HUSBAND AND WIFE DISTANCE FROM EACH OTHER TO APPLAUD SELF FREEDOM 26-5-23


26 May 2023 12:03

BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE SITTING APART IN THE BOAT IN THE SEA, WHAT A PATHETIC SITUATION? -HUSBAND TELLS THE DISTANCED WIFE -DO YOU REMEMBER THOSE LOVE DAYS WHEN WE GOT MARRIED -AND CAME HERE TO SPEND HONEYMOON AT THIS PLACE -INCIDENTLY IT IS THE SAME BOAT WHERE WE SAILED TOGETHER -TALKING INNUMERABLE STORIES OF OUR EXPERIENCES ABOUT LOVE -AS ALSO HOW WE WILL BE MANAGING OUR AFFAIRS AFTER RETURN TO THE HOUSE -BESIEDES ALL THIS DO YOU REMEMBER THAT WE MADE COMMITMENT TO SHARE LOVE AND ALSO SHARE ALL RESPONSIBILITIES TOGETHER, NEVER TO ENGAGE IN ARGUMENTS AND/OR CONFLICT THEREOF -LOT OF TIME HAS PASSED OFF IN OWNING RESPONSIBILITIES, BEARING CHILDREN, TAKING CARE OF THEIR UPBRNGING, MAKING ALL SORTS OF SACRIFICES IN ORDER TO GIVE OUR CHILDREN REAL MORAL EXAMPLE OF OUR LOVING RELATIONSHIP, UNDERSTANDING AND ACCOMMODATION. -NOW THAT OUR CHILDREN HAVE NOT ONLY GROWN UP BUT ARE SETTLED ALL IN THEIR OWN WAY. -ALL OUR DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES ARE OVER, AND NOW WE BOTH ARE LEFT ALONE. -LOT OF AGE IS PASSED, NOW THERE IS NOTHING LEFT OF LOVE, THOUGH TIME TO TIME WE TALK ABOUT OUR CHILDREN, WHEREOF OUR VIEWS HAVE STARTED GETTING MORE INTO DIFFERENCES THAN LOVE AND ACCOMMODATION AS THESE USED TO BE. -REGRETFULLY LIFE HAS SHIFTED INTO SLUMBER, CHARM OF LOVE IN LIFE IS GONE FAR AWAY, IF NOT. RATHER TO SAY, HAS DISAPPEARED COMPLETELY. -ALAS, INDIVIDUAL FREEDOM HAS STEPPED IN, ASSUMING ALL THE MORE, MORE IMPORTANCE THAN LIVING IN HAPPINESS AND IN TOGETHERNESS. -IN REPLY THE WIFE TELLS HER DISTANCED HUSBAND, SITTING IN A CORNER AS IF SHE IS UNKNOWN TO HER HUSBAND, NARRATING THE PAST AND RECALLING THAT IT IS THE SAME BOAT WHEREIN WE ENJOYED OUR HONEYMOON -AND NOW IT IS THE SAME BOAT WHERE THERE IS NO LOVE, FRICTIONS ARE MORE AND DISTANCE IN RELATIONSHIP IS GROWING DAY BY DAY. -STARS AND MOON WHICH WERE WELCOMING US AT THAT TIME, HAVE DISAPPEARED UNDER THE HEAVY CLOUDS, FAST WINDS ARE BLOWING. WAVES IN THE SEA SEEM TO BE AGITATED MUCH MORE THAN WE ARE AGITATED NOW, THE BOAT IS GETTING SHAKY IN THIS TURBULANCE AS IF IT IS GOING TO GET DROWNED, LEAVING US WITH NO RESCUE EXCEPT IN ALL REGRETS AND ANGUISH TOWARDS EACH OTHER. -ALL OF A SUDDEN THE WAVES CALMED DOWN, BOAT STARTED SAILING NORMALLY, FEAR WHATEVER IT WAS WENT AWAY -FINALLY THEY REACHED THE SEA SHORE, THEY GOT DOWN SWIFTLY -BOTH TOOK THEIR PATHS APART, PERHAPS IN REGRETS BUT ALL THE WAY THROUG, LAUDING THE FREEDOM AND SELF IDENTITY, MOVING IN COMPLETE DARKNESS, NOTHING WAS VISIBLE, PATH WAS RUFF BUT ALAS, EGO AND PRIDE OF SELF FREEDOM NEVER ALLOWED THEM TO REFLECT ON REALITY NOR IT ALLOWED THEM TO THINK EVER AS TO WHAT BOTH HAV GAINED BY STICKING FIRMLY TO SELF FREEDOM, IGNORING IN REVENGE HOW THEY BOTH WERE ENJOYING THEIR MARRIED LIFE TOGETHER IN IN WORKABLE ARRANGEMENT, IF NOT IN HAPPINESS TIME TO TIME. -FINALLY BOTH WENT TO EXTINCTION AND/OR WHERE THEY WENT, TO ENJOY FREEDOM, OR REGRETS, WE DO NOT KNOW, NEVERTHELESS THE FACT REMAINS THAT THOSE DAYS OF LOVE, HAPPINESS, PLEASANTARIES ETC. ARE GONE AN HAVE DISAPPEARED FOR EVER. Conclusion: it is essential to reflect as to what is important, self freedom or to live in married life despite arguments/conflicts here and there. Will self freedom allow me to live life better alone than living in somewhat troubled married life. I feel self freedom is a false assumption, as one needs necessarily in family, with friends, relations, through walk of life from school days till now, tolerance and acceptance of others as they were, permitted me to live happily to grow and progress, had that not been the case, how I would have lived without family, will I not have got into loneliness and depression etc. etc. 2. In answer for the situation when children are settled in their way and live apart, I think it is essential for both husband and wife to remain busy in activities whatever interest them, to earn money or to do social service and plan also to get to excursions, sight seeing etc. etc. from time to time, I am sure the more one remains busy, lesser are the chances to engage in arguments etc. ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… By vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, incepted in 2015 as cost free marriage bureau. Contacts vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com