACK ETC. WE BELIEVE THAT ON RETURN FROM WORK, SHE WILL BE SURELY ASSISTING HER MOTHER IN HOUSEHOLDS, COOKING AND SERVING THE FAMILY MEMBERS OR IT IS TAKEN CARE BY MOTHER, MAID, SISTERS ETC. IN ORDER TO KNOW EXACTLY HOW SHE WILL BE BEHAVING AND ASSISTING AFTER MARRIAGE IN THEIR FAMILY.
IF BOTH THE FAMILIES FEEL SATISFIED AND WANT TO PROCEED FURTHER FOR ENGAGEMENT ETC.
MY VIEWS AND MGNC STAFF MEMBER WHO IS PRESENT, SHALL PROPOSE AND PERUSADE THEM
THAT IT WILL BE BETTER THAT THE BOY AND GIRL BE ALLOWED TO MEET FOR SOME TIME AND
THEN ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY SHOULD BE HELD AS BY THAT TIME BOTH WILL BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER IN MANNERS, ATTITUDES, CUSTOMS, WHAT ARE THE PRINCIPLES OF
EACH HOUSE, WHAT IS THE BEHAVIOUR OF MOTHER IN-LAW AND OTHER MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY
AND VICE VERSA AS ALSO ESSENTIALLY TO KNOW WHO IS IN FACT THE DECIDING AND CONTROLLING PERSON IN THE HOUSE, WHETHER THE BOY IS LISTENED TO AND AGREED UPON
HOW THE HOUSE IS KEPT CLEEN AND TIDY, WHO DOES THE COOKING, MAID, SISTERS ETC. AND
HOW THE BOY RETURNING FROM OFFICE HELPS IN HOUSEHOLD AFFAIRS OR TAKES TO REST AND
RELAX ETC. ALL THIS IS OBSERVED BY VISITS BY THE GIRL TO BOY’S HOUSE TIME TO TIME.
WHEN ALL THESE SEEM TO BE AGREEABLE PRIMARILY BY THE GIRL AND IS DULY ACCEPTED BY THE BOY AS THE GIRL IS IN HER MANNERS, BEHAVIOUR, ATTITUDES, CONVERSATION ETC. ETC. THEN THE TIME AND DATE FOR ENGAGEMENT IS DECIDED.
AS ENGAGEMENT IS THE FIRST STEP FOR THE BOY’S FAMILY TO KNOW HOW THEY WILL BE TREATED,
SERVED AND WHAT HAS BEEN GIVEN FOR MOTHER IN-LAW, FATHER, BOY AND OTHER MEMBERS
OF THE FAMILY AND RELATIONS, IT BECOMES EASIER FOR THE GIRL TO ASK THE BOY ABOUT ALL
THESE FORMALITIES AND DECIDE UPON WHAT IS CONVENIENT AND AGREED BY BOTH THE FAMILIES
AND AS SUCH THE START GOES IN FULL HAPPINESS AND IN ESTABLISHING CLOSE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE TWO FAMILIES.
ESSENTIALLY TO REMEMBER AND NEVER TO IGNORE, IF THE VIEWS OF THE BOY AND GIRL DO NOT
MATCH AND THEY WANT TO BREAK THE RELATIONSHIP, IT IS EASIER TO CUT OFF RELATIONSHIP THAN BEING ASKED SOCIALLY BY FAMILIES, RELATIONS ETC. AS TO WHAT WERE THE REASONS AND
WHY THE ENGAGEMENT HAS BEEN BROKEN.
BESIDES IT GIVES ENOUGH TIME FOR BOTH THE FAMILIES , TO MAKE INQUIRIES AS MUCH AS THEY
CAN RATHER THAN WAITING AND ENGAGING IN INQUIRIES AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY.
ESSENTIALLY ALSO TO MENTION THAT MGNC REMAINS ALOOF AND DOES NOT INVOLVE IN ANY
MANNER FOR GIVE AND TAKE FORMALITIES OF BOTH THE FAMILIES, IT IS THEIR AFFAIR AND IS
LEFT TO THEM ALONE BETWEEN THEM.
12-10-21
DESPITE THE FACT THAT ALL HAS GONE WELL AND BOTH THE FAMILIES GET INCLINED TO DO THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY, I THINK, IT IS AND WILL BE ESSENTIAL FOR THEM TO MAKE ALL SORTS OF INQUIRIES ABOUT THE BOY AND GIRL TO WARD OFF ANY MISHAPPENING AFTERWARD, HENCE
I NEED TO INFORM AS TO WHAT ARE POSSIBLE MEANS TO DO INQUIRIES;
1. THROUGH DETECTIVES; 1. IT IS A VERY EXPENSIVE MODE
2. IS RESORTED TO BY RICH FAMILIES
3. LIKELY TO CREATE MISUNDERSTANDINGS
4. INFORMATION COLLECTED IN MOST OF THE
CASES IS UNRELIABLE, WHICH IS PRONE TO
INFLUENCE, EMOTIONAL FEELING NOT TO
CREATE ANY DOUBT ABOUT GETTING INTO
MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT AND/OR BEING
MISINTERPRETTED, ETC.ETC,
QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHY IT EXISTS AND IS USED?
1. RICH PEOPLE REMAIN ENGAGED IN THEIR
BUSINESS AND/OR OFFICIAL ACTIVITIES
NEITHER FIND MUCH TIME TO MAKE INQUIRIES
NOR GIVE THE DESIRED IMPORTANCE TO INQUIRIES.
2. BELIEVE INQUIRIES BY THESE PROFESSIONALS WILL
BE DONE BETTER.
3. HAVE AFFORDABILITY THUS KEEPING THEM BUSY
WITH THEIR DAILY ROUTINES AND COMMITMENTS.
INQUIRIES THROUGH FAMILY, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS,
WORK-PLACE ETC.
THOSE DAYS ARE GONE WHEN EACH RELATION AND FRIENDS WERE
KEEN AND CONCERNED TO ASSIST THE CONCERNED FAMILY(IES) IN
THEIR INQUIRIES. AT PRESENT INDIVIDUALISM AND WHY AND WHAT
FOR TO GIVE THEIR VIEWS WHICH COULD BE DOUBTED AND MIS-
INTERPRETTED. NEITHER RELATIONS WANT TO GET INVOLVED, OF COURSE,
WITH SOME EXCEPTIONS, NEITHER THE NEIGHBOURS, NOR COLLEAGUES,
NOR BOSSES IN WORKPLACE GIVE THE RIGHT AND CORRECT INFORMATION
FOR REASONS NOT TO SPOIL THEIR RELATION WITH THE PERSON CONCERED,
IN NO WAY BE THOUGHT OF BEING PARTIAL ETC. AND ALSO WHY TO GIVE
ANY CHANCE TO HAMPER THE THINKING OF THE FAMILY CONCERNED,
ALL THIS IS HAPPENING DUE TO INDIVIDUALISM AND NON-INTERFERENCE
IN OTHERS AFFAIRS.
THEN QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHAT OTHER OPTIONS ARE LEFT TO DO INQUIRIES.
1. IT MUST BE OBLIGATORY FOR THE PARENTS ESPECIALLY FATHER, BROTHER(S) ETC.
TO GIVE THE NEEDED IMPORTANCE TO MAKING INQUIRIES DESPITE THEY
BEING BUSY IN THEIR DAY-TO-DAY WORK.
