BRIDE TURNS OUT JEWEL IN THE IN-LAWS HOUSE 22-5-23


22 May 2023 07:08

BRIDE TURNS OUT JEWEL IN IN IN-LAWS HOUSE -WHAT A WONDER, HOW IT HAPPENED, IT IS SURPRISING -WE HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT SUCH A SUCCESSFUL SITUATION -WHILE ON THE CONTRARY HAVE HEARD A LOT OF STORIES ABOUT THE CONFLICTS BETWEEN MOTHER IN-LAW AND THE DAUGHTER IN-LAW -HOW THIS GIRL SUCCEEDED, LET ME NARRATE A FEW INSTANCES AS TO HOW IT IS POSSIBLE AND HOW THIS GIRL NOT ONLY SUCCEEDED IN CREATING AMICABLE RELATIONSHIP BUT WORDERFULLY TURNED AS JEWEL IN IN-LAWS HOUSE, TO BE RESPECTED, APPRECIATED AND LOVED BY ALL MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY. -FIRST OF ALL SHE HAD OBSERVED HOW HER PARENTS BEHAVED WITH EACH OTHER, ALWAYS EXHIBITED RESPECT AND LOVE, NEVER CAME A WORD FROM EITHER SIDE WHY IT WAS NOT DONE -SUCH AN OBSERVATION AND EXPERIENCE STOOD EXEMPLARY TO THIS GIRL -FURTHER CAME IN NARRATION BY HER MOTHER AS TO HOW SHE MANAGED WHEN SHE ENTERED IN HER HUSBAND’S HOUSE AS BRIDE AND HOW SHE WON OVER ALL MEMBERS OF YOUR FATHER’S FAMILY -FURTHER HER MOTHER ALSO ADVISED AS TO HER GIRL WAS TO BEHAVE IN VARIOUS CIRCUMSTANCES -FURTHER MOTHER ALSO BUILT UP HER DAUGHTER’S CONFIDENCE WHEN SHE COULD MANAGE IN COLLEGE WITH SO MANY BOYS GOOD OR BAD, THERE IS NO DOUBT AT ALL IN HER MOTHER’S MIND, THAT HER DAUGHTER WILL NOT BE ABLE TO MANAGE IN HER IN-LAWS HOUSE -FINALLY THIS GIRL STEPPED INTO HER IN-LAWS HOUSE DETERMINED AND IN FULL CONFIDENCE TO SAIL HAPPILY IN ALL GOOD OR BAD SITUATIONS. -NOW COMES IN TO NARRATE HOW THE GIRL MANAGED TO TURN AS JEWEL IN FEW MONTHS IN HER IN-LAWS’ HOUSE. -AS ADVISED BY HER MOTHER, A FEW DAYS SHE OBSERVED AS TO WHAT WERE THE NEEDS, ATTITUDES AND HABITS OF HER HUSBAND, -HEREAFTER VOLUNTARILY AND WILLINGLY SHE STARTED PREPARING AND PROVIDING ALL WHAT HER HUSBAND WANTED, WORDERFULLY PERFECT WITHOUT EVEN ASKING BY HER HUSBAND AND THUS GAINED ALL LOVE AND APPRECIATION FROM HER HUSBAND ALL THE TIME AND IN ALL RESPECTS. -LATER ON AS ADVISED BY HER MOTHER, SHE STARTED PAYING ATTENTION TO HER MOTHER IN-LAW. -SHE WILL HELP HER IN CUTTING VEGETABLE, KEEPING EVERYTHING READY FOR HER MOTHER IN-LAW JUST TO COOK IN THE MANNER AND IN THE FORM SHE WANTED -DURING THE TIME MOTHER IN-LAW WAS BUSY IN COOKING, SHE STARTED PREPARING THE TABLE FOR ALL MEMBERS OF THE HOUSE TO SIT AND ENJOY THE BREALFAST -WHILE MOTHER IN-LAW WAS PREPARING THE FOOD, SHE WAS PICKING AND SERVING THE FOOD TO EACH AND EVERYONE, WITHOUT ANYONE ASKING FOR IT, ALL WENT WELL BY HER OBSERVATION AS TO WHAT EACH ONE HAS FINISHED AND WANTED MORE, SO ON AND SO FORTH. -WHEN EVERYONE LEFT FOR THEIR JOB, HER MOTHER IN-LAW WHO WAS TENSED AL THE TIME WHILE COOKING AND PREPARING THE FOOD, THE MOTHER IN-LAW NATURALLY LOOKED CONSUMED AND TIRED, AND WANTED TO LIE DOWN FOR A WHILE TO TAKE SOME REST -TO A GREAT SURPRISE OF THE MOTHER IN-LAW, THIS GIRL WILL SIT BY HER SIDE DO SOME LIGHT MASSAGE, RECOUNT SOME STORIES HERE AND THERE -ACCOMPANIES HER MOTHER IN-LAW TO ASSIST IN SHOPPING AND TO BUY SOME SMALL GIFTS FOR HER MONTHER IN-LAW FROM TIME TO TIME -WHILE A FEW DAYS PASSED BYE, EACH MALE MEMBER OF THE FAMILY BECAME CURIOUS AND ASKED HER AS TO WHETHER SHE APPRECIATES, DEPRECATES OR FINDS THEIR DISCUSSIONS WORTHLESS. SHE SAID, SHE DID NOT KNOW MUCH ABOUT IT EXCEPT THAT IF SHE WAS ASKED ABOUT A