1. Many boys and girls through FRIENDS RELATIONSHIP:

       - have lost charm of marriage

       - have made aspirants skeptical about finding choicest soulmate

       - being ditched by one or many in his or her friendship relations

       - parents blockage and disapprovals

       - caste and religion hurdles

       -sun-lines/janampatri matching thwarts marriage relationship as

         the aspirant spouses remain in fear and as such abandon their

         liking/love of each other.

       - varying views about beauty, family status, economic and work status

         of each other.

As such in most of the cases, compatibility and love are relegated and

sacrificed for reasons cited above.

2. It is not that above elements are not important, but on the contrary

these are most important to establish life-long relations called MARRIAGE.

Despite all these elements which can’t be ignored, I think, it is equally

Important, if not more, to appreciate and overweigh INNER BEAUTY in

comparison to External Beauty.

3. It is also equally important to analyse yourself and determine as to what

really you are wanting.

4. Keeping the above in view, one doesn’t need to overlook the above criteria,

but one definitely needs to accept that it is rare to find all qualities and aspirations

in the spouse one is wishing and searching for. Hence COMPROMISE is essential

which shall of course depend upon priorities one attaches to one’s final choice and

is ready to sacrifice and forget some pre-determined priorities for the sake of one’s

final decision.

5. It is also necessary to believe and accept in the principle, IF  ONE CAN’T CHANGE

THE OTHER, ONE MUST CHANGE ONESELF, which is comparatively simple and easier.

6. One needs to remember at the same time that:

          i. marriage is essential part of life to live together,

             enjoy and progress despite some inherent

             responsibilities.

        ii. once well thought over and deliberated decision

            is taken, one needs to believe in and act upon to

            make one’s decision a success,

       iii. must also remember that human mind is an x-ray

            of relationship, experiences and reservoir of aspiraions

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            differences of views, expressions and communication

            and these are hard to efface and forget.

       iv. one needs to be conscious of the fact that one has

            verified all factors as one had pre-determined, and

            if some elements were not probed into and/or were

            forgotten or were not considered  significant enough

            to arrive at a final decision, one  needn’t feel disturbed

            in belief that repentance and regrets will undoubtedly

            accelerate to lose what one has got and if break happens,

            it is not necessary that one will get what one is wishing for

            or claim to be experienced for.

        v. hence it is essential to believe that THE FIRST AND

            DELIBERATED CHOICE IS THE BEST AND THE LAST TO

            MAKE MARRIAE WORKABLE AND ENJOYABLE and if

            some differences crop up, to accept those as a REASON

            to reflect and improve upon, and also to believe that

            any and every regret will lead to more damage than good.

SLOGAN: marriage is my last and well deliberated decision and

            it is me and me alone and together if possible, to make my

            marriage a success and enjoy all my dreams and love.

                                                                   Edited by Vas Dev Loond

                                                                      Founder and creator of

                                                                      Marriage Guidance New Concept