2. IT COULD BE DONE BY FATHER/BROTHER ETC. WILLING TO DO INQUIRIES BEING
PRESENT IN THE NEARABOUT OF THE WORK-PLACE OF THE BOY/GIRL ESPECIALLY
ON FRIDAY TO CHECK WHERE THE BOY/GIRL GO ABOUT AFTER LEAVING
THE OFFICE. ESSENTIAL IT COULD BE DONE SECRETELY AND MOSTLY BY THE
PERSON UNKNOWN TO THE BOY/GIRL.
3. ALSO EASIER ONE IS THAT SUCH A PERSON GETS TO CANTEEN DURING LUNCH
TIME, SITS THERE TO CONSUME SOME SNACK AND KEEP WATCH ON THE BOY/GIRL
IN WHICH COMPANY HE/SHE IS SITTING, WHAT ALL THE COLLEAGUES/FRIENDS
ARE TALKING ABOUT, SMOKING, TAKING WHAT SORT OF DRINKS ETC, ETC.
4. NORMALLY NOW IN THE PRESENT ENVIRONMENTS, BOY/GIRL GET TO CLUBS
TO MEET FRIENDS, RELAX, DANCE AND ENJOY DRINKS MOSTLY. THUS THE PERSON
WHO IS ENGAGING IN TO MAKE INQUIRIES ALSO OPTS TO GET INTO THE SAME
CLUB, WATCH THE BOY/GIRL WHO HE/SHE IS BEHAVING, DANCING WITH WHOM,
IN WHAT MANNER, JUST IN CASUAL WAY OR IN OBNIXIOUS MANNER, ALSO AS
IT IS QUITE COMMON THESE, TO CHECK WHETHER SOME SORTS OF DRUGS ARE
NOT BEING OFFERED AND CONSUMED, HOW THE BOY IS BEHAVING WITH ONE OR
MANY GIRLS AND ALSO HOW THE CONCERNED IS BEHAVING IN THE COMPANY OF
OF ONE OR MANY BOYS.
ALSO TO SIT IN RESTAURANT, SHOP ETC. OR STAND AT SOME PLACE TO WATCH
AND SEE WHEN THE BOY AND GIRL AFTER OFFICE WORK IS RETURNING HIS/HER
HOUSE AND IN WHAT CONDITION, IN AND WITH WHOSE COMPANY AND SUCH
MODE OF INQUIRIS MUST REPEAT FOR SOME DAYS TO ENSURE THAT FACTS AND
INQUIRIES ARE WELL BOUND AND TENABLE.
THESE STEPS NEED TO BE RESORTED AFTER CHECKING WITH THE BOY /GIRL ABOUT
HIS/HER HABBITS ETC.
BESIDES THESE INQUIRIES BY METHODS I HAVE VISUALISED AND ALSO BY MANY MORE AS
THE CONCERNED FAMILY DECIDES TO GO ABOUT. MANNERS AND ATTITUDES OF THE
BOY AND GIRL BECOME VERY IMPORTANT, THESE I HAVE FULLY EXPLAINED HOW TO
CHECK AND VERIFY BY EACH FAMILY BY THEIR HOUSE VISITS.
IF ALL GOES WELL AND CONFIDENCE IS CREATED IN RELATIONSHIP AND INQUIRIES
DONE, BOTH THE FAMILIES GET TO FORMALITIES OF ENGAGEMENT VERY CONVIENTLY
AS HAS BEEN DULY DISCUSSED AND DECIDED BETWEEN THE BOY AND THE GIRL DURING
THEIR COURTSHIP PERIOD.
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TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
BEFORE ENGAGEMENT IS DONE, I THINK IT WILL BE BETTER FOR THE GIRL TO ASK
ANSWERS FROM THE BOY FOR THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS WHICH CREATE PROBLEM
AFTER MARRIAGE DESPITE THE FACT THAT GIRL HAS VISITED BOY’S HOUSE, HAS MET
HIS FAMILY MEMBERS AND FELT SATISFIED AND AS SUCH SHE IS AGREEING TO AHEAD
WITH ENGAGEMENT;
1. IT GENERALLY HAPPENS WHEN THE GIRL AFTER MARRIAGE GETS INTO HER
HUSBAND’S HOUSE AS A WIFE, ALL WHAT HAD BEEN OBSERVED AND THOUGHT
TO BE OK, DRASTICALLY CHANGES IN HER HUSBAND BEHAVIOUR AS ALSO OF
HIS FAMILY MEMBERS, HOW TO DO ASSURE THAT IT WILL NOT HAPPEN.
2. WHAT WILL BE HIS ATTITUDE IN CASE CONFLICTS WITH HIS FAMILY DESPITE
ALL EFFORTS GET AGGRAVATED, AND EXCEPT TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE,
THERE DOES NOT SEEM TO BE ANY SOLUTION, WILL HE OPT TO MOVE OUT
OR STAY BACK WITH HIS FAMILY AND LET ME GO BACK TO MY PARENTS HOUSE
ETC. ETC.
3. GENERALLY IT IS HEARD THAT WHEN CONFLICTS WITH HUSBAND’S FAMILY HAPPEN,
HUSBAND GENERALLY TAKES SIDE OF HIS FAMILY AND IGNORES AND/OR FINDS
FAULT WITH HIS WIFE.
4. IT IS ALSO GENERALLY HEARD AND I AM TOLD THAT THE HUSBAND AFTER MARRIAGE
EXPECTS WIFE TO DO EVERYTHING FOR HIM WHAT HE SAYS AND IN WHATEVER MANNER
HE ASKS FOR, IN SHORT ALL HIS MANNERS AND ATTITUDES CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE.
5. DOES HE BELIEVE IN EQUALITY WITH HIS WIFE AND/OR THINKS IN CERTAIN
MANNERS DIFFERENTLY.
6. DOES HE BELIEVE IN PRIORTISING HIS WIFE WITH RESPECT TO HIS FAMILY
MEMBERS ESPECIALLY WITH REGARD TO HIS FATHER AND MOTHER.
7. WILL I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO CONTINUE WORKING OR LEAVE THE JOB
WHENEVER I WISH SO.
8. REGADING CHILDREN, DO YOU THINK IT IS ESSENTIAL AND IF SO, WILL I ALONE
BE TAKING CARE OR YOU WILL ALSO BE SHARING AND OWNING RESPONSIBILITY
OF ALL SORTS FROM BIRTH TO UPBRINGING, EDUCATION ETC.
9. DO YOU BELIEVE IN FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION, DESPITE THE FACT THAT MY
VIEWS MAY DIFFER WITH YOU AND EVEN MAY CONTRARY TO YOUR VIEWS.
DO YOU BELIEVE IN TOLERATING DIFFERENT VIEWS, GETTING TO DISCUSSION,
AND AGREEING TO WHAT IS RIGHT DESPITE THAT FACT THESE ARE COMING
FROM HIS WIFE.
10. WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ABOUT WOMEN EMPOWERMENT ETC.
11. ARE YOU SHARING HOUSE-HOLD RESPONSIBILITIE NOW IN YOUR HOUSE
AND EVEN IF NOT, WILL YOU BE SHARING WITH IN HOUSE-HOLD AFFAIRS,
ESPECIALLY WHEN WE BOTH WILL BE WORKING.
