20 November 2020 07:35

DEAR FRIENDS DO FORGIVE ME WHEN I WRITE SOME VIEWS YOU MAY NEVER TAKE THESE AS PERSONAL, MY LIFE IS MARVELOUS IN ALL ASPECTS AND THERE ARE NO REGETS AT ALL. IN MY WRITINGS THERE ARE OBSERVATIONS,EXPERIENCE, IMAGINATION AND VISION TO ENTERTAIN MY FRIENDS AND AUDIENCE. tks -HAR PARKAR KEE KOSHISH KAR LEE MEIN NAIN -LEKIN BURAHAPA AA HEE GAYA -KARTA HOON KUCHH KAAM AB BHEE -KAR LEE HAI KOSHISH HAR PARKAR KEE MEIN NAI -APYAG (EXERCISE) HAR PARKAR KEE -KHANA BHEE KHATA HOON ACHHA HAR TERAH KA MEIN -ACHHAI VATA VARAN (ENVIRONMENTS) MAIN REHTA HOON MEIN -AGAR BEEMAR BHEE HOTA HOON MEIN KABHEE -ACHHAI SAI ACHHA ILAJ KARVATA HOON MEIN- -PHIR BHEE AFSOOF HAI YEH TO-BURHAPAI KO KISSI TERAH TAAL NAN SAKA MEIN BHEE -KISSI TERAH SAI HEE -AA GAYA HAI BURHAPA AB NIBHANAI KAI LIYAI HEE -DIL KEHTA HAI KUCCH KARTA RAHON MEIN AB BHEE -APNAI KO MASROOF RAKHNAI -AUR KUCHH BACHON KAI LIYAI ADHIK CHHORNAI KAI LIYAI BHEE -MAGAR HAI NAHI AB VOH HIMAT -AUR NAN HAI VOH JAVANI -VAKAT GUZARTA NAHIN -AUR KAAM KUCHH ZYADA KAR SAKTA NAHIN MEIN -SUBHA UT THA HOON MEIN ZAROOR DER SAVEER HEE -MAGAR UTHNAI KA DIL KARTA HEE NAHIN -BEETTEE HAI RAAT SAREE -KARVATAIN BADALTAI HUAI HEE -GEHREE NEEND AATEE HEE NAHIN -AUR BEETTA HAI DIN SARA SUSTEE AUR SUSTEE MAIN AUR SOCH VICHARON MAIN HEE -AUR KABHEE KABHEE KUCHH VAKAT DOSTON KAI SATH BEETANAI MAIN HEE =KUCHH UNSAI SUNNAI MAIN AUR KUCHH SUNANAI MAIN HEE -LEKIN BANAYA HAI MEIN NAIN YEH NIYAM APNA ZAROOR -AARTI KARNI HAI MUJHAI DIN RAAT KO HAR ROZ BENAGA ZAROOR -VAKAT KO BEETANAI KAI LIYAI -AUR APNEE GUZREE KO YAD KARNAI KARNAI MAIN -ZYADA TAR APNEE GHALTIYON KO YAD KARNAI MAIN -AUR SOCHNAI MAIN BHEE -KAISSAI AUR KISS TERAH KARAIN HUM UN GHALTIYON KO MITANAI AUR ACHHAI KAAM KARNAI KAI LIYAI HEE -LEKIN BHIR BHEE KARTAIN HAIN HUM KOSHISH HAR PARKAR KEE APNAI KO KHUSH RAKHNAI KAI LIYAI HEE -AUR BURHAPA BHEE ACHHEE TERAH BEETANAI KAI LIYAI HEE -BAS AB YEHEE HAI ZINDGEE -AUR YAHEE HAI AB BURHAPA BHEE -KARTA HOON HAR VAKAT PRARTHNA MEIN PRABHU SAI HEE -RAKHNA MUJHAI SEHATMAND ZAROOR -BEFIKRI MAIN, KUSHEE MAIN -JANTA KEE SEVA KARTAI HUAI HEE -AUR BEETA LAIN HUM YEH BURHAPA APNA CHAIYN AUR ARAAM MAIN HEE -YAHEE HAI HAMAREE KHAHISH AUR YAHEE HAI ITEJAHA HAMAREE, .................................................................... I have done all types of exercises, I eat well good food, live in good environment, and as and when I have fallen sick, I have been treated well by the well renowned doctors etc. Alas despite all this, old age has set in. Now however the question arises as to what should I do to keep myself busy and save something in addition to give to my children. But now I do not have that energy nor the capacity and I find it too hard to do something hard and taxing one. Eventually I get up late and remain in laziness whole day and as for night is concerned, I never get sound sleep and pass the night by making movement of my body in all directions, feeling uneasy whole night. Despite all this I have made it my principle to pray day and night without exception, find some time to meet my friends, to recount my stories and also to hear from them their past and present life stories. As such I do manage to keep myself busy, happy and thus forget the pains of old age. However I keep myself committed to pray to GOD to keep me healthy, to give me strength never to recall past, give me courage to serve the people and also to remain happy always despite the rigors of old age. -------------------------------------------------narrated by vas dev loond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO, 981943867, www.marriageguidance.inwww.facebook.com -   2nd part 20-11-20 OLD AGE IS THE RECALL AND REMINDER TO ALL THOSE GETTING OLD (1) to put an end to embitions (2) resolve all issues before these get too late (3) ensure that all the children remain emotionally attached, love each other and extend a helping hand if ever need arises by any of them (4) leave an autobiography of one's experience, narrating explicitly and plainly one's achievements, mistakes and failures of life without defending oneself why, how, got influenced by someone,by need of the hour, circumstances, selfishness, fraught by ego and power etc., and should instead highlight one's analysis and put forward if possible one's views as precautions and answers so that one's children do not repeat those mistakes. QUESTION ARISES IS IT EASIER TO ACCOMPLISH ALL THESE OBJECTIVES AND TO ADMIT ONE'S MISTAKES. ANSWER: I feel it is essential to (1) divest oneself of almost all one's responsibilities,(2) must leave a clear message that to realise one's mistakes and to say the truth are essential to correct oneself in life and the earlier it is accepted, the better and result oriented it will be,(3) must accept that he/she has lived his/her life as he/she had wanted and now it is the turn of his/her children to live in the manner and in their views as they want, treat them as adults and let them make their own decisions. IN DIVESTING ONE'S RESPONSIBILITIES AND POWERS, it is,in general essential to build up courage and decide upon, despite provocations, accusations, favouritism etc and ensure that there is no scope left with them to fight and resort to judicial answers, be the broker and be determined to decide about (1) assets clear-cut distribution (2) exhort and act upon creating harmony amongst one's children (3) explain and emphasise that their UNITY AND CARE FOR EACH OTHER WILL BRING THE STRENGTH AND PRIDE OF THE FAMILY, IGNORING THE FAULTS AND WEAKNESSES OF EACH OTHER. How to do it will follow in my next write-up. tks