WHETHEER TO HAVE CHILD(REN) OR NOT, IF NOT, WHY NOT: IF TO HAVE, WHY AND WHAT FOR: IF TO HAVE, HOW MANY? THESE ARE THE QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED ONE BY ONE: 1. WHETHER TO HAVE CHILDREN, IF YES, WHY AND HOW MANY? Reasons: 1. TO SATISFY MINE AND THINE 2. TO SHARE LOVE, RELATIONSHIP AND WELL BEING 3 TO ASSIST IN PROGRESS AND DEVELOPMENT THE MORE THE HANDS, IF UNITED, PROGRESS GETS QUICKER, SHOWS STRENGTH IN SOCIETY AND IN THE NEIGHBOURHOOD. 4. TO DISCUSS AND EXCHANGE IDEAS IN FULL CONFIDENCE AND IN ONENESS. 5. TO FULFILL ASPIRATIONS AND GOALS WHICH FATHER/PARENTS COULD NOT ACHIEVE THEMSELVES 6. TO BRING NAME, FAME AND PROMINESS TO THE FAMILY 7. TO CARRY FORWARD NAME OF THE PARENTS AND BE KNOWN IN GENERATIONS TO COME 8. TO DEPEND IN OLD AGE, AT TIMES OF DIFFICULTIES, AND /OR ILLNESS ETC. 9. TO PASS PASTIME WITH CHILDREN AND GRAND CHILDREN DURING VACATIONS, EXCURSIONS. CELEBRATIONS LIKE BRITHDAYS, MARRIAGES ETC, FESTIVALS ETC. ETC. 10. IN SHORT, CHILDREN STAND AS SECURITY FOR THE PARENTS AND PRATICALLY AS SOLE SAVIOUR . 11. TO PASS ON INHERITANCE WHICH ALMOST EVERYONE WISHES TO ONE’S OWN CHILDREN, AND PRATICALLY NONE ELSE. NOW QUESTION ARISES, IF TO HAVE CHILD/REN, HOW MANY? 1. MOST OF THE PEOPLE NOW PREFER TO HAVE ONE ONLY SO THAT THEY ARE ABLE TO GIVE GOOD UPBRINGING AND GOOD EDUCATION TO THEIR CHILD.. 2. ALSO IF INHERITANCE AS AND WHEN IT IS TO BE GIVEN, 1STLY THERE IS SOMEONE OF HIS/HER OWN TO GIVE 2. THERE IS NO DISPUTE AS IN CASE OF MORE, CONFLICTS HAPPEN WITH REGARD TO DISTRIBUTION AND MANY A TIME ACCUSATIONS OF FAVOURS ETC. 3. ON THE NEGATIVE SIDE, IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO THE ONE SINGLE CHILD, THE SHOCK AT THAT STAGE BECOMES MOST CRUEL AND UNBEARABLE, PERHAPS AT THAT AGE, THERE IS NO POSSIBILITY TO BEAR A CHILD AND/OR THERE IS NO DESIRE AT ALL. 4. IF SOMEONE GETS A GIRL, NORMALLY WISHES TO HAVE A SON AND IN THAT CASE WISHES TO HAVE ANOTHER CHILLD, UNTIL THEY GET A SON, MOSTLY AFTER 1-2 ATTEMPTS, THEY STOP ALL THEIR EFFORTS AND CONTENT WITH THE SITUATION AS IT EXISTS, EVEN IF THERE IS NO SON. IN MY VIEW IT IS BETTER AND LOGICAL TO HAVE 2 CHILDREN FOR REASONS AS UNDER: 1. IF THERE ARE BOY AND GIRL, RESPECT FOR OPPOSITE IN GENERAL INCULCATES MORE THAN HAVING 2 CHILDREN OF SAME GENDER. 2. IF ANY SHOCKING INCIDENT HAPPENS LIKE, ACCIDENT, DEATH ETC. TO REMAIN CONTENTED WITH ONE, POSSIBLY ONE CAN MANAGE. 