THERE COULD BE MANY MORE OTHER QUESTIONS WHILE THESE ARE JUST A FEW
INSTANCES AND WHICH GENERALLY CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE.
I THINK IT IS BETTER TO ASK, GET FRANK VIEWS, DISCUSS ALL ASPECTS OF DIFFERENCES
AND FEEL SATISIFIED BY ANSWERS, DISCUSSIONS, PERSUASIONS AND DECISIONS ETC.
ALL SUCH QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS BECOME ESSENTIAL ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE IS A
SOCIAL MARRIAGE, WHICH IS NOT THE CASE IN LOVE MARRIAGE, LIVE-IN ARRANGEMENT
ETC.WHEREIN MARRIAGE IS AGREED ONLY WHEN BOTH BOY AND GIRL ARE FULLY SATISFIED
WITH LOVE, MANNERS, ATTITUDES, ACCOMMODATION AND APPRECIATION ETC.
LOVE MARRIAGE IS BECOMING QUITE CURRENT DUE TO:
1. BECAUSE OF CO-EDUCATION
2. BECAUSE OF GETTING JOBS AWAY FROM THEIR NATIVE
PLACES AND FAMILIES.
3. PLACE OF WORK
4. IN SOCIALISING ETC.
5. MOST IMPORTANT, IN BELIEF AND THINKING THAT WE ARE ADULT AND WE HAVE
TO LIVE OUR LIFE, AS SUCH WE DO NOT NEED ANY INTERFERENCE AND/OR REFUSAL
BY OUR PARENTS AND/OR ACCEPTING THE CHOICE MADE BY OUR PARENTS.
6. IF THE PARENTS GET PERSUADED AND AGREE TO THE CHOICE OF THEIR CHILD’S
SELECTION BY LOVE, ALL CERERMONIES OF SOCIAL MARRIAGE ARE PERFORMED WHICH
ENABLE THE PARENTS TO KEEP UP THEIR PRIDE IN RELATIONS, FRIENDS, INVITEES ETC.
AND ALSO FOR THE BOY AND GIRL TO ENJOY THE CEREMONIOUS CELEBRATIONS, GREETING,
WELL WISHINGS ETC. ETC.
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Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond, founder of Marriage Guidance New
Concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867
vasdevloond@gmail.com www. Marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
14-10-21
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
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Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
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Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
NOW THE BOY TAKES HIS TURN AND ASKS THE GIRL
YOU ARE VERY SHREWD YOU HAVE PUT TO ME MANY
QUESTIONS AND GOT MY ANSWERS BUT YOU HAVE NOT
ASKED ME WHETHER I HAVE ALSO SOME QUESTIONS TO
ASK. THE GIRL SAYS GO AHEAD
1 THE BOY SAYS I LIKE GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW
COOKING, THE GIRL SAYS A LITTLE BIT.
2 THE BOY ASKS NORMALLY GIRLS COOK VERY GOOD
FOOD
3 THE GIRL REPLIES AS I AM WORKING,I FIND LITTLE TIME
TO DO COOKING, MOST OF THE TIME GOES IN STUDIES
AND STRIVING FOR BETTER AND BETTER CAREER.
4 BOY SAYS BUT I LIKE VERY GOOD FOOD, THE GIRL REPLIES
BEFORE MARRIAGE I SHALL MAKE ALL EFFORTS AND HOPE
TO MAKE GOOD FOOD
5 IMMEDIATELY HOWEVER, THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IF YOU LIKE
GOOD FOOD, DO YOU KNOW COOKING OR WHO DOES
COOKING FOR YOU. THE BOY REPLIES MY MOTHER.
6 GIRL ASKS DO YOU HELP HER, HE REPLIES DEFINITELY
7 THEN THE GIRL REPLIES THEN THERE IS NO PROBLEN, YOU WILL
DO REST OF THE HOUSEHOLD JOBS AND I SHALL BE DOING THE
COOKING.
8 IMMEDIATELY THE GIRL ASKS THE BOY IT IS ALL OK, BUT
HOW WILL YOU HELP ME IN YOUR HOUSE IN FRONT OF
YOUR MOTHER AND YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS. FURTHER AS YOUR
MOTHER IS USED TO COOK GOOD FOOD FOR YOU, MAYBE
SHE MAY NOT ALLOW ME TO COOK AND/OR NOT ALLOW YOUTO
PARTICIPATE WITH ME IN COOKING.
9 THE BOY SAYS THERE IS NO PROBLEM, I WILL TELL MY MOTHER
THAT SHE SHOULD PREPARE BREAKFAST AND PREPARE
LUNCH FOR US BOTH AS USUAL AND AFTER RETURN FROM WORK
WE BOTH WILL BE TAKING TO COOKING.
10 THE GIRL ADMIRES AND SAYS VERY GOOD, THIS IS REQUIRED
AFTER MARRIAGE, WHAT IS CALLED DIVISION OF WORK, SHARING
AND CARING, AND ADJUSTING HAPPILY WITH ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
11 THE BOY SAYS OK BUT IT IS NOT ALL. THERE MIGHT ARISE PROBLEMS
ABOUT ADJUSTMENT AND UNDERSTANDING WITH MY FAMILY MEMBERS
12 THE GIRL SAYS WHEN GIRL GETS MARRIED, SHE IS PREPARED FOR ALL
SITUAIONS AND IN EXTREMES ONLY CONFLICTS DO HAPPEN, NOT OTHERWISE.
13 THE BOY ASKS IF UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH, DIFFERENCES
MULTIPLY, FIGHTS HAPPEN, THEN HOW WOULD BEHAVE AND LIKE
ME TO DO.
14 THE GIRL SAYS YOU HAVE AREADY REPLIED TO ME THAT WE WILL
MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
15 THE BOY ASKS IF MY PARENTS ARE OLD AND ARE ALSO ECONOMICALLY
POOR, THEN HOW IT WILL BE POSSIBLE TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE.
16 THE GIRL REPLIES DO NOT WORRY FOR THAT WE WILL MANAGE WITH
THE LEAST POSSIBLE, DO ALL SACRIFICES AND ADJUSTMENTS AND SAVE
SOME MONEY FROM OUR SALARIES FOR YOUR PARENTS AND SHALL TRY
TO MEET THEM FROM TIMETO TIME.
17 THE BOY FEELS VERY HAPPY WITH THE REPLY AND SAYS TO THE GIRL THAT
NOW ALMOST ALL THE ISSSUES WE HAVE SORTED OUT, I HOPE WE SHALL
BE ABLE TO MANAGE OUR MARRIED LIFE VERY HAPPILY.
18 AS SUCH WE MUST ASK OUR PARENTS TO CHECK WITH THEIR PANDITS AND
FINALISE THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY DATE.
19 THE GIRL SAYS IT IS TRUE BUT MANY A TIME CRITICISMS START DURING AND
AFTER THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY IS FINISHED. THE BOY REPLIES I WILL
ASK MY PARENTS AND YOU ALSO, AND WE SHALL MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND
AND ALSO PERSUADE THEM THAT IT IS A CEREMONY FOR US BOTH, THEN WHY
SHOULD THERE BE AN ISSUE OF GIVING MORE OR LESS AND IF SOMEHOW
PERSUASION DOES NOT WORK, WE BOTH WILL POOL IN OUR RESOURCES AND
SHALL DO ALL TO SATISFY THEIR EGO.
