THOUGH MICRO UNIT HELPS BETTER THE HUSBAND AND WIFE TO ADJUST THAN IN THE JOINT FAMILY , STILL WE FI


26 March 2023 01:59

THOUGH MICRO UNIT HELPS BETTER THE HAUSAND AND WIFE TO ADJUST THAN BEING IN THE JOINT FAMILY, STILL WE FIND THAT CONFLICTS BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE ON THE RISE AND SO ARE THE DIVORCES. HENCE THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHAT ARE THE REASONS AND WHOW THIS TREND COULD NOT ONLY BE HALTED BUT INSTEAD HELPS IN STRENGTHENING THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE TO LAST FOR LIFE LONG IN HAPPY AND LOVING TOGETHERNESS. MAIN REASONS SEEM TO BE; 1. SOCIETY IS STILL DOMINATED BY MAN, HIS PHYSIQUE, HIS FREE MOVEMENT ETC. ACCEPTS AND TREATS HIM AS A LEADER AND COMMANDER IN SOCIAL LIFE AS COMPARED TO ONE’S WIFE, WHO IS EXPECTED TO FOLLOW, IF NOT THAT, AT LEAST BE SUPPORTIVE OF HER HUSBAND, NEVER DARE OR TRY TO CONTRADICT HIM IN ANY MANNER. 2. UNFORTUNATELY AT PRESENT IT IS NOT HAPPENING DUE TO WOMEN EMPOWERMENT 2. STUDYING AND LIVING AS EQUAL IN SCHOOLS, COLLEGES, UNIVERSITIES, IN DAILY LIFE AS FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES AND EVEN IN KNOWN AND UNKNOWN ONES. 3. MARRIAGE DEMANDS COHABITATION TO LIVE AND LOVE EACH OTHER NEVER TO THINK OF EQUALITY BUT TO ENJOY LIFE AS A MARRIED COUPLE TO STRENGTHEN THEIR RELATIONSHIP. MAKE ALL EFFORTS TO PROGRESS. BRING UP THEIR CHILDREN TO LEARN AND ABIDE BY THE VALUES AND PRINCIPLES OF THEIR PARENTS, ETC. ETC. 4. PARENTS ARE EXPECTED TO BE DUTY BOUND TO EXEMPLIFY THEMSELVES AS MORAL AND LOVE BUILDING COUPLE FOR THEIR CHILDREN, WHICH UNFORTUNATELY IS NOT HAPPENING AND THAT HAS BECOME ONE OF THE MAJOR CAUSE OF CONFLICT BETWEEN THE YOUNG COUPLES 5. SINCE THE WOMAN FORCE IS ALSO TAKING TO ALL DUTIES, RESPONSIBILITIES, DECISION TAKING LIKE MEN, THE WOMAN FOLK AS SUCH NOT ONLY EXPECTS BUT DARES TO EXERT TO BE TREATED AS EQUAL, WHICH IS IN TRANSITION BUT HAS A LONG WAY TO GO WHEN PERHAPS THIS DESIRE OF WOMANFOLK WILL BE FULFILLED. 6. I THINK IT COULD GET TO MORE AND MORE TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE BUT NEVER IN TOTAL ABANDONMENT, DUE TO MAN’S PHYSICAL POWER AND CONTRARY TO THIS, WOMAN LOVES TO BEAR A CHILD AND ASSUMES HER BEING WITH THE CHILD AS SOME SORT OF SECURITY FOR HERSELF AS ALSO IN SOCIAL LIFE. THUS DURING HER PREGNANCY SHE HAS TO DEPEND NECESSARILY ON SOMEONE, HUSBAND BEING THE 1ST WHILE PARENTS ETC. AS THE 2ND ONES. THIS DEPENDENCE DOES CREATE SOME SORT OF WEAKNESS OF THE WOMAN AND EXHIBITS STRENGTH OF MAN, HOWSOEVER LITTLE IT MAY BE, BUT IT DOES EXIST AND IT IS A FACT AS WELL.. 7. HAVING SAID THAT, LET IT NOT BE ASSUMED BY MAN THAT HE IS SUPERIOR TO WOMAN FOR SIMPLE REASON 1. MAN IS A SOCIAL BEING AND AS SUCH CANNOT LIVE ALONE, HE/SHE NEEDS A COMPANY OF SOMEONE, AND IN THAT SEX AND LOVE BECOME THE ALIGNING GOAL, HENCE BOTH OPPOSITE GENDERS COME TOGETHER AND LIVE IN THE FORM OF MARRIAGE AS A MARRIED COUPLE, WHICH NECESSARILY NEEDS AN UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTING OF EACH OTHER AS EACH ONE IS 8. BOTH BOY AND GIRLS LEARN TO ARGUE, EXPLAIN AND INSIST FOR THEIR IDEA WHICH DOES NOT HAPPEN WHEN THEY GET MARRIED WHEREIN THEY DO NOT REALISE THAT IN SCHOOLS AND COLLEGES EACH ONE WAS AS INDIVIDUAL WITH INDIVIDUAL FREEDOM, BUT WHEN MARRIED, THAT INDIVIDUAL FREEDOM NEEDS TO BE CHANGED, CONVERTED INTO TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE AS A SOURCE OF STRENGTH TO LIVE IN TOGETHERNESS AS A MARRIED COUPLE. HENCE IN ANSWER TO SUCH A BEHAVIOUR LIES IN 1. PRE-EDUCATION AND GUIDANCE 2. PARENTS OWN MORAL BUILDING BEHAVIOUR 3. TEACHING AND BRINGING IN EXAMPLES THAT LIVING ALONE IS NOT AN EASY ONE, RATHER NOT ONLY THAT IT TAKES AWAY HEPPINESS, BUT TENDS ALSO TO LONELINESS AND DEPRESSION SOONER OR LATER. 4. IT IS THEREFORE ESSENTIAL THAT THERE MUST BE SYLLABUS IN HIGHER CLASSES IN COLLEGES AND UNIVERSITIES OF MARRIAGE AS TO WHAT IT MEANS, WHY IT IS IMPORTANAT, WHAT ARE ITS FAULTS AND WHAT ARE ITS GAINS. 5. INSTITUTIONS NEED TO BE SET FOR THE PARENTS TO EXPLAIN TO THEM AS TO HOW THEY ARE TO LIVE AS A COUPLE AND HOW THEY HAVE TO BEHAVE WITH THEIR CHILDREN ETC. 6. SOCIAL ORGANISATIONS MUST ALSO STEP IN TO EXPLAIN THE VALUE OF MARRIAGE AND HOW TO LEAD IT TO LOVINGLY MARRIED LIFE. 7. PHILANTHROPISTS AND GOVERNMENT ARE TO GO IN TO GIVE GRANTS TO SUCH INSTITUTIONS, SOCIAL ORGANISATIONS ETC. NEXT WILL BE IF CONFLICTS DO NOT STOP, AND PERHAPS ARE LEADING TOWARDS BREAKING RELATIONS AND END UP RELATIONSHIP BY DIVORCE, WHAT SHOULD BE THE ROLE OF THE PARENTS AND HOW THEY SHOULD BEHAVE. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. envisioned by vasdevloond, to contact at 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com