SHOULD THE HUSBAND BE RUDY, WHAT THE WIFE SHOULD DO? 1. IF IT HAD BEEN THE HABIT OF THE HUSBAND AND THE WIFE HAS BEEN TOLERATING, THEN WHY NOT NOW, HAS THE BEHAVIOUR OF HUSBAND AGGRAVATED, IF SO, WHY, THEN THE WIFE NEEDS TO DISCERN ON HER PART AS TO WHETHER SOMETHING IS WRONG ON HER SIDE OR THERE ARE SOME OTHER CIRCUMSTANCES WHICH HAVE CONTRTRIBUTED TO SUCH A HORRIBLE SITUATION. 2. WIFE BY NATURAL QUALITY EASILY OBSERVES AS TO WHAT IS GOOD OR BAD, IN DAILY LIFE, GENERALLY IT IS THE WIFE WHO TELLS HER HUSBAND WHETHER THE FRIENDS HE IS ASSOCIATED WITH, OR IS IN COMPANY WITH SOMEONE OR SO MANY, SHE QUICKLY OBSERVES AND WARNS THE HUSBAND TO AVOID SUCH A COMPANY LEST SOME DAY SOME DAMAGE MAY HAPPEN. 3. IT IS THEREFORE ESSENTIAL THAT SHE USES HER NATURAL GIFT OF OBSERVING POWER AND ANALYSES AS TO WHAT COULD BE THE REASONS FOR SUCH AN UNBEARABLE BEHAVIOUR OF THE HUSBAND. 4. THIS COULD BE PERHAPS BE DUE TO 1. BAD COMPANY 2. LOSS IN BUSINESS 3. COMMITTED SOME MISCHIEF 4. HAVING BEEN CHIETED DESPITE BEING WARNED BY HIS WIFE 5. COMITTED SOME CRIME, SIN ETC. 6. FIGHT WITH SOME KNOWN AND UNKNOWN ONES FOR NO REASON AT ALL 6. JEALOUSIES AND VICTIMISATION ETC. 7. DISTRESS AND DEPRESSION 8. CONSTANT FAILURES. THERE COULD BE SO MANY OTHER REASONS AS WELL. 5. LET IT NOT BE FORGOTTEN, ANGER HAPPENS WHEN ONE CANNOT CONVENIENTLY EXPRESS WHAT ONE WANTS, IS NOT ALLOWED TO EXPRESS, OR THE CIRCUMSTANCES GET WORST. POSSIBLY INFUSING EXTRA RUDENESS AND LISTENING TO NOTHING AND NONE, PERHAPS MAY BE THE CAUSE THAT HE WANTS TO EXPRESS BUT DOES NOT TAKE THE COURAGE TO EXPRESS FEARING THE SHOUTINGS, REBUTTAL, AS HE PERSISTED TO CONTINUE IN HIS DOINGS DESPITE BEING ADVISED BY HIS WIFE. 6. IF SUCH A SITUATION HAPPENS, THE QUESTION ARISES, AS TO WHAT THE WIFE SHOULD DO? 7. 1ST AND FOREMOST IMPORTANT IS THAT SHE MUST MAINTAIN HER CALMNESS AND PATIENCE, AS ANYTHING WHICH HAS NO SIGNIFANCE IF EVER SAID, WILL BECOME AN EXCUSE FOR THE HUSBAND TO GET MORE RUDY AND AGGRESSIVE. 2ND PREPARE DRINK, IF HER HUSBAND TAKES TO DRINK, NON-VEG IF HE IS NON-VEG LOVER, IN SHORT TO PREPARE ALL WHAT ARE THE LIKINGS OF HER HUSBAND WHICH HE CHERISHES AND ENJOYS THE MOST. 3RD IF SHE HAS CHILDREN, MAKE THE CHILDREN SIT AROUND HER HUSBAND, AS BEING WITH THE CHILDREN, POSSIBLY WILL CONTROL HER HUSBAND’S ANGER, AND LET HIM CALM DOWN AND BE IN COMPANY AND TALK ABOUT HERE AND THERE, EITHER BY THE CHILDREN OR BY THE HUSBAND BY HIMSELF. 4. IF THERE ARE NO CHILDREN, BE IN HIS COMPANY, SERVE HIM VERY JUDICIOUSLY AND CAREFULLY AND REMAIN PATIENT AND CALM TO LET HER HUSBAND TO SAY AND UTTER WHATEVER HE WANTS TO SAY, REMAINING FULLY CONSCIOUS NOT TO SAY ANYTHING TO CONTRADICT RATHER DO ALL EFFORTS TO LISTEN AND WHERE NECESSARY, DO APPRECIATE. 