CONCLUSION; THIS IS CALLED TO DISCUSS AND SETTLE ON ALMOST ALL TICKLISH
ISSUES WHICH CREATE CONFLICTS AFTER MARRIAGE AND ALSO TO OBSERVE
AND JUDGE HOW EACH ONE AGREES TO ACCOMMODATE EACH OTHER IN
UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION IN VARIOUS SPHERES OF LIFE.
………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Visualised and narrated by vasdevloond founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept
Cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@
Gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
AS PLANNED, ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY WENT ON VERY WELL WITH COMMOTION
AND EMOTIONS, GREETING ALL MEMBERS OF BOTH FAMILIES EACH OTHER, WELCOMING
AND OFFERING BEST WISHES AND CONGRATULATIONS TO THE BOY AND THE GIRL
SEATED TOGETHER, HEARING MANTRAS BEING RECITED BY THE PRIEST.
AFTER A FEW DAYS PASSED OFF IN RECOUNTING AS TO HOW BEST THE ENGAGEMENT
CEREMONY WENT OFF , WHEN THE BOY AND GIRL MET EACH OTHER, ADMIRING AND
CONGRATULATING EACH OTHER BY THEIR DEVICE AND ADVICE TO CONDUCT THE
CEREMONY AS DESIRED BY BOTH THE FAMILIES, BESIDE TALKING ABOUT GLORIOUS
TALES AND RECITING LOVE SONGS, THE GIRL POLITELY AND IN VERY SLOW VOICE TELLS
THE BOY PERHAPS AFTER MARRIAGE. I SHALL PREFER TO LIVE IN A MICRO UNIT.
THE BY ASTONISHINGLY ASKS THE GIRL WHY YOU ARE HURRIEDLY MAKING THIS SUGGESTION,
LET YOU LIVE IN MY HOUSE FOR SOME TIME, SEE HOW YOU ARE WELCOMED AND ADMIRED
AS A UNIQUE DAUGHTER IN-LAW AND IF YOU WILL STILL FEEL UNSATISFIED, THEN WE COULD
THINK OF MOVING TO A MICRO UNIT.
THE GIRL REPLIES PERHAPS YOU ARE MISTAKEN, IT IS GENERALLY SAID AND OBSERVED THAT
SOON AFTER THE DAUGHTER IN-LAW ENTERS THE HOUSE OF HER HUSBAND’S PARENTS, EVERYTHING CHANGES, EVERYONE ESPECIALLY MOTHER IN-LAW TRIES TO FIND FAULTS OF ALL SORTS IN THE DAUGHTER IN-LAW THINKING AND BELIEVING NOW THAT HER SON WILL BE TAKEN AWAY FROM HER BY THIS DAUGHTER IN-LAW AND SLOWLY AND SLOWLY DAUGHTER IN-LAW SHALL
TRY TO REIN IN ALL SYSTEMS OF LIVING AND MANAGING THE HOUSE, IGNORING EACH AND EVERY
MEMBER OF THE HOUSE ESPECIALLY HER MOTHER IN-LAW. REMEMBER IF SOME DIFFERENCES
AND CONFLICTS START IN ANY MANNER TO START WITH, WANTED OR UNWANTED, IT WILL BE VERY DIFFICULT NOT ONLY TO MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE BUT ALSO TO RE-ESTABLISH AMICABLE RELATIONS THEREAFTER.
THE GIRL FURTHER ASKS THE BOY, DO YOU NOT REMEMBER THAT YOU HAD VOLUNTARILY AGREED
TO LIVING IN A MICRO UNIT.
THE BOY PUTS FORWARD WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES OF LIVING IN JOINT FAMILY WHERIN WE OWN THE LEAST RESPONSIBILITIES ESPECIALLY WHEN WE BOTH ARE WORKING, ALSO YOU HAVE SEEN QUITE OFTEN DURING YOUR VISITS TO MY HOUSE AND AT THE TIME OF ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY, HOW ALL MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY HAD BEEN ADMIRING AND LOVING YOU. FURTHER DO ALSO REMEMBER, WE WILL BE FREE TO GO OUT FOR OUTINGS, EXCURSIONS, VACATIONS WITHOUT ANY WORRY BACKWARD ABOUT HOUSEHOLD MANAGEMENT ETC. ETC.
PERHAPS YOU ARE RIGHT IN SOME SENSE, BUT DO NOT WORRY I HAVE ALREADY TOLD YOU THAT
I SHALL TAKE FULL CARE THAT NOTHING UNTOWARD WILL HAPPEN AND THAT YOU WILL ENJOY LIVING IN THE HOUSE WITH ALL THE MEMBERS OF MY FAMILY.
THE GIRL SAYS I HAVE FULL FAITH AND CONFIDENCE IN WHATEVER ASSURANCE YOU ARE GIVING TO
ME BUT IT WILL BE BETTER TO AVOID ANY UNTOWARD HAPPENINGS TAKING PLACE AND THEN
REGRETTING ABOUT OUR DECISION. I PLEAD AND IMPLORE THAT YOU PLEASE AGREE TO WHAT I AM SAYING FOR REASONS;
1. LIVING IN MICRO UNIT WILL HELP US TO UNDERSTAND, ADJUST AND COOPERATE WITH
EACH OTHER BETTER.
2. THERE WILL NOT BE ANY INTERFERENCE OF ANY SORT AND IF EVER IT WILL ARISE WE
WILL BE BOTH ALONE TO REASON OUT, SORT OUT THE DIFFERENCES, AND SHALL DECIDE
WHAT WILL BE THE BEST FOR US BOTH AS A COUPLE.
3. FURTHER I HAVE AGREED THAT WE WILL BE ASSISTING YOUR PARENTS FINANCIALLY AND
BY VISITS AND ALSO INVITING THEM TO JOIN US FOR DINNER, GOING TO MOVIES ETC. ETC, I ASSURE YOU THAT I WILL TAKE ALL CARE THAT YOUR PARENTS REMAIN HAPPY.
4. MOST IMPORTANT, LET IT NOT BE NEGLECTED. WE BOTH AND ALL MEMBERS OF BOTH
FAMILIES SHALL DO ALL TO FURNISH OUR HOUSE WHETHER RENTED OR OWNED, AS
BEST AS THEY COULD AFFORD AND MAKE OUR LIVING MOST COMFORTABLE.
5. ALSO. MANY A TIME AT THE MARRIAGE TIME AND AFTER THE GIRL LEAVES HER HOUSE
FOR HER HUSBAND’S HOUSE, MANY ISSUES AND FAULTS ARE INVOKED, ESPECIALLY
ABOUT RECEPTION AND GIVE AND TAKE ETC. THUS, IF WE DECIDE TO LIVE IN A MICRO
UNIT, THE POSSIBILITY OF SUCH DIFFERENCES/CONFLICTS WILL BE WASHED AWAY, RATHER BOTH WILL DISCUSS WITH OTHER AS TO WHAT EACH FAMILY PLANS AND PROPOSES TO GIVE TO US AND FURNISH OUR HOUSE, MORESO WE WILL BE CONSULTED WHAT WE NEED AND AS SUCH WASTAGE OF DUPLICATION AND/OR NON-UNITILTY ITEMS WILL BE AVOIDED.