3. COUPLE CONSISTS OF 2 OPPOSITE KGENDERS, TO KEEP THE POPULATION IN BALANCE AND IN NUMBER, IT IS DESIREABLE THERE ARE 2 CHILDREN IN REPLACEMENT, IF NOT MORE. NOW THE QUESTION ARISES, BETTER NOT TO HAVE CHILD(REN) BE CONTENTED WITH THEIR COUPLE RELATIONSHIP ALONE, REASONS BEING: 1. NOW CHILDREN FACE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS, HARDLY PARENTS THINK OF DEPENDING ON THEIR CHILDREN AND AS SUCH IT ISN BETTER TO LIVE ON THEIR OWN 2. RESPONSIBILITIES AND DUTIES ARE SO ENORM, THAT THERE IS NO TIME TO LOOK AFTER THE CHILD/CHILDREN AND PROPER UPBRINGING THEREFOR. 3. ESPECIALLY WHEN BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE WORKING AND LIVE ALSO IN MICRO UNIT, AWAY FROM THEIR PARENTS, WORK LOAD AND RESPONSIBILITIES BECOME ALL THE MORE IMORTANT FOR PROGRESS, THAN TO HAVE CHILD/CHILDREN AND NOT BE ABLE TO CARE FULLY OF THEIR CHILD/REN AS WISHED FOR 4. AS MANY A TIME THE HUSBAND AND WIFE REMAIN SO STRESSED THAT THEY DO NOT THINK OF BEARING A CHILD OR EVEN CAN’T BEAR EITHER. 5. SOME ALSO BELIEVE THAT AFTER RETIREMENT IN OLD AGE AS THEY HAVE TO LIVE ON THEIR OWN, WHY NOT NOW AND AS SUCH ENJOY OUR LIFE AS BEST WE CAN AND ALSO PREPARE FOR THE OLD AGE, WHICH SUBJECTS THEM TO LIVE ON THEIR OWN AS A COUPLE AND NOT TO COUNT ON ANYONE ELSE. 6. CHILD/REN CREATE TENSION AND CONFLICTS AS ALSO RESPONSIBILIES, WHY TO GET BOTHERED WITH AND DOOMED WITH, IN CRISIS. 7. FURTHER TREND IS ALSO SETTING IN THAT THERE IS NO SECURITY OF JOB NOR OF THE MARRIAGE TO CONTINUE FOR LIFE LONG, THEN WHY TO HAVE A CHILD AND OWN ADDITIONAL BURDEN IN THESE UNCERTAIN CONDITIONS. 8. AS PREGNACY CREATES LOT OF RESTRICTIONS ON THE FEMALE, SHE DOES NOT FEEL SURE ABOUT THE FIDFELITY AND LOYALTY OF THE HUSBAND DURING THIS PERIOD OF 6 MONTHS IN GENERAL IN PREGNANCY, ALSO WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN, MANY A TIME HUSBAND FEELS NEGLECTED AND MOTHER’S LOVE AND CARE GET SHIFTED MOSTLY TOWARDS HER CHILD, JEALOUSY DEVELOPS, LOVE STARTS AFFECTED FIDELITY OF HUSBAND BECOMES DOUBTFUL, ALSO FRAJILE, BESIDES MOSTLY BODY GETS DESHAPED,HENCE THE DECISION COMES IN NOT TO HAVE A CHILD AT ALL. 9. BESIDES GIRLS/FEMALES THINK THAT THEY ARE VALUED AND RESPECTED SO LONG AS THEY REMAIN BEAUTIFUL , SLIM AND HEALTHY, THEY WILL BE HAVING LOVING DEMAND AND IF THEY LOSE THAT, NONE INCLUDING THEIR HUSBANDS WILL BOTHER FOR THEM EVER. THOSE WHO DO NOT WANT TO BEAR A CHILD AND/OR GIRLS/WIVES OR BOTH DO NOT WANT A CHILD, PERHAPS THEY MAY GO INTO adoption to keep up continuation of their family name for future generations and also to dole out inheritance, besides enjoying love with and for the child. ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… By vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage Bureau, incepted since 2015. Contacts: vasdevloond 9811943867