SPECIFIC ISSUE, SHE COULD PERHAPS GIVE HER VIEWS. THE QUESTION HEREAFTER WAS PREPARED WITH REGARD TO WHY THERE ARE DIFFERENCES AND CONFLICTS AMONGST MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY. THE GIRL REQUESTED THEM TO ALLOW HER SOME TIME TO THINK OVER AND THEN COME BACK WITH HER VIEWS. -IN REPLY SHE SAID THAT DIFFERENCES OF VIEWS ARE ESSENTIAL TO REACH A FULLY DELIBERATED DECISION BUT SOMEHOW THE PROBLEM STARTS THAT EVERYONE THINKS HIS VIEWS ARE CORRECT AND BETTER ONES THAN THE OTHERS AND IF NOT APPRECITED OR AGREED TO, EGO FLARES UP, SHOUTING STARTS , FOLLOWED BY ACCUSATIONS OF ALL SORTS. THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT YOU ALL LOVE AND RESPECT EACH OTHER BUT WHEN VIEWS OF ONE OR THE OTHER ARE NOT APPRECIAED OR AGREED, YOU ENGAGE IN SHOUTS AND ACCUSATIONS, WITHOUT CARING TO LOOK INTO THE REASONS AND INTENTIONS THEREOF. - -MY ANSWER WILL BE THAT YOU WRITE DOWN THE ISSUE, LET EACH ONE GET IT, READ IT AND REFLECT ON IT, AFTER THAT, CHANCE IS GIVEN TO EVERYONE TO TALK ABOUT, YOU ALL PATIENTLY LISTEN TO HIM, NEVER GET BACK WITH PRE-MEDIDATED REPLIES, FINALLY THE ONE WHO IS PERHAPS IS THE ELDEST AND IS CONSIDERED TO BE THE BEST ONE TO HANDLE THE SITUATION, IS ASKED TO SUMMARISE VARIOUS VIEWS WITH POSSIBLE ANSWERS FOR AND AGAINST, CALMLY AND COOLLY TAKE TO DISCUSSION , WHICH WILL BE FULLY DELIBERATED, THRASHED OUT WITH ALL POINTS OF DIFFERENCES, AS SUCH THE FINAL DECISION WILL COVER THE VIEWPOINTS OF ALL AND WILL PERHAPS BE TO THE SATISFACTION OF ALL. -IF YOU ALL FEEL CONVINCED, GIVE IT A TRIAL, REMAIN RESPECTFUL, SHUN EGO, SHOUT AND ACCUSE NEVER, I BELIEVE AND I AM SURE YOU ALL WILL BE ABLE TO REACH THE BEST DECISIONS TO THE BENEFIT OF US ALL AND WELFARE OF THIS HOUSE. -WHAT A WONDER, EVERYONE APPRECIATED HER VIEWS AND ASKED HER AS TO HOW SHE COULD OBSERVE OUR BEHAVIOUR AND GIVE THE RIGHT ANSWER. -THE GIRL IN REPLY SAID THAT IN THE BUSINESS WHICH THE PARENTS DO, BY THEIR DISCUSSION IN HOUSE AND TIME TO TIME, THE CHILDREN GETTING TO THE PLACE OF WORK OF THE PARENTS, THEY DO LEARN A LOT AS TO HOW THE BUSINESS IS BEING HANDLED AND IF EVER ANY PROBLEM COMES UP, HOW IT IS TACKLED. IT IS THE SAME PRINCIPLE AND EXPERIENCE I HAVE APPLIED AND AS FOR OBSERVATION IS CONCERNED, IT IS THE NATURAL FACULTY OF THE FEMALE, SUPPLEMENTED WITH PATIENCE, BEST REST RESULTS ARE DERIVED AT. HENCE ALL THIS TIME I PATIENTLY LISTENED, OBSERVED, REMAINED RESPECFUL AND COOL. AND AS SUCH COULD ANSWER BACK IN REPLY TO THE QUESTION YOU WANTED ME TO REFLECT AND ANSWER. -IN SHORT, TURN BY TURN SHE WON THE RESPECT AND LOVE OF ALL AND TURNED AS JEWEL OF THE HOUSE TO BE CONSULTED ON EACH AND EVERY ISSUE OF IMPORTANCE AND/OR OF DIFFERENCES. Conclusion: if the bride keeps patience, uses her faculty to observe, assist each and every one especially the husband and mother in-law, doesn’t mind doing all types of jobs, even the tertiary and undesirable ones, she wins the heart of everyone in the house, not only that she is appreciated as a necessary member of the family, but is preciously loved in the same manner as a jewel is kept in all care and safety. ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… by vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, incepted in 2015 as cost free marriage bureau, contacts: vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com