THE BOY FEELS CONVINCED AND ALSO BELIEVES THAT IF IN THE INITIAL STAGE I DO NOT STAND TO
MY COMMITMENT, HOW WILL SHE REPOSE CONFIDENCE IN ME AFTER THE MARRIAGE. THUS BOTH
REJOICE AND TALK ABOUT WHAT TYPE OF HOUSE THEY SHOULD LOOK FOR AND IN WHICH LOCALITY, LOCATION ETC. ETC.
NOW THAT ENGAGEMENT HAS PASSED OFF IN ALL FESTIVITIES AND IN THE MANNER WE
BOTH WANTED THIS TO BE, EVERYONE WAS HAPPY AND ALL RELATIONS AND INVITEES
CONGRATULATED AND BLESSED ALL THROUGH, WHAT LOVELY OCCASION, HOW FANTASTIC
WERE THE CELEBRATIONS IN PEACE AND ENJOYMENT, WHAT A WONDERFUL HAD BEEN OUR
PRE-PLANNING, COLLABORATION AND PARTICIPATION.
IN ALL SUCH REMEMBRANCE, LOOKING AT ENGAGEMENT PICS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND
TALKING TO EACH OTHER IN PLEASANTRY AND LOVE, A MONTH OR SO PASSED OFF AND
AND NOW PLANNING FOR LOOKING A HOUSE STARTED.
THE QUESTION STARTED ON 1. WHETHER TO LOCATE NEAR BOY’S PARENTS HOUSE 2. NEAR TO
WORKPLACE OF THE GIRL 3. NEAR TO THE WORKPLACE OF THE BOY 4. SOMEWHERE IN
THE MIDDLE OF WORKPLACES OF THE BOY AND GIRL.
LOOKING UP FOR A HOSUE NEAR THE BOY’S PARENTS HOUSE, THE GIRL SAID IT IS NO GOOD
AS IF WE DECIDE SO, THEN WHY HAVE WE OPTED TO GET TO MICRO UNIT, REASON BEING
THAT THE FARTHER WE WILL BE AWAY FROM YOUR PARENTS, THE HAPPIER WE COULD
ENJOY OUR MARRIED LIFE, WITHOUT INTERFERENCE OF ANY SORT.
LOOKING FOR A PLACE AROUND THE WORKPLACE OF THE BOY, WAS RULED OUT AS IT WILL
BE CUMBERSOME FOR THE GIRL TO TRAVEL AFTER WHOLE DAY, FOR SUCH A LONG DISTANCE.
LOOKING FOR A PLACE IN BETWEEN FOR WORKPLACE OF BOY AND GIRL WAS ALSO RULED OUT
AS THE GIRL SUGGESTED THAT TRAVEL FOR A SHORTER OR LONGER DISTRANCE WAS A TRAVEL
WHICH WILL ADD TO HER FATIGUE AFTER WHOLE DAY WORK AND FURTHER IT WILL GET DIFFICULT
FOR HER TO ATTEND TO THE HOUSEHOLD WORK.
FINALLY, DECISION WAS TAKEN TO LOOK UP FOR A HOUSE WHICH IS NEAR TO THE WORK PLACE OF THE GIRL, THE NEAREST POSSIBLE SO THAT SHE IS NOT TO TRAVEL AFTER OFFICE WORK AND AS SUCH COUND FIND SOME TIME TO LOOK AFTER SOME HOUSEHOLD AFFAIRS LIKE ATTENDING TO COOKING ETC.
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Narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau
NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in
NOW THAT ENOUGH TIME HAS BEEN SPENT IN CHIT CHATS, RECOUNTING HOW PERFECT THE ENGAGEMENT CEREMONY WENT ON AND THAT NOW WE HAVE DECIDED AND LOCATED A HOUSE TO BE RENTED NEAREST TO THE WORKPLACE OF THE GIRL, NOW THE BOY AND GIRL DISCUSS AS TO HOW TO TELL THEIR FAMILIES THAT THEY HAVE RENTED OUT A HOUSE, WOULD LIKE TO LIVE IN THAT HOUSE SOON AFTER THEIR MARRIAGE AND IN ORDER TO AVOID SOME SORT OF SHOCK TO PARENTS ETC. HOW AND IN WHICH MANNER TO EXPLAIN AND PERSUADE THEIR PARENTS TO AGREE TO THEIR DECISION AND HOW TO ASSURE THEM THAT THOUGH AWAY HE/SHE SHALL BE LIVING, BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR WELL BEING. AS SUCH BOTH TRY TO READ LITERATURE WHICH SHALL GIVE THEM INSIGHT AND HIGHLIGHT THE ADVANTAGES OF LIVING IN A MICRO UNIT AND HOW MUCH IT GETS DIFFICULT TO PERSUADE THEIR RESPECTIVE PARENTS. THERE MIGHT ARISE SOME ABUSES, ACCUSATIONS, EXPLANATIONS AND REFUSAL BY EACH FAMILY, THEY BOTH AS SUCH WORK OUT AS TO HOW TO ACCEPT THE ANGER, REFUSAL BY THEIR PARENTS AND TO WORK ON POLITELY AND PATIENTLY ON CITING REASONS AND INSTANCES OF CONFLICTS WHICH MOSTLY HAPPEN SOON AFTER MARRIAGE IN THE FAMILY OF THE BOY AND HOW IT BECOMES DIFFICULT FOR THE GIRL TO ACCEPT AND SETTLE DOWN WITH THE SYSTEMS
AND EXPECTATIONS OF THE BOY’S FAMILY MEMBERS, ESPECIALLY HER MOTHER IN-LAW.
IN SHORT IT IS MOST PRUDENT AND PRATICAL THAT BOY AND GIRL LISTEN TO THE VIEWS OF THEIR
PARENTS, CONSOLE THEM AND TELL THEM THAT THEY HAVE LISTENED TO THEIR VIEWPOINTS AND
SHALL GET BACK IN A FEW DAYS AFTER DISCUSSING AMONGST THEM AS TO WHAT WOULD BE THE
BEST TO LIVE IN HUSBAND’S HOUSE OR TO LIVE SEPARATELY.
THERE IS NO DOUBT, BOTH BOY AND GIRL FEEL ANNOYED AND GRIEVED BY THE ARGUMENTS OF EACH ONE’S PARENTS, DISCUSS AMONST THEMSELVES AS TO HOW TO TIDE OVER THE SITUATION
AND PERSUADE THEIR RESPECTIVE PARENTS BUT REMAIN FIRM TO THEIR DECISION OF LIVING SEPARATE SOON AFTER THEIR MARRIAGE.
ALL SUCH EFFORTS AND PERSUASIONS GO ON FOR SOME TIME AND FINALLY THE PARENTS OF THE
BOY AND GIRL CONCEDE TO ACCEPT THE DEMAND OF THE BOY AND THE GIRL TO LIVE SEPARATELY, A BIT AWAY FROM THEM, BUT DO TAKE ASSURANCE FROM THE BOY AND THE GIRL AS TO HOW AND IN WHAT MANNER THEIR EMOTIONAL LOVE AND BONDAGE AS ALSO THEIR CARE WILL BE ASSURED.