5. IF THE WIFE FEELS COMFORTABLE, SHE CALLS SOME NEAREST AND DEAREST FRIEND OF HER HUSBAND WHO CAN GIVE HIM COMPANY AND ENJOY EACH OTHER’S COMPANY AND TALKS OF EACH ONE’S CHOICE. 6. IT IS POSSIBLE SUCH ACTS WILL CALM DOWN THE HUSBAND AND HELP HIM TO SAY WHAT HE HAD BEEN HIDING AND/OR NOT TAKING COURAGE TO SAY TO HIS WIFE, POSSIBLY HER HUSBAND MAY TELL CONSCIOUSLY OR SUB-CONSCIOUSLY TO HIS FRIEND OR IN THAT LIGHT MOMENT, MAY UTTER A FEW WORDS TO HER AS WELL WITHOUT REALISING PERHAPS AS TO WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT.. 7. THE WIFE KNOWS WELL THAT THE LUST OF MAN FINALLY ENDS IN SEX MAYBE SHE PREPARES SUCH A SITUATION, WHICH ACT GENERALLY TAKES WAY THE ANGER OF THE MAN, AND THEN GIVEN IN THAT SITUATION, THE MAN, IN THIS CASE GETS INCLINED TO DIVULGE WHAT HE HAD BEEN HIDING SO FAR. 8. BE PATIENT TO LISTEN TO ALL WHAT IS BEING SAID, DO ALL TO CONSOLE AND TAKE ALL CARE NOT TO CONTRADICT RATHER DO ALL TO APPRECIATE AND VOLUNTER TO DO ALL BY SITTING TOGETHER TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED, AND WHAT COULD NOW BE THE ANSWER TO MOVE ON TOGETHER TO GET OVER THE ISSUES WHICH HAD BEEN DISTURBING HER HUSBAND. 9. ASSURES HER HUSBANBAND THAT SHE IS THE SOLE WELL-WISHER OF HIM. SOLE AND SOLID CONFIDANT TO ALL WHAT IS TALKED ABOUT AND WHAT HAPPENS, IT IS SHE ALONE WHO KEEPS RIGHTS AND WRONGS AS SECRETS NONE TO KNOW AND EXPLOIT THEIR SITUATION. 10. POLITELY TELLS HIM, REMEMBER ALWAYS THIS SAYING -ALL CRISES BRING AN OPPORTUNITY TO SUFFER TO GROW PROVIDED ONE KEEPS HIS/HER COURAGE AND REMAIN FAST DETERMINED TO REACH SUCCESS. - THE HARDER THE CRISES, THE STRONGER ONE BECOMES TO FACE AND OVERCOME SUCH CRISES AND OBSTACLES WHICH DISCOURAGE AND BLOC THE DETERMINATION AT EACH AND EVERY STEP 11. I AS SUCH HUMBLY REQUEST YOU TO FORGET WHAT HAPPENED, HOW IT HAPPENED, WHY IT HAPPENED, AND INSTEAD LET BOTH OF FIGHT THE CRISES TOGETHER WITH FULL FORCE, UNITY, FAITH AND TRIST IN EACH OTHER, IN FULL UNDERSTANDING AND PARTICIPATION. LET US NOT FORGET, LOVE BRINGS IN SUCCESS, WHILE ANGER, MISTRUST, FIGHTS ETC. BRING IN DESTRUCTION. HOW TO INSPIRE AND INFLUSE CONFIDENCE IN HER HUSBAND BY THE WIFE, I WILL COVER IN MY NEXT WRITING. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Envinsioned by vasdevloond, founder of Marriage Guidance New Concept, cost free marriage bureau, vasdevloond can be reached at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com