NOW AFTER HAVING SUCCEEDED IN ACCEPTANCE OF THE DEMAND TO LIVE SEPARATE FROM THEIR PARENTS, THE BOY AND GIRL REFLECT AND DISCUSS AS TO HOW THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY WILL BE ORGANISED, WHAT THEY WILL BE NEEDING TO FURNISH THEIR RENTED HOUSE AND WHAT SHOULD BE THE WEARS AND GIFTS FOR THE BOY’S PARENTS ETC. ETC. AND AS SUCH TO DECIDE THAT EACH ONE DOES ASK HIS/HER PARENTS ABOUT THEIR BUDGET FOR THE MARRIAGE AND THEN TO DUSCUSS AMONGST OURSELVES AS TO HOW BEST THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY WILL BE ORGANISED, WHAT ITMES WILL BE NECESSARY TO FURNISH THEIR RENTED HOUSE, WHAT ITEMS OF WEAR, JEWELLERY, GIFTS ETC. NEED TO BE PLANNED TO KEEP BOTH FAMILIES HAPPY AS ALSO TO MANAGE TO GET THOSE ITEMS WHICH ARE NECESSARY TO FURNISH THEIR RENTED HOUSE AND AS SUCH AVOID WASTAGE AND DUPLICATIONS.
How to broach the idea about budget and how to ask parents of each, shall follow in the next write-up.
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NOW THAT MARRIAGE CELEBRATIONS WERE HELD, EVERYTHING WENT WELL, ALL INVITEES GOT BACK HOMES HAPPY, BOTH THE FAMILIES WERE EXCEPTIONALLY PLEASED WITH THE ORGANISATION AND PERFORMANCE OF MARRIAGE WONDERFLLY WELL. FINALY, IT WERE BOTH
THE FAMILIES WITH SOME RELATIVES REMAINED BEHIND TO ATTEND TO AND PARTICIPATE IN
THE GARLAND CEREMONY AS RECITED AND PRONOUNCED BY THE PRIEST(PANDIT). AS IS CUSTOMARY, BEFORE THE SUN RISES, THE BOY AND THE GIRL WITH BOY’S FAMILY WENT TO
BOY’S HOUSE WHERE ALL TYPES OF RITUAL CEREMONIES WERE HELD AND BOTH THE BOY AND THE GIRL WERE ADORED WITH LOVE AND APPRECIATION.
TWO DAYS PASSED IN RECOUNTING THE CELEBRATIONS AND GETTING CALLS OF GREETINGS AND
BLESSINGS FROM RELATIONS AND FRIENDS AROUND, THE BOY AND GIRL WENT FOR HONEYMOON.
HOWEVER BEFORE LEAVING FOR HONEYMOON, THE BOY TOLD HIS FATHER THAT HE MUST GET TO
HIS RENTED HOUSE, AND TAKE AWAY WHATEVER HE THOUGHT COULD BE SUITABLE FOR US AND
WHAT COULD BE CONVENIENT FOR HIM, ESPECIALLY THE MOTHER AND THE FAMILY, AS AFTER
HONEYMOON BOTH BOY AND GIRL WILL GO STRAIGHTAWAY TO THEIR RENTED HOUSE AS THEY
HAVE TO GET TO WORK ON THE NEXT DAY.
ESSENTIAL TO TELL, THAT BOY AND THE GIRL WHILE LEAVING FOR HONEYMOON HAD TAKEN THE
JEWELLERY AND WEARS ETC. WITH THEM AND WHATEVER WERE LEFT AT THE HOUSE WERE THE GIFTS AND SOME ACCESSORIES, BESIDES WHICH WERE GIVEN AND WERE MEANT FOR THE PARENTS, BROTHERS, SISTERS ETC.
AS THE BOY AND GIRL WERE LIVING SEPARATELY AS A NEWLY MARRIED COUPLE, 2-3 YEARS WENT ON ENJOYING, RECOUNTING THE EXPERIENCES, UNDERSTANDING AND ADJUSTING TO EACH OTHER’S HABITS, ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIOUR. THERE HARDLY EXISTED ANY CRITICISM AND INSTEAD CARING AND SHARING BECAME THE MOST IMPORTANT MOTTO, WITHOUT ANY INHIBITION WHETHER THIS OR THAT JOB RELATED TO THE GIRL ALONE AND WAS NOT ATTRIBUTABLE TO THE BOY AT ALL.
ALL THIS HAPPENED BECAUSE THERE WAS NO INTERFERENCE AND NO HESITATION AS BOTH UNDERSTOOD THE IMPLICATIONS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF MARRIAGE, WHICH MEANT CARING AND SHARING AND ACCEPTING EACH OTHER AS THEY WERE HABITUTATED HERETOFORE.
AS IS USUAL, THIS HONEYMOON AND LOVE LAST FOR A FEW YEARS AND THEREAFTER WITH ROUTINE AND THE TWO BEING ALONE ALL THE TIME IN THE SAME ATMOSPHERE AND RESPONSIBILITIES, MONOTONY CREEPS IN. BOTH BOY AND GIRL STARTED FEELING SUFFOCATED AND DECIDED TO FIND SOME ANSWER. BOTH DISCUSSED THAT WHEN BOTH ARE WORKING, HOW MUCH INCONVENIENT IT WILL BE TO BEAR A CHILD AND HOW TO TAKE CARE, WILL EITHER OF THE MOTHER WILL BE CALLED UPON AND IF SO FOR HOW LONG AND WITH HOW MUCH INCONVENIENCE TO THEM AS ALSO IN THE MOTHER’S HOUSE.
BOTH DELIBERATED AND DELIBERATED AND CONCLUDED THAT IF THEY DO NOT GO IN FOR HAVING A CHILD, THE PRESENT MONOTONY, IRRITATION AND FINDING FAULT OF EACH OTHER, MIGHT RESULT IN BREAKING THEIR RELATIONSHIP, WHICH IS SO PRECIOUS TO THEM AND WHICH IS ALSO A COMMITMENT TO THEIR RESPECTIVE FAMILIES FOR HAVING GOT MARRIED BY THEIR SOLE CHOICE ALONE.
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narrated by vasdefloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO for contact: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
WHAT A WONDERFUL NEWS OF COLLABORATION AND UNDERSTANDING. BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE AFTER HAVING DECIDED THAT IT WILL BE BETTER THAT THEY SHOULD HAVE A CHILD TO BETTER THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND ENJOY MARRIED LIFE AND ACCORDINGLY, STARTTHINKING
OVER AS TO WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD, ESPECIALLY WHEN WE BOTH ARE WORKING.
BOTH SIT TO DISCUSS ON THE SUBJECT AND REFLECT ON VARIOUS OPTIONS:
1ST OPTION WHICH SEEMS TO BE EASIER ONE IS TO CALL MOTHER OF HUSBAND OR WIFE
THIS OPTION IS REJECTED ON GROUNDS THAT NOW THEY ARE LIVING SEPARATE FROM THEIR
PARENTS, IT WILL BE DIFFICULT TO ADJUST AND ALSO TO DISLOCATE THEIR MOTHER’S
FAMILY LIFE.
2ND OPTION COMES ABOUT THAT THE WIFE LEAVES HER JOB WHICH ALSO IS REJECTED AS
SHE DOES NOT WANT TO LOSE HER INDEPENDENCE, CAREER MAKING . AND ALSO BE FORCED
TO SQUEEZE IN FINANCIAL RESOURCES ETC.
3rd OPTION REMAINS TO LOOK OUT SOME OUTSIDE SERVICES WHICH GENERALLY ARE AVAILABLE
IN FOLLOWING FORMS:
(a) TO CALL A PROFESSIONAL GIRL FROM SERVICE PROVIDERS
(b) TO LEAVE THE CHILD AT CREST WHO TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN FROM 3 MONTHS ON.
(c) TO LOOK AROUND SOME SCHOOL/COLLEGE GOING GIRL WHO WILL BE TAKING CARE
OF THE CHILD, EARN SOME MONEY TO CONTINUE HER STUDIES
(a)) seemed to be costly affair, (b) to look to reliability, have confidence that baby will be well
taken care © to hand over child to a student who has no experience how to take care of a child
also seemed to be a ticklish one, in exception if such a girl had already been taking care of babies.
FINALLY, THIS QUESTION IS LEFT FOR SOME TIME TO MAKING SPECIFIC INQUIRIES, LOOK TO ALL
PROS AND CONS AND THEN ARRIVE AT THE DECISION WHICH SHALL BE NECESSARY TO ENSURE
THAT THE BABY WILL BE WELL TAKEN CARE MORE OR LESS IN SAME THE MANNER AS HER MOTHER
SHALL BE TAKING CARE OF HER BABY.
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narrated by vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO, for contact
vasdevloond@gmail.com 9811943867 www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com
NOW THE WIFE AFTER HAVING EXPLORED VARIOUS OPTIONS, FINALLY DECIDES TO GET TO
CREST TO SEE AS TO HOW THE STAFF WORKS AND HOW DO THEY TAKE CARE OF VARIOUS
CHILDREN AND FINALLY DECIDES THAT IT WILL BE BETTER TO LEAVE THE BABY IN THE CREST
WHERE ALMOST ALL TYPES OF FACILITIES EXIST.
THUS DECISION IS TAKEN TO CONCEIVE, TAKE PREGNANCY LEAVE FROM THE WORKPLACE
AND GIVES BIRTH TO A BABY. SHE ASSISTED BY HER HUSBAND TAKES MAXIMUM CARE OF
THE BABY BY BREASTFEEDING AND GETTING THE BABY HABITUATED TO THE TIMINGS. HOWEVER
BEFORE GETTING BACK TO HER WORK, AS SHE WAS TO LEAVE THE BABY IN THE CREST, SHE
STARTS GIVING MILK THROUGH NIPPLE FIXED BOTTLE AND MAKES THE BABY HABITUATED
WITH THIS.
HOWEVER BEFORE GETTING BACK TO THE JOB. SHE TAKES THE BABY TO THE CREST TO WATCH
AND TO ENSURE THAT HER BABY DOES NOT FEEL HER ABSENCE AND IS WELL TAKEN CARE IN THE CREST.
SHE AS SUCH ENSURES 1. PREPARES LIST OF THE TIMINGS WHEN TO GIVE MILK TO THE BABY
AT WHAT INTERVALS AND WHEN TO CHANGE THE NAPKINS OF THE BABY AND HOW MANY TIMES
2 PREPARES THE REQUIRED KIT 3. MAKES A LIST OF TIMINGS WHEN THE BABY IS TO
BE GIVEN MILK AND NAPKINS CHANGED AND IF THE BABY WEEPS, WHAT TO GIVE AND HOW
TO CALM 4. TO ENSURE THAT HER BABY IS KEPT IN THE SAME STRATA OF BABIES AS HER BABY
TO SEE THAT THE CARE AND ATMOSPHERE REMAIN CONGENIAL TO HER BABY. AFTER HAVING LEFT
HER BABY IN THE CREST, ON DAILY BASIS, SURPRISINGLY SHE VISITS THE CREST REGULARLY FOR
A WEEK TO ENSURE THAT HER BABY IS WELL TAKEN CARE AND IS WELL HABITUTED IN THE
ATMOSPHERE OF THE CREST.
GETTING BACK TO WORK, AFTER A GAP OF ABOUT 3 MONTHS, SEEMED TO BE QUITE DIFFERENT,
QUITE A FEW COLLEAGUES CHANGED AND BOSS TOO, IT TAKES SOME TIME TO GET BACK TO
PROPER WORKING AND ALSO REMAINING TIME CONSCIOUS TO FINISH THE WORK WELL IN
ADVANCE TO ENABLE HER TO LEAVE THE WORKPLACE AND TO TAKE BACK HER BABY. FINALLY
THE CHILD GROWS UP INTO ABOUT 5 YEARS AGE TO GET TO KINDERGARTEN AND MOTHER ALSO
GETS USED TO ALL SUCH RESPONSIBILITIES IN ADDITION TO HER JOB, ALL IN HAPPINESS AND
JOY. SURPRISING, NEVER THERE AROSE AN ARGUMENT ON DECISION TAKING AND/OR CONFLICTS
OF INTERESTS TO ENGAGE IN ARGUMENTS AND CONFLICTS. LIFE BECOMES MARVELOUS.
TO DO MARRIAGE WHY AND WHEN?
NOW THAT MARRIAGE CELEBRATIONS WERE HELD, EVERYTHING WENT WELL, ALL INVITEES GOT BACK HOMES HAPPY, BOTH THE FAMILIES WERE EXCEPTIONALLY PLEASED WITH THE ORGANISATION AND PERFORMANCE OF MARRIAGE WONDERFLLY WELL. FINALY, IT WERE BOTH
THE FAMILIES WITH SOME RELATIVES REMAINED BEHIND TO ATTEND TO AND PARTICIPATE IN
THE GARLAND CEREMONY AS RECITED AND PRONOUNCED BY THE PRIEST(PANDIT). AS IS CUSTOMARY, BEFORE THE SUN RISES, THE BOY AND THE GIRL WITH BOY’S FAMILY WENT TO
BOY’S HOUSE WHERE ALL TYPES OF RITUAL CEREMONIES WERE HELD AND BOTH THE BOY AND THE GIRL WERE ADORED WITH LOVE AND APPRECIATION.
TWO DAYS PASSED IN RECOUNTING THE CELEBRATIONS AND GETTING CALLS OF GREETINGS AND
BLESSINGS FROM RELATIONS AND FRIENDS AROUND, THE BOY AND GIRL WENT FOR HONEYMOON.
HOWEVER BEFORE LEAVING FOR HONEYMOON, THE BOY TOLD HIS FATHER THAT HE MUST GET TO
HIS RENTED HOUSE, AND TAKE AWAY WHATEVER HE THOUGHT COULD BE SUITABLE FOR US AND
WHAT COULD BE CONVENIENT FOR HIM, ESPECIALLY THE MOTHER AND THE FAMILY, AS AFTER
HONEYMOON BOTH BOY AND GIRL WILL GO STRAIGHTAWAY TO THEIR RENTED HOUSE AS THEY
HAVE TO GET TO WORK ON THE NEXT DAY.
ESSENTIAL TO TELL, THAT BOY AND THE GIRL WHILE LEAVING FOR HONEYMOON HAD TAKEN THE
JEWELLERY AND WEARS ETC. WITH THEM AND WHATEVER WERE LEFT AT THE HOUSE WERE THE GIFTS AND SOME ACCESSORIES, BESIDES WHICH WERE GIVEN AND WERE MEANT FOR THE PARENTS, BROTHERS, SISTERS ETC.
AS THE BOY AND GIRL WERE LIVING SEPARATELY AS A NEWLY MARRIED COUPLE, 2-3 YEARS WENT ON ENJOYING, RECOUNTING THE EXPERIENCES, UNDERSTANDING AND ADJUSTING TO EACH OTHER’S HABITS, ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIOUR. THERE HARDLY EXISTED ANY CRITICISM AND INSTEAD CARING AND SHARING BECAME THE MOST IMPORTANT MOTTO, WITHOUT ANY INHIBITION WHETHER THIS OR THAT JOB RELATED TO THE GIRL ALONE AND WAS NOT ATTRIBUTABLE TO THE BOY AT ALL.
ALL THIS HAPPENED BECAUSE THERE WAS NO INTERFERENCE AND NO HESITATION AS BOTH UNDERSTOOD THE IMPLICATIONS AND RESPONSIBILITIES OF MARRIAGE, WHICH MEANT CARING AND SHARING AND ACCEPTING EACH OTHER AS THEY WERE HABITUTATED HERETOFORE.
AS IS USUAL, THIS HONEYMOON AND LOVE LAST FOR A FEW YEARS AND THEREAFTER WITH ROUTINE AND THE TWO BEING ALONE ALL THE TIME IN THE SAME ATMOSPHERE AND RESPONSIBILITIES, MONOTONY CREEPS IN. BOTH BOY AND GIRL STARTED FEELING SUFFOCATED AND DECIDED TO FIND SOME ANSWER. BOTH DISCUSSED THAT WHEN BOTH ARE WORKING, HOW MUCH INCONVENIENT IT WILL BE TO BEAR A CHILD AND HOW TO TAKE CARE, WILL EITHER OF THE MOTHER WILL BE CALLED UPON AND IF SO FOR HOW LONG AND WITH HOW MUCH INCONVENIENCE TO THEM AS ALSO IN THE MOTHER’S HOUSE.
BOTH DELIBERATED AND DELIBERATED AND CONCLUDED THAT IF THEY DO NOT GO IN FOR HAVING A CHILD, THE PRESENT MONOTONY, IRRITATION AND FINDING FAULT OF EACH OTHER, MIGHT RESULT IN BREAKING THEIR RELATIONSHIP, WHICH IS SO PRECIOUS TO THEM AND WHICH IS ALSO A COMMITMENT TO THEIR RESPECTIVE FAMILIES FOR HAVING GOT MARRIED BY THEIR OWN CHOICE ALONE.
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NOW THAT BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE HAVE GOT RETIRED AND NOW THEY TALK OVER HOW AND IN WHAT MANNER TO SPEND THEIR RETIRED LIFE FROM HARD AND TOO BUSY LIFE TO NO WORK AT ALL. THE WIFE SAYS THAT HE HAVE HEARD THAT OLD AGE IS GOLDEN AGE, LET US DISCUSS, WE HAVE LIVED OUR LIFE VERY WELL HAPPILY. OUR CHAIDREN ARE WELL SETTLED, WE HAVE NO
WORRIES AT ALL EXCEPT TO LOOK AFTER OURSELVES AND ENJOY OUR OLD AGE.
AFTER DISCUSSIONS AND DELIBERATIONS THEY CHALK OUT AS UNDER:
1. HUSBAND SAYS TO HER WIFE, LET YOU GET TO KITY PARTIES WITH YOUR
FRIENDS AND I WILL GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS TO HAVE TEA/COFFEE,
ENJOY SOME TALKS, GOSSIPS ETC.
AND BOTH WE SHALL RETURN HOME IN THE EVENING TO COOK, ENJOY MEALS,
SEE TV, MOBILE PHONES, ENJOY SOME MOVIES AND OLD SONGS,DO SOME
READINGS ETC. ETC. AS PER EACH ONE’S LIKING.
2. PLAN SITE SEEING IN GROUPS IN INDIA AND FOREIGN AS WELL.
3. FIND SOME TIME TO SEE OUR CHILDREN FOR A FEW DAYS BUT NOT MORE
THAN A WEKK, AS OTHERWISE WE WILL BE DISTURBING THEIR LIFE, PERHAPS
MIGHT BE CONSIDERED AS A BURDEN.
4. TAKE TO CERTAIN HOBBIES, YOGA, EXERCISES ETC. DAILY ON ROUTINE BASIS
TO TAKE CARE OF OUR HEALTH.
5. READ SOME LITERATURE TO CHECK UP AS TO HOW TO TAKE CARE OF OUR HEALTH,
WHAT ESSENTIALLY WE HAVE TO EAT AND WHAT NOT.
6. MAKE IT COMPULSORY TO DO OUR MEDICAL CHECK UP ON REGULR BASIS,
7. MOST IMPORTANT, WE DO ENSURE TO ENJOY LIFE AND REMAIN HAPPY, WITH
NO WORRY AT ALL, EXCEPT FROM TIME TO TIME TALKING TO OUR CHILDREN
ABOUT THEIR WELL BEING AND TELLING THEM THAT WE ARE ENJOYING OUR
OLD AGE MARVELOUSLY AND HAPPILY.
8. DO PLAN TO SOCIALISE AS AND WHEN INVITED AND/OR WE INVITE OUR FRIENDS
AND RELATIONS FROM TIME TO TIME TO RECOUNT OUR EXPERIENCE, ENJOY PRESENT
CHANGE OF LIFE, POLITICS ETC. WHATEVER INTERESTS US ALL.
AS SUCH BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE SPEND THEIR LIFE AS PER THEIR PLANNING, ENJOY OLD
AGE PRACTICALLY WITH NO WORRIES EXCEPT TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES, HEALTH AND
WELL BEING.
AS WE ALL KNOW, LIFE HAS ITS OWN CYCLE, WHEN WE ARE BORN, ONE DAY WE ARE TO DIE,
SAME HAPPENED TO COUPLE AS WELL ,BUT SURELY HAVE LEFT TO US THEIR STORY TO US TO REMEMBER THEM AND MAKE EFFORT TO LIVE OUR LIFE LOVINGLY AND HAPPILY, BY DIVESTING OUR RESPONSIBILITIES, AS ALSO BRUSHING US OF ALL WORRIES IF EVER THESE HAPPEN.
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Dear Friends
here ends up the narration of story of a wonderful couple who started their life with full understanding and decided all in togetherness as one unit throughout their life till the old age. Marvelous has been their life and we do feel keen to emulate and enjoy our life in almost in the same manner.
Now all this will go for publication in
2 chapters
1. what are the guide lines to get into
wedlock, how to move on thereafter
to spend the happiest couple life
till old age,
2. this practical story which narrates
how and in what manner the boy
and girl planning to marry have
not only adjust with each other but
also to decide and put into
action their deliberated decisions.
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narrated by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept cost free marriage bureau NGO, to contact
vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.facebook.com
The founder Vas Dev Loond, imbued in his pursuit to do social service to mankind, has decided to launch the Marriage Guidance- New Concept and to fill in the vacuum created by the modern society where grown-ups feel hesitant to make commitment and the parents remain worried to find a compatible and suitable match for their children.
